Ever wondered how unresolved past traumas may be impacting your relationship? We delve into this intense topic, sharing our insights on open communication, identifying triggers, and the importance of seeking professional help on our podcast, Marriage in Real Life. We've wrapped up an incredible season filled with heartfelt discussions on everything from Getting Your Spouse to Listen to You to Marriage Chore Wars, not to mention celebrating personal family milestones. We've hinted at pop-up sessions this summer, so don't forget to subscribe and hit the notification bell!
Our season recap wouldn't be complete without touching on the aspects that add spice to marriage. Regular dates are crucial to keep the romance alive, and we've shared tons of fun and exciting ideas for 'at home' dates, 'spontaneous' dates, and 'reconnection' dates among others. We've also discussed the joys and challenges of navigating a relationship when one partner has a strong personality. Remember, understanding and respecting your partner's individuality can make all the difference.
As we sign off this season, we leave you with the thought of the importance of public displays of affection in marriage. From sharing simple kisses to holding hands in public, these small gestures can nurture your relationship and strengthen your bond. We're thrilled to keep the conversation going in the next season, so feel free to chime in with your thoughts, or call in and share your experiences. Until then, keep the love alive!
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Ever wondered how unresolved past traumas may be impacting your relationship? We delve into this intense topic, sharing our insights on open communication, identifying triggers, and the importance of seeking professional help on our podcast, Marriage in Real Life. We've wrapped up an incredible season filled with heartfelt discussions on everything from Getting Your Spouse to Listen to You to Marriage Chore Wars, not to mention celebrating personal family milestones. We've hinted at pop-up sessions this summer, so don't forget to subscribe and hit the notification bell!
Our season recap wouldn't be complete without touching on the aspects that add spice to marriage. Regular dates are crucial to keep the romance alive, and we've shared tons of fun and exciting ideas for 'at home' dates, 'spontaneous' dates, and 'reconnection' dates among others. We've also discussed the joys and challenges of navigating a relationship when one partner has a strong personality. Remember, understanding and respecting your partner's individuality can make all the difference.
As we sign off this season, we leave you with the thought of the importance of public displays of affection in marriage. From sharing simple kisses to holding hands in public, these small gestures can nurture your relationship and strengthen your bond. We're thrilled to keep the conversation going in the next season, so feel free to chime in with your thoughts, or call in and share your experiences. Until then, keep the love alive!
Watch the live show on Youtube.
Follow us on Facebook & Instagram at @marriageinreallifepodcast
Hello, welcome to Marriage in Real Life with your host, Eric and Patsy Richards, a podcast about two imperfect people with an imperfect marriage. This podcast aims to help listeners know that God, who is perfect, can use your imperfections and your imperfect marriage to help others. So let's laugh and learn. I hope you enjoy the episode and let's get straight into it.
Speaker 2:Well, welcome to Marriage in Real Life. Yes, yes, i'm Eric and I'm boss lady, all right. Well, we're so glad that you could join us this evening. You know you could have been doing something else, as I say, on prayer and everything else, but we decided to join us and we're so glad that you could join us. I know it's we're late, i know that we're late, but you know we get some little technical difficulties, but we are here and I'm so glad that we're here. This is the last episode of this season, right, last episode of this season. And so we're going to do a season recap of what we talked about this this, um, this season, and but before we go to that, we always talk about things that that happening in three weeks. So it's been three weeks instead of two weeks, right, we celebrated Juneteenth.
Speaker 3:Yeah, all right.
Speaker 2:Juneteenth. All right, that's Juneteenth, all right. So we had Father's Day. Yeah, shout out to all the fathers. Shout out to all the fathers. And know, i redeemed, you know, myself, we went in the top golf, we did, yeah, you know, and, and uh, what, i, nikki, he, she got lucky. You know, begin us luck. But then I put that thing on all y'all. Yeah, i did, i did So I get it. Shout out to Eric and it's shot out. All little fathers out there Shout out, shout out to them. Um, the next, you know the, i guess couldn't. The next thing was kind of sad, but Nikki moving, yeah, yeah, she moved. But no, it's not sad, it's not sad, it's joy. It's joy, it's a new beginning.
Speaker 2:Yeah, it's a new beginning. Uh, you know we had to do like Moses. Uh, mother, you know I always look at that. You know, whenever I you know we're we're always been wants to not keep our children from from leaving or leaving in this, we believe that we've given them the resources to, you know, to be out there on their own and everything like that. We know, and they know, that if, if push comes to shove, they need to come home, they can come home. But we believe that, look, do your own thing. You know, because you know you stand in our house. We got rules, we got all this kind of stuff And then you know, in a bad by them. So, you know, do your own thing. We hear to support you as much as we can, but we want you to do your own thing, and so we've given our kids the tools to to do that, and all of them are successful in what they're doing. All of them are successful.
Speaker 2:I want to give a shout out to all our kids. Well, this is applause for you. All. Right, and in in in that we had a birthday today.
Speaker 2:Erica, my oldest mom, yeah, the second oldest. Yeah, she turned 40 today. Oh Lord, she put it all on Facebook, you know. And then, yeah, yeah, and then my oldest grand, you know, she put it out there to my, you know, my mom turned 40. She old And I said, girl, please, you know, but 40.
Speaker 2:Wow, you know. But I think we look good to have a child 40 and pictures to be 40 in September, right, Right. So I think we look good. So I'm going to give a little applause. I know I'm giving a lot of applause tonight, but this is our last thing, you know. So a lot of applause for us, all right, all right. So, again, this is our last episode and throughout the summer, for this season, this season and throughout the summertime, we may have some pop up sessions. So it's very important that people subscribe, right, hit that bell, be notified. Not only subscribe, but get the notifications so you could be notified when we are live and when what we. You know, because we're going to do pop ups, you know, and we might do a man only session, all right, and hopefully, you know, i don't know about that.
Speaker 3:Oh boy.
Speaker 2:We ain't going to put that on your plate, all right, you know, we, you know, yeah, we don't want to promise anything, you know so, but we're going to have a little little pop up, little pop up sessions, all right. So are we ready to go? We're ready to go. I'm just want to know that, you know, at the end, people can call in and ask questions. If they want, they can call in and ask questions and we'll try to answer the questions, any questions they want. All right, all right, cool, so we're ready to go. Just recap We'll go, let's talk to me.
Speaker 3:I'm going to be at the session concert at Carolina music.
Speaker 2:Carolina music Awesome.
Speaker 3:I got this little hat. It says somewhere not sleeping. Is that what?
Speaker 2:you mean Somewhere not sleeping?
Speaker 3:Yeah, somewhere not sleeping, it's not the case for me because I sleep, i get my rest.
Speaker 2:Somewhere not sleeping.
Speaker 3:So you know, if you guys like this little bucket hat, hit me up in the comments and I, you know, i'll talk to you. Know the person that promotes the concert and get your hat out there.
Speaker 2:Yeah, so you can see seven people watching. Hey, come on, y'all, tell us where you're watching from, give us your name so we can give you a shout out to. You know, throughout the session, throughout the podcast tonight, and so we want to do that. So we see who is that Babe? who is that Namisha? That's your cousin, right? Yeah, all right, good to go, all right. So here's the recap. All right, so we're going to go episode by episode and we're going to just talk a little bit about it And then we're going to go from there. If somebody wants to chime in and get a question right from that episode, or whatever they can call, you know I'm not going to put in, i'm going to, matter of fact, i'm going to put the information right down there where they could call and keep the Marriage in Real Life podcast in so they can dial that number and you know they can go from that way. All right, so here we go. You ready, yes, you ready.
Speaker 3:I'm ready.
Speaker 2:You sound like you ready, all right, all right. So episode two episode two All right, that was the title of that episode was our past does not control our present. Our past does not control our present, and synopsis was that we shared real stories of our childhood and we discovered how we got to let go our past. If we're going to have a successful marriage, you have to let go of your past And there's going to be some things that happen in your past that you got to let go. If it's hard for you to let go, you know and you need help, let go. You got to get the help because you can't take baggage, too much baggage into your marriage, too much past in your marriage, because your past will hinder your future, absolutely Right.
Speaker 2:So it's a lot of things that happen in our past that you know that. We just didn't, we decided not to take it And if we brought it, we dealt with it together. We were open enough with communication that's your word, communication to talk about our past. So we don't have it, so it won't mess with us, right, right. So there's some things again that you can't let your past control your present. I don't, and I know you used to tell the girls all the time, especially, you know, whenever the little young was dating and stuff like that. You know you can't let no young boy destroy your date, right? You remember that, right, right, you can't let them control And so you don't want nobody from your past controlling your future.
Speaker 3:That's right, right there.
Speaker 2:Right.
Speaker 3:Right.
Speaker 2:Because that's what happened in your marriage. Can you imagine, can you imagine something that happened to you 10 years ago, 20 years ago? now it's controlling your marriage, right, wow, just think about that. Just think about a hand that's over your marriage, you and your spouse, and that person is, like a puppeteer, controlling your marriage. And they don't have no idea that that's what they do. They don't, oh man, they don't have no clue that's what they're doing. But you brought it in and you let them control.
Speaker 2:And so there's some things again I mean some things that people went through. You know that. You know molestation, you know abuse and all of these kind of things. Maybe your mother or your father didn't, you know, give you encouragement or whatever it is. You know you have to learn. You have to learn to let it go. It may be hard, but you have to learn to let it go, because if you don't, it will destroy your marriage. It will destroy your marriage. So that was episode two, where we talk about our past. It's not controlled our present. Remember, if you got any questions or any comments, you could call in and we'll hear you, you know. Or you want to put some comments down in the chat? We read the chats, you know, and so you know, throughout the session. So our past is not controlled, our present, you know. I know I talked a lot about what you think about that.
Speaker 3:I totally agree. I totally agree. You can't. You can't expect for a person to be the way that you are. And I was in a conversation with my oldest daughter this morning and I said you know, we punish ourselves because the person that we thought that person was, or the behavior that we thought that person would exhibit, they didn't exhibit. And so then we'd be like why do I keep falling into this cycle over and over again? Take people for who they are. When they show you who they are, take them for who they are. And if you have to step back and put your guys up to protect yourself, then you need to step back and put your guys up to protect yourself.
Speaker 3:You don't want to give anybody the type of control that they could cause mishap in your day to day life, not just your marriages in any relationship.
Speaker 5:Okay all right.
Speaker 3:And allow them to have that power, and a lot of times they have no clue that you have given it. You've given them that power. Wow, that's it, because now they're controlling your every thought and everything And I'm not a good person.
Speaker 3:This happened to me because you know if you don't let it go, in every relationship that you get involved in, you're going to bring that stuff in the past how you felt, how hurt you was you know you're going to bring that to the forefront. So, whoever you're with, they got a whole bunch, they got to deal with it to prove to you that I'm not that person. I love you, if you allow me to love you. You got to take the barriers down.
Speaker 2:All right. So we got a person calling in, all right, we got a wireless caller, all right. All right. All right, tell us your name and you call in and you got a minute to tell us your question and your comment. All right, get your name and where you call them, hey.
Speaker 5:Let me show them calling from Fort Lauderdale.
Speaker 2:Okay, Hey how you doing.
Speaker 5:I'm fine.
Speaker 2:All right, go ahead.
Speaker 5:I have a problem with leaving things in the past, in my past, my childhood. I didn't have a very childhood and I would often, you know, have problems with my stuff And the abuse of things that he faced with me and my childhood. It's like sometimes when I'm on the phone, i'm talking to me now and he makes suggestions about my kids and stuff. Like that I always it always triggered me back to my childhood And then I have to try to figure out like he's not being, he's not trying to like talk about them in a bad way, but when he's saying something about them I always go back to my childhood and it reminds me of what I went through with my stuff back.
Speaker 2:Okay, well, let me ask.
Speaker 5:One of them is love Well go ahead.
Speaker 2:Yeah, so have you talked to your husband about what happened in the past? Would you step that?
Speaker 5:I've talked to him about a lot of stuff in the past. I keep wanting to leave it in the past and I really want to discuss it.
Speaker 2:Okay.
Speaker 5:Well, it takes effect on me and my day-to-day basis too.
Speaker 2:Right, i would suggest. This is just me. I would suggest. I know your husband probably saying I don't want to deal with it. I don't want to deal with it. But that's something he has to deal with. And you have to deal with it together Because again you brought it in and to me I mean, if you brought it in, there's something that we got to deal with, communicate, we got to talk about it, and so either we're going to talk about it together or we're going to go to therapy and talk about it. There's some kind of but you have to deal with it, you must deal with it because again you're talking about your kids And so eventually it will just go over to argument.
Speaker 2:And even though it's a double kid, i mean, you're still dealing with it. And so what happened with your stepdad, with whatever happened? you have to like pass this, like pass it on. I say you have to learn first, you have to forgive, and you have to forgive by faith. You may not want to forgive, you may have hurt you or whatever, but again, why would you want, why would look at this He can, he something that happened way in the past. Now it's controlling your marriage of you and your husband, because it happened way in the past, and so you have to end it.
Speaker 2:As an individual. You must come to grips with it, you must deal with it, and how you deal with it is through prayer therapy. However, you want to do it and talk about it, but you got to talk about it, you got to deal with it. Either you're going to deal with it by yourself and say I'll give it to God and say God is all yours and don't pick it up, because even as I was preaching yesterday, whatever you are anxious about, paul says to give it to God because he cares for you. Right, and so you may be able to do it by yourself, but if you can't do it by yourself. You need to seek some kind of outside source to help you deal with that, because it's going to constantly be a trigger. And then you have to deal with your husband has to deal with it, because those words will constantly trigger that. That's got anything to add, babe.
Speaker 3:And I would just add to that, like, if a certain tone that he uses when he's speaking to the children, or a certain body language, whatever, no, it's not.
Speaker 5:It's not, it's not, and my thing is it's not the tone, like my husband is real my impression right? It's just as he complained about the stuff that they do and I need to say this to them and I need to say that to them And I think maybe it's just that I'm overwhelmed with a lot of stuff, but it's been sending me back to my childhood.
Speaker 2:What I would say is something is triggering you.
Speaker 2:If it's something is triggering you and you have to find out what is triggering you. You got to find out because if it's reminding you of something, something, if it's a color, if it's a smell, if it's a tone, if it's words, something is triggering you. And until you find out what is triggering you, you can't really talk to your husband about it, because he don't know, you don't know and he won't know. Right, you have to find out what is triggering you. You got to Because, again, you're going to go and tell him saying well, babe, you said this and he tried not to say it, but it comes up again. He said well, i thought you said, if I don't say this, it won't trigger you. But you said well, i thought it was that.
Speaker 2:No, find out what is triggering you and deal with what is triggering you through therapy, through communication with your husband, however, but you have to find out what is triggering. So that's what I said. I said that you need to maybe go to a therapist, a clinical therapist, and say, okay, i'm having this and that therapist work out Okay, this is what's triggering. Maybe that's what's triggering and go about it that way, all right, all right.
Speaker 5:I found it.
Speaker 2:All right, find that trigger.
Speaker 3:Thank you for calling me.
Speaker 2:Thank you for calling.
Speaker 5:All right, love you guys.
Speaker 2:Love you too. Bye-bye, all right, good, that's good, that's good. Right there, all right, all right. So that was episode two. Finding that, that's good. We got to find that trigger, whatever it is, whatever it is, whatever that trigger is, and we got to deal with it because it again. you see how that is something that happened. She's grown and it's affecting this, but she don't know what it is, so she has to figure out what it is. All right, so that's episode two, all right, so episode three.
Speaker 2:Episode three was how to give your marriage a fresh start in the new year. How to give your marriage a fresh start, and we started out. We gave five things. It's from Dr Les and Leslie Parrott And it was five things.
Speaker 2:One, who start the year with gratitude, so you're thanking God, you know, you're thanking God for allowing you to have your marriage another year, or you're going into another year, or whatever. And you, you know, to me, i think, the more the gratitude, not only the marriage, but I thank God for my spouse, you know, putting up with me, you know, with your beautiful smile, you know. And so I give God gratitude, you know of, i give God gratitude for allowing me to be the best husband that I could be, you know. Thank you, baby. And so you, you got to give thanks, thanks, you know, the scripture says in everything, give thanks, even in your bad situations, good situations. But man started with gratitude, grata, with gratitude, you know. And then to make prayer, and daily. Make prayer a daily priority, make prayer a daily priority, and that should be something that we should be doing daily. Praying, you know, pray without ceasing. Don't stop praying, praying for yourself, praying for your spouse, praying for your children, praying for your family. And and look, i want to say this to all of the guys don't rely on your wife to pray. You should be the leader in praying, you know. She should know, she should be able to feel that you're praying. She should be able to know because if you we're going to talk about it if you want, if you want your wife to be submissive to you, you got to follow God. You got to follow God And so, yeah, so that's number two.
Speaker 2:Number three is forgive the past years wrong. There we go that word again forgive the past past years wrong, whatever happened in the year, let's, let's, let's write it down. We know what happened. Let's forgive it. We can't take what happened in 2022 into 2023. We can't take what 23 to 24 as far as the wrongs That's what it says the past year wrongs. You know, you, you talk to me or you looked at me like that Well, i take that into 23,. You know, we had an argument about it, we talked about it and then we dealt with it, and so we don't need to bring it in, all right. Number four learn something new about one another. Have you learned anything new about me? Yeah, i learned everything. I learned something new about you. I learned something new about you every day, baby. Yeah, you, you, you are a person that I need to learn.
Speaker 3:Daily on a daily basis.
Speaker 2:I got to learn something about you. No, you know. No, i, you know it's good to you know to learn to learn something. You know, even like your favorite colors changed. Yeah, your favorite colors change, see, i noticed that, you know, certain you might still purple now, i just don't understand it, but I just didn't really make up my mind. Yeah, yeah, yeah, all right. Well, you, you, you found out what I liked. You know, you learned something that I've you found out what I like to see you dressed in. Yes, yes, mm, hmm, yeah, yeah, Yeah, that's all right, all right, all right.
Speaker 2:So learn something new about one another. And then, number five commit to better love. Commit to better love, you know, say this year, say, hey, are we going to do this together? You know, we're going to love one another. Whatever it is we're going to, we're going to do it. All right, that was number, that was episode three. That was episode three. Episode two out of the past is not controlled, our present. It was a three how to give your marriage a fresh start. And the episode four is marriage, chore wars. Now, that was a good one. That was, that was a good one Marriage, chore wars, And, and, and this synopsis was chores tend to be frequent and a hot source of arguments in relationship.
Speaker 2:Look, if you are, if you're watching us, if you're watching us tonight, if you believe that chores can be a frequent and hot source of argument, i want you to put it in the chat. I want you to put it in the chat, just put it. They're putting a yes, chores are chores, are it chores? are it? you know, the husband have to do something, the wife have to do something, chores are it? and say chores can be a frequent source of of, you know, arguments. Look, we came up with three things, dr Paris. There's three things. We discussed three or the four tips to alleviate chore wars. That's what we did. Number one we said what communicate? Well, you can't do nothing without communication.
Speaker 3:You just get a piece of paper, go down the middle, put him or on one side and give him up divvy it up And you communicate.
Speaker 2:And you sit down and you communicate right, that is what you do. You know we used to have the chore for the kids. You know, and it's a you may have to do that, put it, put it on a big sheet Monday, you what? take out the dishes. You do this, you do that, you do that. Am I doing better than taking out the dishes? I know that was okay.
Speaker 3:Good You're not leaving dishes in a dishwasher for days and weeks.
Speaker 2:All right, that's good. All right, good to go, good to go? All right, let people know what you're feeling it and what you're doing good at, right, okay, all right. So, communication, whether or not you're doing good, doing good on who is good and willing Yeah, focus on good, who's good and willing, who's good at doing certain things and who's willing to do it right. You good at washing the car and you're willing to do it to wash the car, right, right, i'm good at what? Grocery shopping, and I'm willing to go grocery shopping. Thank you, i appreciate it. Okay, good, good, are you buying? Okay, all right, all right.
Speaker 2:And then the third one was don't criticize. Right, you did criticize me in the beginning. What are you talking about? You remember you criticized me on how to fold towels? Oh, yeah, you could. Yeah, i kind of suck at that, all right, so you so give me a. You know, you brought a towel and I want you to show everybody how you I think it's on your side over there I want you to show everybody how you fold the towels. All right, i'm going to take this mic and I'm going to put it on this side here, all right, all right, i'm going to put this. Don't put this camera. I'm going to make it wide for everybody to see. All right, can you see? Yeah, we can see, okay.
Speaker 3:So this is a towel, right. Fold it in half. You see, it's that, it's half mark, everybody can see that, right. And when you lay it down, you take the open part and you fold it halfway. Then you take the second part and you fold it over. So now you got a nice clean towel sticking out, and then you roll it three times One, oh, wait a minute. One, two, wait a minute.
Speaker 2:So you're not a full on top I don't want to knock anything over. Okay.
Speaker 3:One, two, three. So now you got a nice round towel. Then when you put it on the shelf you put the open part into the wall, so you have that nice round, you know towel.
Speaker 2:That's perfect. That's perfect Okay.
Speaker 3:All right, that's how you fold it. No, that's not how you fold it.
Speaker 2:That's not how I fold it. You know I fold it better like that now, but that's not how. But you used to criticize me when I didn't fold it I apologize.
Speaker 3:Thank you for trying, but you know you just didn't get it right So well okay, all right, all right, all right.
Speaker 2:Now for those who you know, hey, if you are watching and you understood how she fold her towels, do everybody agree on a on the folding of the towels like that, or does somebody else have a a different way of folding the towels And I could tell you this if you have a different way, it's perfect, Oh geez. I know it's made, was going to agree with you, but it's the truth.
Speaker 3:If you have this floppy towel, the flaps just hanging out of the closet doesn't look neat. You know I do my best.
Speaker 2:All right, i'm going to give you, i'm going to give you applause for that.
Speaker 3:Thank you, to make sure your home is nice and neat, and you know I do that, i do it for you, all right.
Speaker 2:Now, if somebody, if somebody, if somebody wanted to show us how to fold a towel, i got a way that I could put. I could send it for them to join us and they get it for the towels. All right, all right, so yeah, so one is communicate, one is focused on who is good and willing, and three is don't criticize, all right, but as marriage, trod bars and again they could be a source where people are going at it. You're, your spouse are going at it and we don't want to. We don't want that to happen. We don't want people to be going at it. All right, number five. Number five was dating while married, dating while married. You should date while you married.
Speaker 3:Yes.
Speaker 2:Right.
Speaker 3:I totally agree, you got married. Well, i stopped now.
Speaker 2:You're right.
Speaker 3:You're on a roll.
Speaker 2:Uh-huh. So look it says, depending on the season of your marriage, maintaining a habit of dating will require varying amounts of effort and intention. Right, So it's going to require you to do something. You know because you know we, we often, you know time and and all of this kind of stuff. We don't have it and you know, you know how they go. So you got to be intentional about dating. Every Friday night is what.
Speaker 3:Day, night.
Speaker 2:Day, night.
Speaker 3:You know, of course we have those spontaneous dates on a Tuesday. We're like Hey, let's go to the movies. Yeah, yeah, let's do something like that.
Speaker 2:Right, right, um, you know Bishop, even our past Bishop no, look, if he, if he called on Friday night, he always say late, i got to get permission to talk to me through you, And then he'll say I ain't gonna be, i ain't gonna hold him long, i ain't gonna hold him long, and then my banks be like why are you calling him? You know it's dating, i know it's dating, Mm. Hmm, all right. So these are some um, this is right here. These are some six dates to master throughout the marriage. All right, all right. So number one is the at home date. We've done that where we just sat at home, watched the movie, ordered food or made our own food and did a basket. We've even done it in our bedroom. Yeah Right, man, we just kick out King, because you know, king always want our food.
Speaker 3:Yeah, he do.
Speaker 2:Yeah, i'm telling you, king boy, i tell you.
Speaker 3:Anybody want a dog She?
Speaker 2:ain't gonna give the King up. She ain't gonna give she talking all that drugs, she ain't gonna give King up. So you got to have the at home date, do it at home, whatever it is you know at home. Now, the at home date is something that you're doing together And it's very nice when I tell you we, especially men, we can't rely on our wife to to do the at home date. I mean, can you imagine how do you feel when you, when I do that at home date, when I come up with everything?
Speaker 3:Relief That I don't have to plan it And I just I think it's just so adorable when you call me in the middle of the day, where it can be like Hey, what's up you? And I'll be like nothing was done with you. He's like I want to take you out tonight.
Speaker 3:I'll be like I'm going on a date and everybody be like going on a date. I was like my husband just asked me out again. I think it's really sweet when it's definitely spontaneous, Like I want you to, you know, get all dressed up and the curty and stuff like that. So my whole after that phone call hang up. The whole time, from the time that I hang up with you until the time I get home, i'm thinking about okay, what am I going to wear? What am I going to look at. What am I going for tonight?
Speaker 3:You know how I want to get his attention tonight. So I think that's, that's great And it makes me feel good Yeah.
Speaker 2:And I think we had a picture of the Valentine's date that I did Remember when I was in the Vag Man that was sweet, that was sweet.
Speaker 2:All right. So number two. Number one is the at home date. Number two is the spontaneous date. You know, again a Tuesday or whatever spontaneous, let's do something. Number three is the reconnection date, and that was all about, you know, maybe we been, you know, working too much dealing with the kids, you know, and we just need to reconnect, or maybe we had an argument that that we really didn't solve, or we solved it, but we just got mad at each other. We just need to reconnect, we need to just, we need to just cut everything out, no phones, whatever. We just need to have this reconnection where we sit down, not talk about problems but just talk about how much I love you. Oh, all right, now, all right. So so the the.
Speaker 2:The next one is the something new date, where you do something different. You know, a let's, let's go skydiving, or when, like when you, when we, even for Father's Day, when you took me to Topgolf we never had done it before, not Father's Day, but Mother's Day I mean you said I want to go Topgolf, like I'm like what, topgolf? but it's something new, and it was just me and you out there, you know, and so that was, that was something good. Number five is the tradition date. You know well, it's, you know this. This, this, this go out. You know, like every Friday night, it's like a tradition.
Speaker 2:You know, what I mean. So something like that. Number six is the all out date, where you just go all out, you get extravagant, you dress up, you know you do everything. Man, you go to the most expensive restaurant that you can afford, absolutely Right, you know somebody. You know what I told you about the restaurants. When you go to restaurants, if you have to go and look at the price tag of how much a meal costs, then that's the wrong restaurant to go to, right, you know, we're trying to do the all out date. I'm telling you you better go to windows Five and $6 bag now, you know, because there are some very nice restaurants out there that are are affordable.
Speaker 2:Right, right.
Speaker 3:Right. You mean don't throw any towel just yet, don't, don't hit over the windows, right.
Speaker 2:Right, all right. So that was the. That was the dating while married. That's dating while married. Give you some, give it be giving y'all some tips. Number six. Number six is fight for your marriage.
Speaker 3:Absolutely.
Speaker 2:Now, that was that. that episode was the most downloaded episode in the podcast. Yes, fight for your marriage. I think, that's the only All right.
Speaker 3:Yes, and it's so important.
Speaker 2:It is so important because things will come in life will happen where you have to, like again, be attention on your dates. And we know we're Christians and so we believe that the enemy does not want marriages to happen. You know you made a commitment, you made a covenant. You know you made a covenant. You didn't make a contract. You made a covenant before God and before all the people, and sometimes people don't want you to stay married, so they come up with all kinds of things and they are praying for you not to be married. I mean, it's it's, it's craziness and you have to fight for your marriage.
Speaker 2:One of the things we talked about is a WWE. You know you have to tag team. You have to tag team because you know, i know you don't know anything about wrestling, but look, you have. You have a tag team. You know you one person's inside, the other person is on the outside waiting to be tagged, got his hand, got his hand out, and maybe you have somebody on the opposite team that's trying to get your attention. So you can't tag. And that's how the enemy works. He's trying to get your attention and trying to take you off your post, trying to take you off from the wall So you can't tag in when your partner's in trouble, right, and so you have to fight for it.
Speaker 2:And you got to know this in your marriage that you, your marriage, is already victorious, your marriage is already. You have to walk in the victory. It's already a fixed fight, but you have to fight for it. You have to fight for it. You I mean in the arguments. You have to say, look, sometimes you have to say I'm sorry, you know, and sometimes you may be right, as I don't know what, but sometimes you have to say I'm, you know, i'm sorry, i didn't, you know, whatever I misunderstood, and you have to give in. Sometimes marriage is a hundred hundred, you know, and it's a give and take. That's what marriage is, and so that's all about fighting. You have to put your ego aside, man. I gotta give me applause on that. You got to put in the marriage. You got to put your ego aside, because you can't always be right. You got to put your ego aside. So you know that. Like again, you know, the main point of that was don't fight with your spouse, but fight for your spouse. Oh, that was good. Yeah, that was the main point. Don't fight, don't fight with your spouse, fight for your spouse. And and though I'm gonna read this because I want people to understand it, because I was thinking about this When I left and came back, so I was, i was thinking about this.
Speaker 2:All right, the message Bible reads Ephesians 5, 22 to 233, and it's very important because that's why I want to read it. It says and I'll listen to this wives, understand and support your husband in ways that show your support for Christ. The husband provides leadership to his wife the way Christ does to his church, not by domineering But by cherishing. So, just as church as the Just, so just as the church submits to Christ as he exercised such leadership, why she's likewise submit to their husbands. He says husbands, go all out in your love for your wives, exactly as Christ did for the church, a love marked by giving, not getting. Christ love makes the church whole. His words evoke her beauty. Everything he does and says is designed to bring the best out of her.
Speaker 4:Hmm.
Speaker 2:That's what Christ does for her, us, and that's what husband was supposed to be doing for our wife, with everything that we say brings the best out of our spouses, dressing her in dazzling white silk, radiant with holiness. And that is how husbands ought to love their wives. They really doing themselves live. They're really doing themselves a favor, since they already won in marriage. So if I'm loving you, if I'm treating you, if I'm uplifting you, i'm doing it for me because we won. Yes, if I come down on view, if I abuse you. That's why people say, oh, you can't get the voice into Because of abuse. Oh, yes, you can, because if, if I'm not loving you as Christ loved the church, that mean I'm not doing what God told me to do. If I'm a beating on you, i'm beating myself. I'm not loving me, right and so, and so us? so the King Jane Virgil says for this reason, a man will leave his wife and mother and be joined to his wife and the two will become one flesh. It says look this, what it says in 209, 30 no one abuses its own body, does he know? he feeds and peppers it. That's how Christ's cheese treats us, the church, since we are part of the body, and this is why a man leads father and mother and Cherish his wife no longer, to they become one flesh.
Speaker 2:This is a huge mystery and I don't pretend to understand it all. What is clear to me is the way Christ Treats his church, and this provides a good picture of how each husband is to treat his wife loving himself in loving her, and how each wife is to honor her husband. This, and I'm gonna tell you this, is what I came up with. I know you're looking at me. Well, i look at you, but this is what I came in. When you look at these verses, somebody who's who's there, who's who's watching with us, count how many verses Paul Speaks to what the wife is supposed to do versus how many verses He speaks to what the husband is supposed to do.
Speaker 3:Hmm, not a lot.
Speaker 2:How many y'all know y'all there, i know I know is is there. I know I know Harold Samson, you may, i see you there. Look y'all. Y'all got your Bibles y'all looking there. Let us know. How many verses does Paul speak to the wife Versus how many verses does Paul speak to the husband? I Would take this no, he speaks more to the husband, then speaks to the wife.
Speaker 3:I don't recall him saying much.
Speaker 2:Yeah, he just starts out with the wife, he ends up with it. He got a little bit, but he's speaking more to the husband because the husband has a lot of more responsibility and The marriage will go as far as the husband treats his wife. I Gotta give myself a plaza now. The marriage will go as far as much as the husband treats and love his wife.
Speaker 3:But what if you have a husband that Treats and loves his wife but his wife is carrying baggage that she can't it's that she can't move forward from What, what? what do that husband doing that situation? because that's kind of like a mental abuse toward the husband.
Speaker 2:Now, right, So, if the husband is recognizing this, he, as the leader, says okay, baby, we, we're gonna get a stalemate here, as the leader, as a leader, you recognize the problems that's going on around you, right? you recognize. You just say husband's, they, we want to. You know, a lot of husband want to dictate Oh, this is this, is this and that, and we're gonna talk about the mores. But I think up. When I'm a leader, i'm not time, but if you're gonna, if he's gonna leave, then you figure out that, okay, my wife has some baggage less. We need to. We need to talk about this, we need to communicate. How do we need it? rectify this? Maybe we need to go therapy, however, but we're gonna. We're, our marriage is not gonna go as far as this baggage is Right. So that's, that's the way it should go. All right, we're gonna move along. We're gonna move along, cuz we want to make sure you get some questions, all right.
Speaker 2:Number seven my wife's strong personality. Now, that was a good one, because people was calling in about it. Huh, that was a hot topic. That was a hot topic. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yep. So we know that. In that, we discussed how a wife with a strong personality can either help or hinder a marriage. Right, and I would say look, you do not want to change your wife's personality Because you're gonna need it. You know what I mean. You're not there to change nobody, all right, and we don't want to use the word tame because you didn't like that word, did you? All right? All right, good to go, all right, all right.
Speaker 2:So when we talked about it's a problem that may arise in a strong will women's marriage, is that a Because society has a perception of what marriage should be right. Hey, you know a have a society has a strong Um perception of what a woman should be, especially a black woman. You know, they added, quote-unquote, the angry black woman. You know, and so you have. You have that, and so that's we. You have to. You need to be who you are, but you are. But, as you're being who you are, understand some conflicts that can come between the two of you. If that occurs, you got to understand if you you strong-willed it, you know it's gonna Is, you know it may. It may have some conflicts and you got to know how to deal with it So you could be who you are. I ain't changing for nobody. Well, you gotta change. But you may. Your marriage may cause some conflicts. Right, you got to recognize that.
Speaker 2:Number two a wife Could start disrespecting and running over husband. Right, there is a level of respect, there is a level of God ordained order and that's it. It is God's ordained order, it's not my order, it's not. You know, some people have messed up the order, but we just read God's order is good as long as the husband is doing what he's doing, then it's gonna be easy to say, okay, baby, wherever you leave me, i'm gonna follow, cuz you loving me, you adoring me with good dresses, you, i mean, come on now. You say, okay, you prayed about it, yeah, i prayed about it. I think we're gonna be good. All right, baby, let's go right. All right, so you could start disrespecting So.
Speaker 2:So, number three you need people that can be strong enough to interact with you. All right, you're gonna. If, if the husband is so weak Right, the husband so weak, and you are strong personality, you, you're gonna run the marriage. So the husband has to say, look, got to come out his comfort zone of not being so in so weak and say, okay, we're gonna talk about this, let me stand strong, let me not be weak in this thing because, if not, the wife is gonna run the marriage, you know alright. So that's what that's it. It's good to have a woman with a strong personality. I love your personality Because I need it Right. We compliment each other. My personality is not a you know, going your face person. My personality is you know, whatever. Why your personality is a I'm gonna, we're gonna do it, we're gonna talk, we're gonna, you know, and we need that When you say that, it makes me feel like I'm this no, no.
Speaker 3:I don't want to be perceived that way. I'm not gonna allow people to walk over me, definitely not walk over you or my children. I need to let you know this is where I stand in this. But I don't want people to feel like, oh, we can't approach her, because even somebody said one time We were in a service and it was like, oh cuz you, your first lady ain't your typical first lady. Is she gonna put you in your place? and I like whoa? I don't want people to perceive me that way. You know. I want people to be able to Yeah, we got way off.
Speaker 2:No, that's that's a.
Speaker 3:I want to be approachable source once you know. You know, lady P, i need you to pray for me. I want them to feel comfortable enough to come to me and ask me and I talked to you for a minute. I want to be that are, but you always betray me as if I need something done, i'm calling my wife, so. So how did you buy me a gun?
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, i can't say that. You know, we won't say that this guy. So what should I say? what should I say?
Speaker 3:Um, if I need something done that's getting out of my hand, um, I have that.
Speaker 2:That's saying the same thing.
Speaker 3:No, it's like, I don't think it's, i think it's the way you say it. Oh, but these jokers, they had me all upset and I was like you know what? Okay, i'll tell you what. Okay, here's what's going to happen. Hey, babe, i need you call these people and tell these people off And I'm like, yeah, okay, what happened? You know so, and so that's. I think that's where it is. Just, i guess you know, i don't know, i don't know how to, how to tell you how to say it, but don't make me seem like I'm such a aggressive person?
Speaker 3:I don't feel that I'm aggressive, you don't cross me. I don't cross you. I treat people the way I want to be treated and I stick that in return. But when you show me who you are, if I walk away with my hands up, then we're done. But if you approach me, we are tough.
Speaker 2:All right, all right, so we'll put it out there. Anybody out there? you can write it in the chat or you can call in and tell me what I should be saying. All right, all right, all right, we're going to move along. If it was about a call, okay.
Speaker 2:Episode eight is how to get your partner to listen to you. All right, we said. Number one choose an appropriate setting. You know, you don't, you know, you just want to choose appropriate setting, maybe at a lunch or you know a place like that gets a partner to listen to you. Number two ask if it's okay to have a conversation. You know A.
Speaker 2:You know, because you may be busy, your mind may be going somewhere, or whatever. You say, hey, babe, you know I need to talk to you. Is it all right right now, before we could talk? And you can say, well, in five minutes and 10 minutes, and you know, and then I come back in 10 minutes. You know, hey, i'll be ready.
Speaker 2:But if you busy doing something, say, babe, i'm so sorry, this is like again, it's how you say it, but I'm so sorry, i thought I'd be finishing 10 minutes. It's give me time and whatever. Then we know that you're not being brushed off. Okay. So number three sit beside your partner instead of across from your partner, if possible. Right, and I know we had a little disagreement with that, you know, but I, and I think is it too, is he had a problem with that? You know, and I think sometimes when you're sitting next to each other, you have you feeling them, you know, you still that love, that, that, that heat from that love, you know, when you're, when you're sitting across from somebody, it's like a meeting.
Speaker 3:I know, but I think the discussion on that was like when I'm sitting across from you, i'm looking you and your I'm looking you in your eyes, looking me in my eyes, so I can perceive that you hear where I'm coming from. Are you here with them, sam? because we making that contact If you're sitting next to each other, you know. You gotta understand what I'm saying. Turn your head, but this way, and then you leave. Oh, you understand, you hear me, you feel me.
Speaker 3:You know, so that could be a bit, i could be a bit, okay, all right.
Speaker 2:Cool, that's good too. That's good too, all right. Number four is be direct. Don't beat around the bush. Absolutely, we're coming to talk, we're coming to talk, don't be, you know, don't you know, as Jesus told he was telling the disciples, don't pray like them or other ones. They just pray them long prayers, or they they out the ones pray with words, you know, but they just got all these big words and stuff like that, they beating around the bush. Get straight to it, jesus, like, look, just come to, just come and pray, you know. And so we got to be that record, even talking to our spouses.
Speaker 2:Number five do not nag. Yeah, all right, do not nag. We we good with that. We need to discuss that. No, okay, we good with that. Number six is you use I statements, you know, like, like you would say, i feel pressured when you don't listen to me. You know, i feel this is how I feel, you know not. You know, you know somebody you know not be laying it. You know my girlfriend don't feel pressured, you know, no, no, no, it's, it's me and you, i feel pressure. And number seven listening the same way that you want to be listened to. Right, listen, listen. You know that's part of communication is listening, that's part of prayer is listening, and sometimes we don't listen. You know we don't open up yet When, when the other person is talking, we all looking all sideways, we saying things. We start saying things in our mind. What we going to? how do, how are we going to reply?
Speaker 3:Yeah, without even listening to what the person is saying Cause, like what you saying, really at this particular point in this argument, it doesn't matter, because what you got to say I got something for you, so it never becomes resolved.
Speaker 2:Right.
Speaker 3:So it's like, then you're yelling and yelling and yelling, but now you need to want to hear each other, and so it's just kind of like a lost cause, lost cause, right.
Speaker 2:So we got, you know, you got nothing done, you're nothing down And so, like, like how we talked about, you have to be active listening. So you say something, and that that forces you to listen to a person, because now I have to repeat it back to what you said. Right, i have to repeat it back, babe, you, you, this is what I heard, this is what I heard you say Such and such, such and such, such and such. You know, and you'll say, no, that's not what I said. Or yes, that's what I said, all right, and so, once that that is there, so you cannot, you cannot be talking all out the side of your neck and trying to listen. You know, because, hey, i got to repeat it back.
Speaker 3:So you better, your best bet is to listen You know, i have a perfect example today where you had a little mini business meeting and you came in and you said this, that and the other, and I was like okay, and then I said, well, just so I have this correct, let me repeat this back to you.
Speaker 2:Right.
Speaker 3:Right, Make sure I'm understanding where you're coming from And so that's that we go so actively listening, listening and work in any situation, But for mostly for the marriage, you want to be able to repeat back what the other person has said to you, so make sure you get your understanding of it. Like I used to tell the girls all the time I say you can write something on Facebook in one way and meet it totally one different direction, And someone else may come along and be like Oh, she talking about me you know, because of the way they perceive it, the way they're coming from, and not having that actual dialogue.
Speaker 3:So I used to tell them you know, just really be careful about what you put on there, as far as what you mean. And so and it goes back to marriages If, if, if you say something to me and I'm like wait a minute, did he just call me stupid, you know, or something like that.
Speaker 2:You know, i'm just saying you know, so I'm a baby stupid.
Speaker 3:No no babe, but I'm just using it.
Speaker 4:And OK.
Speaker 3:OK, we had this conversation. You just call me this, did you just call me that, and you go oh, wait a minute. No, no, that's not, that's not what I said. You know, I say it, stop acting like you are. Oh OK, but I still feel a little little.
Speaker 3:I'm a little somebody you know, oh yeah, so active listening and making sure the communication is open is key. You're definitely going to have to be able to have that downtime and just really talk about affairs, what's going on in your lives, how you feel about certain things, different things like that one.
Speaker 2:All right. So episode nine last episode before this we talked about PDA public display of affection. That was fun too, that was good too, and so we listed five things when we talked about PDA for Christian couples, all right, and we said number one are we causing others to stumble? So we are there kissing and doing all this stuff? Are we causing others to stumble because people are looking at us? And as Christians, we are responsible not only for us, but for other people. That's looking at us, you know, and that's that's what we got to make sure that our affection is not causing nobody else to stumble.
Speaker 2:Number two are we inspiring others? So our affection should be, you know, inspiring others. As we said, you know people look at us and be like man. I want that, i want like what y'all got, you know, i want. You know, you know you should. May you show your wife you, like you love your wife and your wife will show you that you, you know, love you. So I want that. And so we want to make sure, in your marriage, if you're doing public display of affection, that you're inspiring somebody.
Speaker 2:Number three are we being considerate of others? You know, we don't want to be in a situation where you know we married couples and we going out with some single people and we all affectionate and all that stuff, and they looking at us like man, you know, i want that or whatever You can do that like with a hopefully with some other married couples, because hopefully other married couples are showing some kind of affection, you know, you know, so you just want to be that you consider others. Number four is it helping us nurture our marriage relationship Or we just out there just doing it just to show somebody? or is it helping build up our relationship? Is our public, you know, is our kissing, our holding hands, our touching one another? Is it helping us, our marriage grow? And number five are we exercising self control?
Speaker 3:Yeah, we want to make sure that we actually you're so funny, pat.
Speaker 2:You know you want to make sure that you are exercising self control that you ain't out there. You know you're all hot in heaven. You know you had the mall hot in the heaven. You're like getting it on. It'd be like yeah, yeah, yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. And all this, nobody see it. Come on.
Speaker 4:You know, what He'll let me talk him in the comments.
Speaker 3:Yeah, you've talked, you've talked into me to do some crazy things.
Speaker 2:I'm telling you, yeah, yeah, you're talking to do some crazy things, you know, in the affection way. All right, so we're going to be that's what. Another topic, all right, that's what. Another time, maybe next season we'll go into that, all right. So, yeah, so that was a public display of affection. So that was the kind of like the recap of our nine lessons And I think we had fun. Yeah, we had call in. I mean, it's made the call in. Your cousin, melissa would call them from Atlanta. I mean we had Tyrone call in from Atlanta. I mean we just had people calling in And I would say I want you to want to give a pause, and this is why I want to give applause.
Speaker 2:We had people from Asia, from Germany, from Russia download our podcasts. So we thank God for that. Thank you Lord, thank you, jesus, amen. So we thank God for that. Thank you Lord, thank you, jesus, amen. So we thank God for that. Thank you Lord, thank you, jesus, amen. So, hey, we got about five minutes, about five minutes If you can call in, if you want to call in, and just, hey, we got a minute, we got a minute You call in. You say what you got to say If you've been with us, if you've been enjoying the podcast, come on, tell us if you enjoy it. If you've got a problem with the podcast, hey, come and tell us too, you know. Or if you want to have a conversation, you want to talk about a subject or whatever like that, you know, just come on, call on in. We got a little time that you can call in and we will take the calls. We will take the calls, all right, but you know I love you babe.
Speaker 3:I love you too. You tell me that all the time. It makes me feel so special, Well yeah, it does, which was your favorite episode.
Speaker 2:My favorite episode was the Shore Wars. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, that was right, there was. yeah, that was that Shore Wars. It had me laughing and rolling. Yeah, that was Yeah, what about yours?
Speaker 3:Oh, i'm trying to think Um, which, which one was it that said spending time with your wife or managing, oh, dating, dating, your old dating? Yeah, dating, that was one of my favorite ones. It was fun too.
Speaker 2:OK, all right.
Speaker 3:I think it's so important to rekindle. Every now and then I tell you, know, associates and friends, all the time that I fall in love with you over and over again. It's because you keep me, you keep me guessing, always doing stuff spontaneous and even though the days when I hate, i love you. I love you the most.
Speaker 2:OK, all right. All right, we got Nikki. Hey Nikki. All right, we've got Eddie Patton. Come in and hold on Eddie Patton. All right, we got Nikki. Hey Nikki, how you doing.
Speaker 4:I'm doing good, dad. How are you? I'm doing good.
Speaker 2:I'm missing you already, but all right, so you got a minute. We got to give you a minute, now Come on.
Speaker 4:I just just quick question, just wondering what you know topics you guys are going to cover in the second season, because you've covered so many and I've learned so much, just wanting to know what's in the plan.
Speaker 2:You know, we haven't really thought about it. So this summer, i think what we're going to do, we're going to you know if, if anybody have any topic, specific topics, that they want us to cover, texas, call us and let us know, email us and let us know and we will make sure we try to consider it. I know, like for you, you're saying that you know a person that's preparing to get married. You know you maybe want to talk about that. We may do a season on that. I do want to do a lot of more. I want to do some interviews. You know, want to do some interviews next, you know, yeah, you know. So, um, yeah, if you have a specific topic, nikki, you know you got our number.
Speaker 4:Yeah, I'm excited.
Speaker 3:I can't wait to hear it. Well, we do have one pop up that we're going to do, Can we?
Speaker 2:yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, that one pop up, go. ahead.
Speaker 3:Okay, so the next we're going to have a pop up and the question for that is going to be what is the 10, your top 10,?
Speaker 2:the 10, the top 10 songs that Christian couples make love to.
Speaker 3:Yeah.
Speaker 2:What'd you say, Nikki?
Speaker 4:Whoa, yeah, i was. I love to have that. You know that sounds good. I you know, maybe, and I like the idea of the conversation about you know preparing for marriage. You know, just from your perspective, um, any questions that people maybe have about you know dating right now and and and how marriage has changed um from when you guys started.
Speaker 2:Okay, All right, cool, all right. Thank you for calling Love you.
Speaker 4:Thank you, love you too All right All right.
Speaker 2:We got the apostle on the line. The apostle apostle, the right reverend, the bishop, the cardinal Eddie Patton, on the line.
Speaker 3:All right now. Mr photographer Man. I love you guys.
Speaker 6:I don't know how you've dealt with him all these years, but uh, certainly you, you too, are the epitome of what marriage in real life looks like, and I think I've told you guys privately uh, and I'll tell you publicly now that you are truly the epitome, and in spite of all of the things that have I've gone through personally uh in marriage, i've always uh looked at what you guys have set uh as the ground rule, and so I certainly appreciate that Um, one of the things that I would uh employ of you uh going into the to the next season, is to potentially talk at about uh the stability of marriage.
Speaker 6:Uh, the stability of marriage Um, cause I think, in a day and age I know only have a minute, but I think the day and age where you know you have parents fighting to go to work and fighting to buy bigger houses and you know staying better, paying jobs, et cetera, and so on, uh that we find that the stability of marriage can sometimes be rocked by our aspiration to acquire more things. Right, so, thank you guys, i loved it, loved it. I will go back and listen to the rest of the sessions, but I enjoyed uh just sitting in and listening Man thank you.
Speaker 6:I love you And you tell me you love me back, cause you just told Nikki you love her.
Speaker 2:All right I want my, I love you. All right, I love you.
Speaker 4:Eddie We love you.
Speaker 2:Thank you guys, all right, thank you All right, man, hey, that's my boy. Yeah, and we've been man. We've been friends for over long time, over 30 years. We've been friends. Oh, ups and downs, oh, ups and downs, we man, we've been friends, man. So that's, that's my boy, that man.
Speaker 3:Good to hear.
Speaker 2:Eddie, yeah, so good to hear All right. So, um, i don't think it's anybody else calling in, i don't think so. So it's been five minutes. Yeah, so it's been fun, babe, it's been fun. And you know I can't wait for the pop up. You know that's going to be fun, but, um, it's, it's been fun. So I want to just want to give a last applause for my baby.
Speaker 3:Oh, my baby, that's my baby. Thank you so much for your time. Thank you so much for joining us. You guys made this fun for all. The call ins and the chat lines Oh, those were amazing. Um, we couldn't done it without you guys, so thank you so much. So let's give the audience around.
Speaker 2:Let's give our audience a round of applause.
Speaker 3:Thank you, thank you, thank you so much Love you.
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Speaker 1:September.
Speaker 2:Oh, no, no, no, we don't know. We had a call, that we had a call. All right, is this a great season? Thank you, thank you, izzy, thank you, thank you. We can always count on you, and you and Harold, and so we thank you. We can't wait to see you in October. Yes, yes, all right, so we love you and we'll see y'all later.
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