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Marriage in Real Life
Marriage in Real Life
Creating Lasting Memories in Marriage Together
Is your marriage vibrant and full of spontaneous moments all year round, or does it thrive only on anniversaries and special occasions? Discover how to infuse daily life with celebrations and appreciation, whether you’re married or single. This episode promises to transform your perspective on relationships by offering insights into cherishing both the highs and lows, and the profound impact of remembering why you fell in love in the first place.
Throughout our lively discussion, we uncover the secrets to a strong marriage connection. From recalling the foundational elements of friendship in your relationship to exploring the power of small acts like surprise dates or breakfast in bed, learn how to invigorate your bond and nurture a loving dynamic. By focusing on the importance of mutual support and fulfilling marriage vows, we offer practical advice for facing life's ups and downs together, ensuring that your relationship remains resilient and robust.
Celebrate your marriage every day with the meaningful rituals we explore, designed to keep attraction alive and connections strong. From dedicating just a few minutes each day for distraction-free conversation to the joys of cooking together, these small gestures create lasting memories and strengthen intimacy. As we prepare for 2025, the journey of nurturing and celebrating healthy relationships takes center stage, encouraging you to embrace the strength and love needed to face challenges together. With personal anecdotes and heartfelt wishes, we invite you to cherish your loved ones and celebrate love every day.
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So tonight we're talking about how to celebrate your marriage all year For the 2025,. You need to celebrate your marriage all year. And look at this Even if you're not married, you need to celebrate yourself all year, right, yeah, you need to celebrate, because one thing I understood this is that if you don't celebrate yourself, you can't rely on nobody else to celebrate you. You got to celebrate yourself and if you're married, you celebrate yourself and you celebrate your spouse. That's what you should do, all right? And so you and your spouse, as you go through 2025, you're going to need to celebrate your marriage throughout the year. Right? Because, again, if nobody celebrates your marriage, you should celebrate your marriage, the ups and the downs. You still should have some kind of celebrations. And it says anniversaries are wonderful. That's a time to reflect. It seems like, with marriages, that the only time we want to celebrate is on our anniversary. That's a big big-do or whatever like that. That's the time we want to celebrate our marriage, right?
Speaker 3:I guess you're kind of celebrating that we're still together. We weathered the storm ups and downs and we're still together.
Speaker 1:We're still together downs, and we still together, we still we still together. So tonight we're going to give five points on how to celebrate your marriage all year long, all year, all year long, not just anniversary time, but all year long. So are you ready?
Speaker 1:I'm ready all right, all right. Point number one just what I need you do, what I need you to constantly reflect on your year's best memory. So, throughout the year, you need to constantly reflect on your year's best memory. Matter of fact, you can look back at 2024 and just bring your year's best memories. Reason why I think that is number one is that oftentimes we say it that you can do 99 things right and you do one thing wrong, and that one thing wrong will overshadow the 99 things that you did right, right. And so what happens, I believe, in the marriage, is that you have the ups and the downs and you have a lot of ups, but when that down happened, you just get down, down, down and you forget about all the ups that you had Right. You forget all about that. So you should.
Speaker 1:Why are you taking pictures Like we went to Charleston and I got you jumping up? Hey, baby, take me jumping up. That's that's a sense of happiness. That's the shows that hey, got you jumping up. Hey, baby, take me jumping up. That's a sense of happiness. That's to show us that hey, we were once happy. Even if we get down, we can look back and say we were once happy. We need to get back to it. Remember, you said that we got to get back to it, and what do we need to do to get back to it? And so we need to write. Whatever we need to do, we need to write it down. But if we never look at the memories, if we never think about the memories, if we never have pictures of the memories or videos of the memories, then I'm mine, hey, I'm look, I'm 58 and some things I don't forget. You constantly have to remind me of things, right, yeah?
Speaker 3:I'm a bit worried about that.
Speaker 1:Oh Lord.
Speaker 3:Because I don't need you going with your memory loss so early in the game. We're still in the game. Yeah, yeah, pull it together.
Speaker 1:I'm pulling it together, but you forget, and so that's why you need to have those pictures and stuff like that, and you need to constantly reflect on that, constantly remind yourself of the happy times that you and your spouse has had. What do you think? You think so, I agree.
Speaker 3:I agree. I think, again, you're going to have some rough patches, you're going to have some bad days. But you know, if you don't have bad days, how are you going to know that the good days are good days? You got to go through something to get to something and you remind yourself that this is where I fell in love, this is where we became not just husband and wife but best friends and homies. How to go back to those little things and just kind of remind yourself this is why I love this person.
Speaker 1:Right right, right right.
Speaker 3:I didn't love him for everything to be 100 all the time. I loved him for the ups and the downs and everything that goes around and around to build our foundation and our relationship Right. So it's so important to go back and find it so important to go back and find it.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, you gotta, you gotta find it. No, because marriages we marriage in real life, right marriages you're gonna have some downs you're gonna have where your spouse is not feeling well, right and and you have to step up and do more. You may have to cook more. You may have to clean more. You may have to do things for your spouse. You may have those times that you may happen and it may go vice versa. That's why. That's why you, like you got to be careful on how you treat people and you got to be careful on how you treat your spouse. Right, you never know when you might need it. Whenever you might need, whenever you might, you might be in that position where you need them to to clean you and wipe you and and do all of these kind of stuff. It it may happen. So you got to be. What was that movie with tyler perry where he he went in and he chopped up half of the of the uh, diary of a mad black, is it that?
Speaker 1:that Is that right, how he treated his wife, treated his wife and then when.
Speaker 3:He got shot in court. He needed her, he needed her.
Speaker 1:So you never know what might happen. You may be all healthy one day. Then, all of a sudden, something happened and you need your spouse in order to help you. So you got to make sure you hey look, and again you took a vow to be in this marriage for better or for worse, or for sickness and in health Right, and so you got to live up to those vows. You got to do that Right. Thanks, pastor Bar. You go back to listen to Pastor Bar.
Speaker 3:Yeah.
Speaker 1:Podcast. We had her on and you'll find that out All right. So you got to constantly reflect on your year's best moments. Take pictures. Whenever you're out and enjoying one another, take pictures. Hey, let me take a selfie. That's because there's going to be some times where you couldn't go out or just reflect on some good times, right?
Speaker 3:Absolutely All right. What's number two? What's number two? Number two says celebrate spontaneously. Whoa, I love a spontaneous. Call me at work. Hey, baby, you got some plans tonight. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah I ain't got no plans tonight. I live with you. What you talking about? I'm taking you out on a date. Come on.
Speaker 3:Relax, get yourself together. I'm taking you. I love spontaneous dates. I love spontaneous moments Like, hey, you know what, let's just ride down and walk on the boulevard on Hollywood Beach, let's just do something. Let's create some memories, some marriage memories. I know we say we create memories with the family in general, with everybody. I'm still upset with you about that.
Speaker 3:You know we create memories with everybody, the entire family but let's create some memories for just you and I. Right, you know so when we do those things, that's spontaneous. I simply love those. Okay, do we have a few samples? Surprise your spouse with breakfast in bed on a random weekday.
Speaker 1:Oh man, that was good. I love that baby. That was good. Hey, I did this Sunday. I did bring you some coffee and walk you up gently and I stood there. I didn't have my wife be there on, or nothing like that. What did you get ready to?
Speaker 3:say no, you did. You brought me coffee, but it'd be nice, it'd be some pancakes, some sausage or something with it. And I'm not saying that I'm being bougie or whatever, but when I bring you breakfast in bed, bro, I bring you breakfast in bed. I wake you up so you can eat it's all nice and spread out for you, and then I'll be like I come back and I get in. I'll be like go back to sleep. You got a full belly Now. Ain't no sense in you getting up. Go ahead and rest. I do that for you, but we ain't going to talk about that.
Speaker 1:I give you a shout out for hooking me up for breakfast in bed.
Speaker 3:I do my part.
Speaker 1:I do my part. I do my part, all right, okay.
Speaker 3:But I do appreciate the coffee because you could have just woke me up.
Speaker 1:It's time to get up and go to church.
Speaker 3:Notes, like write a little sticky note on the refrigerator have a great day. I love you because you're coming in when I'm leaving. It's the little things, guys leaving. So just, it's a little thing, it's the little things, guys. It's, trust me, it's the little things and we don't need all of the big stuff, we don't need all the material things, we just need that little bitty thing. That'd be like oh, he thought about me yeah yeah, oh, something just so simple.
Speaker 3:And then and then you, you, you already got us, but when you do those little bitty things, it makes us want to do more for you, it makes us want to Submit I hate to say it. I mean, I don't hate to say it, but submit is not a bad word but it makes us want to comply more with the household or the relationship. It's a little things.
Speaker 1:Okay, okay. And we don't need to do it just on special occasions. Anytime, we need to do it anytime. Write that text, just send an emoji of love, and so you're celebrating yourself your marriage constantly, and you're doing it spontaneously.
Speaker 3:I know, so let me just share this with you. I'm in school now. I'm trying to get my credentials straightened out, and when you come in and you see me working and you just rub my shoulders, I'd be like, oh I must have gone his mind. He's struggling. So I appreciate that, because it's just those small gestures that make a real difference?
Speaker 1:you would not believe Also, you plan a mini vacation. I think, too, is that when we went to Charleston yes, we went to see your mom, but we said you know what, let's just go, let's just go. We went to Ridgeville with no reception, but we went out to Charleston and just said let's just go and take a couple of days and have the mini vacation, austin, and just say, let's just go and take a couple of days and have the mini vacation. Even when we went to Lakeland and we stayed there we didn't go to every service, you know what I mean we said we're going to spend some time together, that's just a little mini vacation, one. It could be one day or something like that.
Speaker 1:But you need to celebrate and do it spontaneously that. But you need to celebrate, I mean, and do it spontaneously. And, and I think again, with guys, we we got to learn how to be spontaneous. We got to, we got to learn how to just say, hey, you know what, let's go for a ride or let's go, let's do this or let's do that. We have to learn that. I could say my dad was never like that and people, men I don't know a lot of men in my life that's like that. So I have to. It's a learned behavior. If my wife likes that, I just I got to get out of my comfort zone and be spontaneous, right, just, you know that's what I do. I see you smiling baby. Hey, before we go into, father Izzy is here. Izzy, hey, hey girl, how you doing, how you doing. Happy New Year, happy New Year to you. And we see the Little Richards are on. He says Amai says hi.
Speaker 3:Hey, muffin hey.
Speaker 1:Muffin.
Speaker 3:Hey girl, All right.
Speaker 1:And so Lindsey says consistent intentionality is good and easy. I guess she would put that 100 submit thing. I guess when we do yeah, she is spoiled already, lucille, when we do those things it makes you say, okay, yeah, I'll follow you. Like you said, I'll follow you as long as you follow in Christ and you're doing right and you're okay. Yeah, I'll follow you. Like you say, I'll follow you as long as you follow in christ and you're doing right and you're leading. I'll follow you, just by doing the little things yeah, the little things.
Speaker 3:And communication, communication. I can't really say that enough. I go back to that all the time. Things don't always go right, but don't shut down on us, because when you shut down on us, we automatically think you don't care. Okay, okay, okay, you don't shut down on us, because when you shut down on us, we automatically think you don't care.
Speaker 1:Okay, okay, okay.
Speaker 3:He don't care about me because he shut down. It goes two ways. If you shut down, you give me that energy, I'm giving you back the same energy, right? Right, you get nothing done yeah. He says for better, for worse. Mm-hmm. For richer, for poor. Mm-hmm. Seek me sin and or sickness and in health. So in order to keep that thing in tune, you got to plan those little sneak aways and don't tell nobody where you're at.
Speaker 1:Oh, that's it. You can't tell nobody where you're going.
Speaker 3:Let's go, let's go you know I'm with Eric being a pastor and being busy and running the businesses while I'm at work and working full time, like he be exhausted. But I'd be like yo dude, we got to go do something because I need to regroup, I need the space, I need to boost our moment. I'll drag him oh, no, we going. But he actually said, hey, I want to go somewhere cold for Christmas, let's go see my mom. And then we was like, okay, so we can see my mom these days, and then we'll shoot down the Charleston, just the two of us. And mom was like, oh, that's so sweet.
Speaker 1:And she went. My husband, never take me, you're going to leave Mom and Big Papa alone.
Speaker 3:Yeah, so I mean, in order to make things, happen we've got to be spontaneous, we've got to communicate, we've got to know when enough is enough, when it's time to drop everything and go.
Speaker 1:Okay, all right, all right. Number three is establish unique traditions. Establish unique traditions. So creating traditions that are meaningful to your relationship f intimacy and gives you both something to look forward to. These traditions can reflect your shared history and interests. So, whatever the tradition is, it's unique to you and your spouse, right? It's not somebody else. So, for instance, if we're going to movies on christmas, that's unique to us. Not a lot of people do that and maybe some people do that, but that's something that we do. We're gonna find a movie we're gonna. We're gonna do maybe it's a ride every every first and third sunday something that we do. That is unique to us. Maybe you go fishing, or maybe we're not doing that.
Speaker 1:All right, Maybe we need I know we need to get back on those four wheelers. I know we love that. I'll do that. Yeah, that's what you know what it is. So some of the examples are you could celebrate your first date anniversary. Well, what was our first date?
Speaker 3:Well, I don't know. The first time you broke up when we broke my heart, oh Jesus. I don't remember that, oh Lord. But the second one, I think it was really inexpensive we went for a walk on the beach.
Speaker 1:Walk on the beach, all right, okay.
Speaker 3:All right, that first one I don't remember, you don't remember.
Speaker 1:You don't remember, all right, okay. So you can celebrate your first date anniversary by each year by recreating that date or visiting the same location. So, however, you want to do that. Another one is you can pick a unique holiday, all right. So this example here that we came up with is that the day you moved into your home together to celebrate with a special dinner activity Okay, all right. So February 18th, we could do that. That was the day that we moved in, baby, and got our home together with a special dinner. That's something unique to us. It's not unique to nobody else, but that's us, right, okay, all right. The next one is create a movie or game night tradition where you explore genres and games you both love. So maybe you could sit there and have your own karaoke. Come on, now, I'll sing to you, baby. You'll sing to me. I'll sing to you, sing, baby.
Speaker 3:Sing, you know I'll sing to you. I want you to sing, I want to be your lover.
Speaker 1:I want to be your lover. I want to be your lover. Yeah, yeah, I like that one. What would you want?
Speaker 3:me to sing to you, baby, on our karaoke. Oh, I can't think of nothing right off the top of my head. Or you can sing Do Me Baby, I'm not doing you, I don't know, we got a little karaoke machine too.
Speaker 1:Yeah yeah, so yeah, but I'm just saying but that's what we're saying is being spontaneous and something that's unique to you all on a certain date, whatever it is and again we're talking about how to have that Just don't celebrate your anniversary, because that's what couples do they celebrate that one day and then all the rest of the days. They're not being spontaneous, they're not having a unique tradition, they're not doing anything. They just take that one year and that one day out of the year and they make it big. But no, you got to do this throughout the year, throughout the year, throughout the year. All right, all right, go ahead.
Speaker 3:What's next one then? Okay, let's look at some of the comments. Look, it's Peaches.
Speaker 1:Peaches, hey, peach. Hey, Peaches Love you.
Speaker 3:Y'all say hey to my baby, my baby on the left. Yeah, y'all say the one that made me a mama, so I want to go back to what we were talking about? Oh, you got some shout outs For your birthday.
Speaker 1:Oh hey, thank you for all the shout outs. I thank you for all the personal messages and the calls and the texts. I really, really appreciate that. All right, what are you going back to?
Speaker 3:Oh, I was going to go back to where Ismael said. She said about 100% with submission. Yeah, yeah, yeah. She said something else and I can't find it, but anyway, so we'll move on. Yeah, yeah. Incorporate daily celebration.
Speaker 1:Daily celebration.
Speaker 3:Daily celebrations Daily. I saw this video and I don't know if you guys might want to do it, but I haven't done it with Eric yet but I plan to. It's a new year, new thing where this husband and wife they every day for five minutes. They sit like he would sit with his legs straight and she would scrowl on him and they would be in the middle of the bed and that I think it was five, five to ten minutes and he had five minutes to say whatever he wanted to say to her at that moment she had five minutes to say whatever it could have been about the day if the day was good, the day was bad I missed you today.
Speaker 3:I just felt like I wanted to be close to you today, whatever. And I thought, five minutes to say whatever it could have been about the day if the day was good, if the day was bad, I missed you today. I just felt like I wanted to be close to you today, whatever, and I thought, wow, that's interesting. Now you don't have to do that in the middle of bed, you can sit across from in the living room and you can still do it, but just to have that time where it's like and and you're looking face to face each other. You're not looking to the side, you're looking right in each other's face, not on the phone.
Speaker 3:Not on the phone, not looking, and no distraction, no music, no TV blast and nothing. And you just sit there and you look at each other and you tell them whatever happened today and give them the opportunity to respond. I thought that was so interesting because sometimes we get so caught up in the day-to-day work doing this, doing that, just so busy that we don't get the opportunity to stop and really say like, how was your day? And really listen how that day went. How that day went.
Speaker 3:Yeah, yeah, yeah did you hear what I said? Yeah, you said something about what happened and now I feel like you don't even listen, you don't even care, right, right, listen. So celebrating daily I think I thought that would be a great, great idea, just sharing things with them. Tell your lady she cute today and she smelled good today, yeah, yeah all that tell your man say compliment. Compliments play a big role because as women we want to know that you guys are still attracted to us okay, and I'm pretty sure y'all want to know if we still attracted to y'all, of course.
Speaker 3:So compliments, that can be a daily thing and you could be out the door. Hey, babe, you're looking good girl have a good day, dude, you're looking good. Right. Have a great day. Little bitty things and, like I've been saying, for the most part it's the small things that matter, okay, so in this it says even small, consistent gestures can make a big difference in a marriage Note it.
Speaker 3:Celebrating daily doesn't require grand gestures. It's about showing appreciation and staying connected, like I said. So some of the examples that they have is this Each day, end each day by sharing one thing that you appreciated about your partner. Schedule 10 minutes every evening to chat about your day without distractions. Celebrate small victories together, such as finishing a tough project. When I finish school, I want to want your support.
Speaker 3:All right, yeah, passing school or overwhelming a challenge by treating yourself to ice cream or a massage or a foot massage yeah yeah, yeah, we try to do that.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, yeah, we try to do that. Small victories together, not just by like if your spouse has completed something, celebrate it.
Speaker 3:Celebrate it.
Speaker 1:That's one thing.
Speaker 3:I've got Get a new promotion.
Speaker 1:Yeah, celebrate it. Get a little raise, celebrate it. And I think the thing is that you don't have to celebrate a raise or promotion by going and spending big time money. You know what I'm saying. You can celebrate a raise and promotion just by saying you know what? I am so proud of you. That's celebration, I think, too, is that, as husbands, I think we need to tell, tell our wives and I think men need to hear it too just to say that I'm proud of you, I'm proud of you for doing this, I'm proud of you for doing it. I thank you for doing that, showing some gratitude to the person. A lot of times we we just say, because we married, especially if you've been married over three years, four years you think that that person supposed to do this, they suppose. But people love gratitude. Thank you for doing this, thank you for doing that. That's part of celebrating somebody, just saying thank you, right.
Speaker 3:Okay, so Virtual Melody, he say, because they try to not go a date without hugging or kissing.
Speaker 1:That's it.
Speaker 3:When's the last time you kissed me?
Speaker 1:What do you mean? When's the last time I kissed you? Didn't you kiss me. Today I kissed you. Alright, come on over here, baby. No, no, no, come on. That's not a kiss.
Speaker 3:I'm talking about a kiss, all right that's a little pic, that's a little pic oh, y'all make someone want to get married. But yeah, and she also said appreciation counts and gratitude do count, because if you don't show that you appreciate what I'm doing, I'm going to stop doing it.
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 3:I'm going to stop doing it.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, all right, mm hmm, yeah, yep, yep, yep, all right. So the the last one that we got all right, the last one we got is that focus on togetherness over formality. Focus on togetherness over formality is again you, my wife, you, you're my wife and you're supposed to do this. You, my husband, and you're supposed to do this. That's formality. I do it because I love you with all my heart. I do it, and when we do things together, it's good, such as they gave an example here.
Speaker 1:But this is something that we try to tell couples cook together, cook together. So if you could sit down and you can get some kind of unique recipe from TikTok or Facebook or wherever, that you can get a unique recipe that you don't even know anything about, that way you can sit down, you can say hey, this is what we need from the grocery store. Can you imagine you got a recipe and you say okay, patsy, we're going to cook this together. All right, cool, let's sit down, let's do the rest. Let's do that, and I drag you to the grocery store, because I know you hate the grocery store, where you get breakout in hives right, I'm not the only I drag you to and, but we're shopping for the ingredients right right, we shopping for the ingredients, we we leave there, we come home, you cook this.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I cook that, like you, you're better in, like the gravy, I like that. I say, hey, I need that. I say I need you, come on, I need to cook the gravy. But there's some things and we cook together.
Speaker 3:Yeah, we set the table together and we eat together and, most importantly, while we're doing it, we're talking so yeah, and I'm glad that's something that we tell the couples to do too, because it gets serious in the kitchen.
Speaker 1:Yeah, you can have some fun in the kitchen, especially if you have some flour or something like that. Some wine yeah, get some wine, don't burn stuff.
Speaker 3:All right, of course it's a form of intimacy.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it's a form of intimacy. You can get serious in that kitchen. You have to turn off the heat and say, look, let me turn the heat up, let me turn this heat down. And whatever you do in your kitchen, that's what you do in your kitchen.
Speaker 3:You know what you need prayer. You need prayer, father God.
Speaker 1:I got to do the Catholic thing yeah but you know what?
Speaker 3:You can take a walk together If you're on your health kick. Oh, let me just say hello Fresh. Have some really good recipes.
Speaker 1:Yes, sir.
Speaker 3:Really good recipes and you know like, go for a walk together if you're on your health journey or even if you just want to get out Now I know right now Melissa and Ty can't be out there walking in snow In snow.
Speaker 1:Why you can't walk?
Speaker 3:in the snow, I wouldn't walk in the snow.
Speaker 1:I don't understand why you can't walk in the snow.
Speaker 3:I wouldn't walk in the snow. I don't understand why you can't walk in the snow.
Speaker 1:You can if you choose to, but I don't know, it's just a lot to go along with that Well.
Speaker 3:I don't think we can walk in the ice, but walking in the snow is pretty good.
Speaker 1:Remember that time I was pussing at you and walking outside in the snow Fail, uh-huh, that's what you get.
Speaker 3:We don of that. All right. Yeah, it's like take a walk. Talk about your goals that you plan for last at 2024, what you're gonna do 2025. Just get out there, get some vitamin d yeah, even or not being outside does take a lot of stress away. Yeah, yeah, yeah, it does go out there and get out there, get out there and walk a little bit yeah, yeah, or.
Speaker 3:Or even another thing too go for a drive, let the windows down. Don't use the air conditioning if it's not hot, I mean if it's not freezing cold. Go out there, because sometimes Eric and I we'll hop in, sadie, and put the roof back and let the windows down and ride along the coast, and we have some almost interesting moments when we do that. Yeah. It's just the two of us, so we are building memories by just doing that Just by doing that.
Speaker 1:Lindsay says just make sure the countertops counter wipe afterwards. Lord have mercy. Izzy says save all that for later. When I give you that kiss said save all that for later. When I gave you that kiss, save all that for later. I'm saving a little bit for later, ty and Melissa. Most of the snow melted in Atlanta so we can walk now.
Speaker 3:Good, I want y'all to be safe.
Speaker 1:Yeah, we want you to be safe.
Speaker 3:I can't wait to see them in April. Yeah.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, we just want to celebrate marriages safe. Yeah, we want you to be safe, but I can't wait to see them in april. Yeah, yeah, yeah, it's, it's. We just want to celebrate marriages. I, I, I say as a podcast I want to celebrate marriages all year and I just want to say that not all marriages make it another year. So if you do make it another year, you celebrate it, but every day you should celebrate it. But every day you should celebrate, like we said, every day, because not all marriages make it. Just that next day. Right, you know how we say you get up because God's mercies are renewed every morning.
Speaker 3:Yeah.
Speaker 1:Right. Your marriage does don't have to survive overnight. It doesn't have to have to survive overnight. It doesn't have to. But because God allows it and because you allow it together to survive another night, you can get up and say you know what, thank you, lord and thank you babe, thank you for sticking with me, because yesterday I know it was tough, I know it was tough, but thank you, and maybe yesterday wasn't tough, but you can still say thank you, because there are many I tell guys all the time there are many ladies that just leave. They don't want to, they don't want to deal with it, they don't want to, they don't want to deal with you trying to learn how to be a great husband or a great man. They don't want to deal and they just leave. They say no, I don't want to do that. And so they just walk out. Right, and so you should just celebrate your wife, say thank you for sticking with me. Thank you for sticking with me.
Speaker 3:And we want something that's worth fighting for. And if you're not worth fighting for, well, don't read those.
Speaker 1:I see what Izzy said. That's why I don't eat at y'all people's houses Y'all nasty, you know. That's why you got to make sure you have a clean house.
Speaker 3:I'm calling her later. I am.
Speaker 1:When you walk into the house and you smell bleach and all that stuff.
Speaker 3:You know something went down.
Speaker 1:You know something went down Pneumonia Fabulosa. You smell all that stuff. You say, oh yeah, something went down in here last night.
Speaker 3:You know what? Izzy can't talk. She the one who reproduces. Anyway.
Speaker 1:So celebrating marriages all 2025 and I just want to give a shout out to all the marriages, all the married people that's online tonight I want to say we love you all and we celebrate you all. We do. Relationships are hard, yeah, relationships are hard when you stand to fight.
Speaker 3:remember I said, I think in a few seasons ago, if we in the boxing ring, I need to be able to tag you in when I can't do it anymore and you need to be able to tag me in when you can't. And it goes the same way when the enemy is on your back and you can't get a breakthrough.
Speaker 3:You got to tag me in so I can get on my knees and start praying too yeah we need each other to survive and we gonna, if we gonna, if we gonna I'm not reading anymore if we gonna make it in this relationship, we got to do it together. We got to be unified.
Speaker 3:Yeah, gotta be unified so we got to be able to reflect and express the love that we have for one another, even in the bad times. I'm telling you, if you don't go through bad stuff, how do you know the good things are good and how do you know how to fight the next bad thing that's coming up? Because it's going to come? You just got to know how to handle it.
Speaker 1:You got to know how to handle it. You got to know how to handle it. Stay in the ring, stay in the fight. Yep, stay in the fight, because I'm telling you it's worth it. If you stay in the fight. It is, it's worth it.
Speaker 3:Especially if you know what it was and you reflect back to it and you continue to fight for it. Yep, but we got to do it together. I can't, I can't, fight by myself, right, we? If we want to maintain this relationship, this marriage, we got to be honest, we got to be communicative, we got to share, yeah, and we got to be share our feelings. When you know, like I'm not mad at you for not bringing me this in bed. I'm really not mad about that, because you've done so many other things.
Speaker 2:I just kind of wanted to bring it to your attention, because that's what this paper that you made me study said.
Speaker 3:I was like oh he ain't bring me no bread.
Speaker 1:Oh man, I guess I'm sorry that I don't clean or cook in my wife beater.
Speaker 3:Box of wreaths in a wife beater, oh Jesus, with a towel over your shoulder and an apron on.
Speaker 1:That's how you need to cook. Yeah, I studied you best. He just said my goodness, oh, my goodness. Oh man. Well, hey, if you want to call in and just talk to us a little bit, you can dial in 754-222-2219. 754-222-2219. You can dial in and we'll be glad to host you a little bit before we get ready to get out of here. We had some fun tonight. Yep, we had some fun tonight. Yeah, we had some fun tonight, so we love it's going to put us in time out. You just come get your parents.
Speaker 3:Don't call me, I'm saying, but you know what I tell you what eric and I have have such a good marriage. I, I, I won't say it's not perfect but, it's good, because we, we vibe off of each other. We get mad at each other. I well, I get mad at him. He shut down and don't talk to me. I get in the caddy roll the windows down and I hit it.
Speaker 3:I'm like, okay, I need some space, he needs some space. But for the most part we we try to feed off each other's energy and, like I said, if you giving me a bad energy, I'm giving it right back to you, right, right. Because if you come up and say, weigh my dinner, I'm going to be like you ain't stop to get it. It's not about to go down, hey weigh my vittles.
Speaker 1:You know what, when I walk in the door, I want to have my vittles.
Speaker 3:Be like hmm. Okay. I think how we respond to each other, our tone of voice and our body language, makes a big difference, as well as how we receive, how you coming off yeah hey, we want to make sure you like and share.
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Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah yeah yeah.
Speaker 1:So we're trying to grow a little bit more and so, however you want to support, you can and we will appreciate it. It's all tax deductible whatever you give, so we would love to that. So if you want to call in again 754-222-2219,. You can call in and we can talk about some how you're going to celebrate this year. What are, what are some things that you're thinking about doing that throughout the year, not just that one day of anniversary, but daily. I love what you say, that daily I love. You know, when you come home and and I'm sitting there watching TV or doing whatever, and you say and I say, how's your day? You just start, you know, spilling the tea. When I say, when I say tea, I'm just saying you start spilling. Just what's going on in you, how was your day?
Speaker 1:And I just love that You'll say well, I had a good day, or I had a bad day, or something like that. Or if you had a good day, you say how it was good. You just won't say I had a good day. You say how it was good. If you say I had a bad day, you explain to me how it was good. You just won't say I had a good day you say how it was good.
Speaker 3:If you say I had a bad day.
Speaker 1:you explain to me how it was bad these babies crazy.
Speaker 3:Yeah, you say the baby's crazy, or the parents. These parents are crazy, let me tell you. They bring those kids in no warm clothes and I'll be all wrapped like it's snowing outside. My hands will freeze that I be like. Oh my God, I can't believe this baby don't have on no t-shirt. This baby got on a onesie and a diaper. It's cold outside. This is South Florida, we're not used to that. Yeah. So, yeah, I enjoy telling you about my day and I always ask you what you've been up to. Yeah.
Speaker 3:But see, today you called me about five times Did.
Speaker 1:I call you too much today.
Speaker 3:Yeah, we had the video once we did the video babe, then I think, you called me three more times after that. Yeah, yeah, you did so. That's too many times, but yeah, that's kind of too many times. Okay, all right, I'll try you know, but the one time you called me it was on me because you were. You went to get me some makeup wipes and you want to know how many and what you know. So I appreciate that, but all the other three.
Speaker 1:You know that was a lot, oh man, okay, I remember but.
Speaker 3:But all my teachers know they said eric called miss patsy, miss eric called miss patsy, at one o'clock every day yeah, well, yeah, I think, izzy.
Speaker 1:I think ferg's probably trying to thaw out because he was at the Baltimore Ravens game. He was out there and he bought tickets. He didn't know how cold it was, so he maybe had to thaw out. He might be frozen. He might be frozen. He might be frozen. Yeah, he might be frozen. Well, since nobody has called in, we just want to thank you for joining us tonight, where we had some laughs and some good times, and again, we want you to celebrate your marriage. If you're married, celebrate it. Celebrate it every day, because some marriages are failing, but thank God that your marriage may not be all that. You may see somebody else's marriages, but you, you married, and you, you used to celebrate. Celebrate one another. Celebrate one another. And if you're not celebrating one another, we're not hugging somebody, we're not kissing on you, on the person, if you're not just being spontaneous. We want to encourage you to do it.
Speaker 3:Be spontaneous and if you're not married, take these nuggets and put them aside for when you do get married.
Speaker 1:When you get married. But you know, you can be spontaneous, just being single too. You can just get up and say you know what? I'm just going to take myself out to eat. Absolutely, I'm going to go and pay for my own massage. I'm just talking about being single. If you, you're single.
Speaker 3:that's what I'm saying and your husband won't give you a massage, he should pay yeah thou shalt pay.
Speaker 1:That's in deuteronomy that's what that's the, the 11th commandment yep, thou shalt pay for a massage, absolutely all right. Thou shalt pay for a massage, all right. So I guess, guys, that's something we got to do. Thou shalt pay for a massage this year.
Speaker 3:Or give it.
Speaker 1:Or give it.
Speaker 3:Because I did find this one guy.
Speaker 1:Oh no, you ain't inviting that joker to come and give you no massage At our house. It doesn't matter if he's at, you'll be right there. No, no, it doesn't matter if he's right there. No, no, I ain't going to watch nobody. Get all all it all up and give you a massage, I'll send you out.
Speaker 3:That ain't sensual, it's a massage. So you seen it from a perspective that that's not what it is.
Speaker 1:No, no, I saw that video of him giving.
Speaker 3:That's the first thing your mind go through. That is sexual, it's a massage. It's a massage. It's a mobile massage.
Speaker 1:Then why he got to be in his drawers.
Speaker 3:He is not in his drawers, he's in a massage outfit. We not going to talk about this, uh-uh. No, look at what is it's making you. All right, it's not your thing.
Speaker 1:Look, any guys on this chat right here. Have y'all seen this video where this guy I mean he all oiled up, muscular, all oiled up, and he bring the table to the house or whatever like that, and he?
Speaker 3:is getting a massage. No oil on him at all.
Speaker 1:He is all oiled up. He all oiled up, looking all shiny like grease, like he coming out, like he a chicken or something like that I'm gonna find the video and we gonna post it next time. Alright, but that joke of theirs is I mean, give it up. No, mm-mm Lucille agree with that. She says look, I know that's right, brother. No, no, no, that's right.
Speaker 3:Whatever Lindsay said, at times it's not all it seems to be so water your own grass lindsey, we were talking about that some people like they. They always think the grass is green on the other side. But if you nurture and water your grass, your grass will be just just as green.
Speaker 1:yeah, because even if you go to the other side, right and and you don't water and notch, it's going to be just as dead as what you think was on the other side.
Speaker 1:There you go, right. So you got to make sure that you do everything you can in order for your marriage to live. Now, some marriages, if you fall, if that person don't love, it's just dead with a plant. It's just, some plants are dead, ain't nothing you can do, but some plants I ain't even looking, but some plants you got to just repot it. Yeah Right. Put some new soil in it, put some new soil in it, fertilize it and everything.
Speaker 3:Get a bigger pot. Get a bigger pot so it can expand its territory.
Speaker 1:Oh, expanded territory. Oh man, you prophesied. Sometimes you got to get a bigger pot because you're so small minded. You got to think big. You and your spouse got to think big in order for your marriage to grow.
Speaker 3:Absolutely. And Melissa said most importantly, don't compare yourself to what others have. Because that is so true, because so many people and this is people look at Eric and I and people be like, oh, I want what they have. They look like they're just so loving what Eric and I have gone through. Some people we have lost it. Yeah, yeah, you don't want that. You don't want that Too much is given.
Speaker 1:Much is required.
Speaker 3:And when people say well, you guys, it looks so easy. What it's not easy? No, it's not. So I agree with you on that, cousin, I truly do.
Speaker 1:Oh, that was peaches. You can find that guy. No, you can't find him. We'll talk.
Speaker 3:No massages at all. Jordan, the massage outfit.
Speaker 1:That's it, jordan. I'm telling you, it's not Massage outfit, that just draws.
Speaker 3:When I find the video, when I find the video, but, like I said, send the link. That's my daughter.
Speaker 1:Izzy says that man nasty, he be doing too much. You don't see the video, and it is I know you don't see the video Mm-hmm. Uh-huh. And Rob G said thank you, Rob. Rob, I know what video you're talking about, Pastor. It's not happening, that's right. I'm telling you it's not happening, it's not happening right.
Speaker 3:If it's the brother.
Speaker 1:You say is the brother your thing? Are you talking about? Absolutely not. That's right, that's it.
Speaker 3:Melissa says focus on what you have, because everything that glitters ain't go and yuck. Keep that grass water. That girl is dropping nuggets.
Speaker 1:All right, that's it. Yes, sir. Well, we want to thank you all for joining us tonight. We love the conversation. We thank you, thank you. Thank you for joining and, again, you could have been doing something else this Monday, but you decided to join us. I want you to make sure that you join us. In two weeks We'll be doing an interview.
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Speaker 1:Oh, lucia said I'm calling your mama right now. Call all, yeah, that's it. That's it, that's it, yeah. So you got any parting words, babe? You got any parting words that you want?
Speaker 3:to just go out, there be great love on one another. Remember always try and find whatever it was that you that made you fall in love with that person. Sometimes you get upset and you be like like I was saying something to one of my co-workers and I said eric is so lucky, he's so cute. I'm ready to call him and tell him off. I say, but you know what?
Speaker 1:What did I do I?
Speaker 3:can't remember. Okay, probably not. It's probably something that you didn't do, that you didn't know you were supposed to do, or something I'm conjuring up in my mind. Like you know what he think he's slick, and then I'd be like he lucky, he's so cute, just so cute, just so cute. And so I just kind of remind you just whatever it is, go out there, be great guys, tell the world about your beautiful wife and how much you adore her. Be a little careful, because sometimes, when other women hear how much you like, your wife.
Speaker 1:They try to hit on you, but then remind them that she is the one, she's the one, so and I say my thing is celebrate, celebrate your spouse, celebrate them, no matter what, how little is and, like you said, it's gonna be the little things. Whatever the little things is, celebrate. You know, write the notes, do a sticky, get a yellow sticky and just write I love you. Put it in the car. You know, do something. You don't have to go and get a dozen of roses and all that stuff. Like you say, it's the little things. Buy their favorite candy, you know, buy their favorite soda or whatever it is. But, you know, do something for your spouse and celebrate, please this year. Celebrate one another, yep, celebrate one another, all right. Well, good night and happy 2025, everybody. God bless you.
Speaker 3:Thank you so much for joining us.
