Marriage in Real Life
Marriage in Real Life
Season 3 Kickoff - A Conversation around the Tim Ross Viral Video about a Man's Role in Marrige
Have you ever wondered how to weather both personal storms and actual ones? Join us as we kick off Season 3. We start by sharing our summer adventures, from attending a transformative conference in Lakeland and reconnecting with cherished mentors to attending the Florida Baptist Black Multicultural event. Amid joyous reunions, we also brace for the impending threat of a hurricane, emphasizing the importance of community safety and preparedness. Our hearts go out to those in South Florida, and we end this segment with a prayer for protection and strength.
Marriage is often seen as a journey requiring communication, sacrifice, and understanding. Inspired by a thought-provoking video with Tim Ross, we unravel a biblical perspective on the role of men in marriage. Challenging traditional gender roles, we explore how selflessness and accountability can reshape relationships, drawing parallels to Christ’s love for the church. Through personal insights, we discuss how small gestures and daily acknowledgments foster empathy, mutual respect, and a deeper emotional connection between partners.
We tackled another video about how women should treat their husbands. Noting that communication is key, but keeping it healthy is a challenge many couples face. We tackle the art of resolving minor grievances and preventing unnecessary conflicts, sharing personal anecdotes highlighting the complexities of married life. Along the way, we offer practical tips for appreciating your spouse and discovering the power of empathy and positive reinforcement. We aim to encourage a supportive atmosphere where love and respect flourish by focusing on understanding and letting go of the little things.
Thank you for joining us on this heartfelt journey, and we hope our stories and insights resonate with you and your relationships.
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I'm glad to be here too. Thank you so much, yeah.
Speaker 2:There we go. That mic is on now. There we go. Well, we're back, baby, it's good. I got to get another. I got to get another, it's really, really good to be back.
Speaker 1:Thank you, guys so much for joining us and staying loyal to the podcast. Yes, we appreciate you.
Speaker 2:We really do appreciate you. We really do appreciate you. So you know, man, it's been a minute since we've been here.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, it's been a minute. We've been busy Is your volume down. I'm not sure Okay.
Speaker 2:We got to get back into it, you know, running the podcast. Yeah, hey, ferg, how you doing Ferg? Give Ferg a shout out. Hey, ferg, how you doing? You with us All right, hey, well, hey, please make sure you put in the chat your name, you know, and give a shout out where you're watching from and we could give you a shout out. We, thank you know. We just thank God for you know, you know. We just. I just want to start it out with giving praise to God, amen, amen.
Speaker 2:He deserves it, cause we made it another season. We made it another during the summer. We know that it's a hurricane out there, yeah, yeah, during the summer. We know that it's a hurricane out there, yeah, you know. So we'll be buckled down here the next couple of days. You know, you got your news. You ain't got to go to work. Plus, I just hate the fact that we have to make it up. Oh, yeah, you got to make it up. We have to make it up. Yeah, you got to make it up.
Speaker 1:You can be joyful now, but at the end, when they take away One of them Christmas days or that Thanksgiving day You'll be like man.
Speaker 4:Man you know.
Speaker 1:But you know, to God be the glory. You know, at least they see fit to keep us safe Right now. Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2:I'd rather have a makeup day Than an emergency day, you know. Amen, so yes, or a funeral day. You know I'd rather have a makeup day than a funeral day. So thank God for that, you know. And so, hey, we want to make sure that. I think Rob and Janelle, you know they're in Orlando and I reached out to them and said, you know, they're just thinking about flood and everything like that, so they're going to try to hang prayer right, you know it's gonna be a lot of flooding, you know it's, it's a, it's a big thing. Matter of fact, when I was watching the news today, uh, the guy I forgot what channel he was he almost max max the weatherman, you know the hurricane guy. He almost cried oh wow for the people on the yucatan.
Speaker 2:No, the yucatan, he said, because it's a five now and they're going to get the brunt of it. On the right, on the right hand side, they're going to get the brunt of it, you know so, by the time it gets to tampa, whatever should be three, but still they're going to get a brunt of it. So we got to make sure we, you know, we keep them in prayer. Uh, we don't want, you know, we don't want no, um, no, nobody to die no casualties.
Speaker 2:So if anybody say to you you need to evacuate, you got to evacuate. That's just the way it is Right, all right. So we just keep them up in prayer, all right, all right. So, hey, so what's been happening? We think again Ferg, all is well. He was supposed to fly out of Miami on Thursday morning. You mean, ferg, are you here in Florida? Or you say, fly out of Miami, or you are you supposed to fly to Miami and go to somewhere else, because Thursday morning that ain't happening, brother, that is not happening. That is not happening at all. So let us know what exactly you're talking about, ferg. All right. So what's been happening? Let's go over some things and get ready for this new season. But you know, we had some summer conferences that we went to yes, we did.
Speaker 1:Yeah, lovely the organization it was raised in. They had their 100th year conference, so I took a ride down to Lakeland.
Speaker 2:Yeah yeah, it was lakeland. Yeah yeah, we had a good time too.
Speaker 1:We had a good time yeah, it was great, great seeing um the people that mentor us and and bought us up in church as well as you know, the friends we used to hang out with and hide from church so we got to see them and it was was great. It was really great. I totally enjoyed it, and then we went to the Black Multiculture.
Speaker 2:Black Multiculture, the Florida Baptist Black Multiculture, and that was a good conference as well it was a good conference, yeah yeah, but you know, you know I'll tell you. But the Church of God boy, it was whoo. That was some good music boy. Look at that.
Speaker 1:Some good churching.
Speaker 2:That was some good churching. There, boy, we had some good churching, that was some good churching. So you know, that was some really going back.
Speaker 1:You know, like you said Kind, of go back to our New Covenant days, oh God.
Speaker 2:Yeah, ferg, you remember those New Covenant days? I would say yeah. So first he was supposed to go to Miami and then to the DR. Well, brother, I don't think that's going to happen. You need to check the airlines.
Speaker 1:I'll pray. I'll pray.
Speaker 2:Bro, it's going to be crazy, you know, but they, you know, school is closed on Wednesday and Thursday. So you know, just make sure, like you say, check the airlines. We see Jordan and here's Little Richards here in Fort Lauderdale. We're going to get a little Richards here in Fort Lauderdale, we're going to give a little Jordan, the little Richards.
Speaker 2:Hey little Richards, hey Amai, we got to give a shout out to Amai, got to give a shout out to her. So, yeah, so those are some things that we did. We went to a marriage retreat. Yes, oh, man.
Speaker 1:That was good. That was really really good. You know, no matter how long you live with a person or are married to a person, you learn something about that person every day. I learned so much about you at the retreat. Okay, you know, and I truly enjoyed us going on the retreat because, we're so used to giving our retreat, so we got a little bit of virtue return into us and more information that we could pass on to our retreat on October 26th.
Speaker 2:Yeah, 25. Yeah, we're looking to 25. Yeah, we're looking forward to that.
Speaker 1:I'm really excited about sharing the things that we learned about you know communication communication, boundary space. Yeah, you know stuff like that.
Speaker 2:Yeah, you know, yeah you know doing the everyday thing, you know Every day, yeah, so that was really good it was and I think it really helped our marriage. You know, yeah, I think so, yeah, I think so. You know, so, yeah, and I forgot to tell you today. I forgot to tell you online. You're so beautiful.
Speaker 1:You're so crazy. Thank you, babe. It's like you had some music. All right, thank you, baby. Thank you All right.
Speaker 2:Well, we know, jordan and Malaika celebrated five years Yay. All right Little Richard's five years.
Speaker 1:They're doing it.
Speaker 2:They're doing that thing, you know. You know, that's what we say Congratulations to them. Yeah, we know. And Ty and Lindsay, they had a baby shower, so we're going to be welcoming, you know, a new baby to the family. Yeah, so we're excited about that. All right, we see my friend, mr Fawn from Atlanta. All right, yay, we give a shout out to Mr Fawn from Atlanta. Man, we go way back Hi, Mr Fawn. Yeah, man, and remember, and remember. He used to. You know, um, be in atlanta and teach our kids.
Speaker 2:You know, especially during the pandemic, I've been trying to get him to move down here for the longest to be part of the church right now, nobody wants to move yeah, I've been trying to get him down here, say, but you, hey, you, you the youth pastor, you the children's director, because he's really good at what he does, you know. But now he's a teacher, uh, working for the school board there. So you know, we thank God for him, you know.
Speaker 1:Well, they're lucky to have him.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah yeah, I mean he has a comic book series. You know that really helps people count and he has a comic book series, so you know, really give a shout out to him, so they're lucky to have him all right. So we got to spend some time with Sugar Mama and Cookie.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. God is so good.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:I bought teachers down for a spell and I got a chance to hang out with the grands.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, that was really cool, right, right, right, that was really good, you know. And then we welcomed a great grandbaby, shh Shh, a great grandbaby. We're not that old, but it's, you know, it's the oldest grand, you know, you know. So I mean, people look at us, oh, y'all got a great grandbaby, but you got to understand that our oldest kids are what? 41?, 41., 41. So, yeah, so you know, you look good To be a grandma, yeah, you look good. Nobody can tell me that we got children. That's 40 and then we got grandkids, until we tell them, until we tell them, as we said at the retreat.
Speaker 1:It was like well, our oldest will be 41 and it was like wait a minute, y'all look like y'all in y'all
Speaker 2:40s yeah.
Speaker 1:That's just the grace of God. You know, when you serve him and he's your guy, you know he covers you with that grace. So, you know, you.
Speaker 2:You know, even though you may be going through some things in your life you don't have that, that look of worry or like you've been through the mud. So you know grace is sufficient in so many ways.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah yeah, yeah for a time I say that again a great grandkid.
Speaker 2:All right, I got you all right so we're excited about it. Um, season three. Yes, we're excited about season three. All right, we, um, we're gonna have some interviews with, in the interviews with um, other individuals and as well as couples. We want to bring them on and let them talk and you know, and we can ask them questions and people can call in, you know, and ask questions to the couple or the individual, you know. So it just won't be hearing from us, but we'll be interviewing some people. That's knowledgeable in marriage, been married a while, and maybe we get some couples that just got married, you know, just to describe, you know what they've been going through, you know. So, yeah, so, hey, think of just another thought. We had another group, that's another couple that's added Dennis, right, yeah, dennis and Cynthia. Yeah, we give a shout out to them. They just got married september 7th.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, I performed their wedding right here yeah, whoa, it's been a month today, yeah, yeah, yeah so congratulations to them.
Speaker 2:They've been added to the added to the group. So, um, we want to know that, uh, on october 21st october 21st, um, we have a interview with pastor annette bar. Right, she's going to be here, yeah, so we're going to be excited. You know she's our next guest. Uh, pastor net bar, she's going to be, and you know, I think you you wanted to try to really hit that series, um, on wedding vows, and she's going to hit too. You know she's going to be and you know, I think you wanted to try to really hit that series on wedding vows and she's going to hit too.
Speaker 2:You know she's going to hit in sickness and in health, until death. Do us part. And we're going to just talk to her. You know as much as she wants to talk about it. She says she's willing to talk. You know her in a bishop and you know her taking over church and you know just, you know a lot of couples think this thing is easy. You know this thing ain't easy, man. It's because it's till death. Do you part, right? You know, and you know some people want to say well, that death means death in love or death in this. No, no, no, no, no, no. Till you literally die. You know you got a covenant. This is not a contract, right? Right? You know, we, we, we. This is a covenant. When you stand in front of the, when you stand in front of God, you stand on the altar, you come down, you do your pre-marriage counseling. You know this is a covenant. You know it definitely is.
Speaker 1:Right on with the internet, and you know I'm a tiktoker, you know so it's so much out there where you see people get married and separate. You're seeing people having babies out of wedlock and the relationships blowing up and there's no, no stability, no loyalty. You know, they think it's just a thing, it's just a ring, it's just a, the whole fun of it.
Speaker 1:But right but when it's a covenant, it's a commitment to last out until there's no more you, there's no more me. And I think once we get society back on that path where this is serious business getting married, this ain't no joking, this ain't no fun and games, you know then maybe we'll have a bit more positive images for our upcoming young adults and you.
Speaker 2:Right, definitely, yeah. So we're looking forward to our next guest. You know, pastor Annette Barr. You know, I think it's going to be real, real good for her and we just want to give her a shout out for us with information, good information.
Speaker 1:Those that are getting married, for those that have been married and for those that that may be taking care of a loved one right, yeah, that's good, that's good, great information. So please tune in. Please tune in. She's very approachable, she's laid back, she's good people.
Speaker 2:Yeah, she is good people. She's good people. Well, we are ready to get started. All right, let's do it. Let's do this, all right. So you sent me this video and I had been seeing it going around too. And you know Tim Ross, you know, I know he's been on a hot topic, you know, with some things, but he really hit the nail on the head with this. He really hit the nail on the head, you know. So we're going to be looking at this, we're going to what we're going to do, we're going to hear it out all the way through.
Speaker 1:All the way through.
Speaker 2:Right, and then we're going to come back and going to cut it up a little bit.
Speaker 1:I have a pen, I'm ready.
Speaker 2:I don't have my pen, all right, so are you ready to go? I'm ready. All right, we're going to. All right, here we go.
Speaker 3:She All right, here we go. She don't do this, she don't do that, and I be working hard. I get no respect.
Speaker 3:I just be looking at him like man. It sounds like you're dying. He's like. That's exactly how I feel I said. That means you're doing it right. You wasn't meant to live through this marriage, fam. You came down to an altar. What do you think happens at altars? So Ephesians 5 says husbands, love your wives like Christ loves the church. The onus is on the man and we keep abdicating our responsibility to the woman. We've been doing it since Genesis 3, the woman you gave me. Well, adam was really in his position. He would have took the fruit out of her hand and chucked it and then went straight to God on Eve's behalf To say I know she should die. Take me instead. If it would have played out in Genesis three like that, what do you think her response is going to be? She just watched her man take her penalty. Worship, the respect that the man wants, is on the other side of his death and his sacrifice.
Speaker 1:What does it mean?
Speaker 3:to die practically. Your ego goes away, pride goes away. You work and you stop trying to make it seem like it's the biggest sacrifice of all time. You wasn't meant to live through this marriage, fam. You came down to an altar. You didn't slide down into a swimming pool. You were baby old. I can't help it.
Speaker 2:Tag out, tag out.
Speaker 3:What Christ did for his bride.
Speaker 1:All right, that's it right there hey.
Speaker 2:All right, all right, so yeah. So what did you think of that?
Speaker 1:Well, I sent it to you because it was some things in there like that was. I was like he he's, he's dropping some knowledge, um, and I. I think what really got my attention about it is when, um, he said adam should have took the apple from her and threw it. And you know I always made a little joke about, hey, you know what? Adam went and ate that apple if he was cooking dinner that night you know if he would have been handling things at night then this wouldn't happen.
Speaker 1:But I also know that it was a divine purpose for it to happen right, right, right you know for it to happen, in order for us to be in where we are today, but still, I mean you think.
Speaker 2:You think that because when god made us with a choice that adam did, adam didn't. Adam chose not to do what he was supposed to do.
Speaker 1:I think he could have said no, eve, we're not supposed to eat from this tree. Now you know, daddy going to be mad at you, right right. I mean, I guess we weren't. We don't know, but from what I'm thinking, it's like he didn't have to eat the apple Because he knew God created him first.
Speaker 2:Right and the information was given to Adam.
Speaker 1:And did he tell her Right?
Speaker 2:But he did tell her, didn't he? Yeah, but again, she got secondhand information, but the information was given to Adam. So that means if the information is given to you first, you are responsible for the information You're responsible. So, for instance, if I'm given information and I tell it to you, if somebody come and tell you, I say no, no, no, no, no, that's not what they said. You see, because you wasn't there. You see what I'm saying Patsy wasn't there, I was there. You see, because you wasn't there. You see what I'm saying. Patsy wasn't there, I was there. This is what they said. Right, so Adam was there when God was talking to him, and when he and the scripture says that Adam wasn't, it wasn't like Adam was a mile away or whatever, like that. He was near, he was near her.
Speaker 1:And so because he was, he was close enough to say hey.
Speaker 2:Hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. That's not what God said. Like you said, that's not what daddy said. He didn't say that. Don't listen to that joker, Don't listen to him.
Speaker 2:Don't listen to him, that's not what he said. But yet he didn't do that and he said look, eat, and he ate. So that was another thing, you know. He could have said what you eating this for I ain't eating this because God said this. You know what I mean. But he was, yeah, he was, you know, seduced by that woman.
Speaker 1:That's what he was love, honor obey so y'all be one of us to say, obey, uh-huh, okay, so I get it. But then another thing too, like how many men in this day and time is willing to take the penalty for their wives Really to?
Speaker 2:But, like he said, tim said that's what we're supposed to do. Like he said, you know, men come to him and say man, I'm dying, I'm dying inside because she's not listening to me or she's not doing this, and that's a whole communication piece that I seen this guy really, really talked about, and I'm going to say it. He said this is what this guy said when it came down to communication between a man and a woman All right, we're talking now, we're talking. All right, we're talking. All right, we talking now, we talking. All right, we talking, all right.
Speaker 2:And so he says you know, women be like, I want the guy to talk to me, I want my boy to talk to me, I want him to talk to me. And he says like this he says, as long as he's saying you know, you look good or this, and that you're all right with that, but the minute he says you ain't doing this right now, you got a problem. Right now, women usually have a problem, because now the man is saying you're not doing this what I want you to do, and now you got a problem, and then all you say, well, you don't. Well, you got to communicate both ways.
Speaker 1:Well, wait a minute, but that it, it, it it babe. What I'm just telling you what the guy said. It depends on how he says that. Oh man, I'm telling you, you know, we, we, we fragile and we nurturous. So how you approach us on certain things is going to determine how we, how we perceive it. Remember, I was, but I thought you, but I don't want you to come down and say, well, I need you to do this, I need you to do that, but say babe, when you get a moment, can you make sure you take care?
Speaker 2:of this.
Speaker 1:Can you take care of that? Like I come in when you're watching your football game not to disturb you, but I come and I say hey, babe, when you get a moment, I'm having a problem with logging on to something, I'm having a. When you get a moment, I come in. I don't you know what I'm saying. I, I get your attention. I don't want to disturb what you got going on. So it's how you approach. Remember, I said two people can say it's blue today and one person can think of you, see it as a color, and another person can see it as she's feeling blue, perceptive of how you, perception of how you give it.
Speaker 2:I'm just saying I'll make sure I send you that video too. He was hitting the nail on the head and maybe I said it wrong.
Speaker 2:No, no you probably said it right, but I understand Ferg says he said I was good at not making the misses the bad guy. If someone was done or needed to be done, I took the fall. It was my fault. Or I made the decision to protect my woman. Example, if she wanted to leave a gathering that I was having fun, I would say hey y'all, we out of here, not hey y'all. She is tired, so we leaving. All right, that's good for her.
Speaker 1:I like that.
Speaker 2:Hey, you so awesome hey you so awesome and that's what Tim was saying is that, look we as okay? Nothing in Ephesians 5,. If you look at that whole entire thing, it's more about what the man's responsibility is than the woman.
Speaker 1:Okay.
Speaker 2:You look at all those verses, you combine all all the verses. I think y'all got one verse, two verse I don't have my bob in front of me, you know I want to, but he got man and he and it just, and what it goes on to say. It describes how a man should love his wife as christ loved the church. And what did christ do for the church? He, he sacrificed himself. And so that's what Tim was saying. It's like look, if he would have got the apple and chunk it and said, went to the God and says, look, god. Or if she had ate the apple and he didn't eat the apple, he said, no, baby, no, no, no, no, no. He said, okay, let's go to God, let's go to our father and say, father, she deserves to die because she deserves to die because of sin.
Speaker 1:That's it Right. Right About sin in the garden. Yeah.
Speaker 2:You know about sin in the garden, but you know what? Don't hold her accountable. Hold me accountable, because I am the leader, I am, I am the one that you gave charge to. I was there and I didn't go and knock it out of hand or say this, and so you know what take me, don't take her. I will be redemption for her sin, and that's what men's supposed to do.
Speaker 2:As far as this is just said, is that we, um, we'll sacrifice ourselves, and that means, like he said, sacrificing our ego. We have to sacrifice that, and so that's what I tell in my counseling and with a lot of the, the guys. They got to need to know that, hey, this thing ain't no ego thing, right? Don't get off on what culture say. Don't get off on this male chauvinist, don't get off this, uh, you know all this kind of of stuff, and but you know you are there to sacrifice your time, your ego and everything for your wife, because it says, as you husbands love your wife, as Christ loved the church. And then he went on to say what Tim says if he would have did that, what does that bring Worship and obedience to a husband? Bring worship and obedience to her husband, because now her husband. You look at your husband, man, he took the bullet for me, yeah he did.
Speaker 2:He's taking the bullet, you know he's taking it. So you know. Whatever you want, baby, it's honor, whatever you need. So therefore, that's why it goes on. My wife will submit, and that's the word. Submit is not, or whatever you say, that it's honor.
Speaker 1:It is. I agree with that.
Speaker 2:That's what it is. The wife will honor the husband and say, okay, yeah, I remember the time you took that bullet for me. I remember that time. And so I, if you love me enough, boy, look here, don't get me started like I was yesterday while preaching yesterday. Look, if you love you, love me enough to take the bullet for me. Then, whatever you want, whatever you need, am I right about it? Yes, baby right I got first saying amen eric let's go to the next part okay, what was the next part?
Speaker 2:what you got? Can we play it again?
Speaker 1:no is there a penalty. Okay, we talked about the penalty. So, yeah, I don't remember the next part, but I'll play it again you know we'll have to play it again, but I get where he's coming from. As far as you know, like you signed up for this, you signed up for this.
Speaker 2:He said look, you came down to the altar. What do you do at the altar?
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 2:Let's go back to the Bible days, when they built an altar. What was the altar for?
Speaker 1:Worship.
Speaker 2:It was for worship and they just not built an altar. What did they do on the altar?
Speaker 1:They bought a sacrifice, they bought a sacrifice and they killed the sacrifice.
Speaker 2:So what he was saying is that man, I feel like I'm dying what you're supposed to die. You came down to the altar.
Speaker 1:That's interesting because when you're getting married, you walk down the aisle and you go to the altar.
Speaker 2:You go to the altar.
Speaker 1:So he's making this sacrifice and he's literally. What he's saying is that he should be killing his ego. Killing his ego, Killing the attitude.
Speaker 2:She's killing her attitude, she's killing all of the things that he's killing the ego, the male ego, and all of this kind of stuff. And he says, well, now, two becomes one flesh, one flesh, so all of that stuff. You're saying that, well, this is how I am, this is my family, this, and that Now we do know it's going to take time, because now two people, but there should be a constant killing of who you were Right, not saying that you can't be who you are, but it's some things that you say, well, this is, you know, I don't want to give this up, I don't want to give this up. No, you got to give something up, you got to kill some things in order to make your marriage work.
Speaker 1:I agree with that.
Speaker 2:Right, you got to kill some things, for you know. Amen, I like Ferg. Ferg is on it. Hey, who else is on there? I don't see the little Richard saying that. Mr Fawn, not saying that. We got people on here. Come on, y'all tell us where you're from and chime in on the comments. Let us know we going on the right track, maybe going on the wrong track?
Speaker 1:If you have an opinion, please chime in, let us know.
Speaker 2:Please chime in, let us know. Alright, and first I would say and feel that what went on and did not go on in my house is my responsibility. And he put the letters capital my responsibility, not that I'm. What is it what is it? Not that I'm a lot of responsibility? And she is, and she has grown with her own mind. But that is manhood. Step up, all right. I got dropped the mic because you know, as I talk to a lot, step up, all right.
Speaker 1:Fergie, I got you Drop the mic Because, you know, as I talk to a lot of, as I talk to married women that are going through trials in their relationship.
Speaker 1:I hear a lot of he don't respect me or how am I supposed to follow him if he's not leading, and you know just so many different things. So I think this is definitely a eye opener to you know, the direction in the guide, pretty much the manual that God created for husband to take on. How can you, how can you not love your wife when the Bible says that Christ loved the church? The church is Christ's bride and he don't mistreat us, oh man, and he treats. He treats us with the utmost respect. He gave his life for us.
Speaker 1:So therefore that husband should be stepping up to do the same thing you know, so I, you know, and this is really helping me to do the same thing. You know, so I you know, and this is really helping me to encourage them. You know, I guess, how to, because sometimes we don't know how to approach the situation when we feel like we're not being treated right. We don't want to nag, but we don't want to shut down either. So if we shut down once a woman shut down the relationship been over. It's like she's tried everything that she could try and she's just chief in the bounds.
Speaker 2:Chief in the bounds.
Speaker 1:Chief in the bounds and I try to encourage them, you know, to communicate, talk more. At the end of the day, don't do it for your children, you know, because your children are going to see dysfunction.
Speaker 2:Children are going to get grown too.
Speaker 1:And they're going to grow up and they're going to move away.
Speaker 2:Right right.
Speaker 1:So yeah, this is good.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, yeah, I'm learning something over here I'm learning something, man, I'm telling you, and that's what it's all about. It doesn't matter how long you've been married. You know you can always learn something. Right, you can always learn something. It's little nuggets that you get.
Speaker 2:You hear, and, believe me, I taught about Christ, loving the church, but just to hear it break it down and just speak candid. You know what I mean. And that's the thing about too, when you get to pre-marriage counseling or pastors and things like that, when you, when you got a counselor that would speak candid about it, you know what I mean. Or, like we would tell people, you know, find a couple, find a mentor couple that you need. You know that you can talk to couple. Find a mentor couple that you need. You know that you can talk to. Um, I heard um. One person said that they, they, uh, as a husband and wife, they agree uh upon uh that if they ever got into a art, a deep argument, they would stop and call the couple and the couple, you know, is not coming to take sides, but they bouncing it off the couple and they agreed who this couple is right and so they wouldn't go too far.
Speaker 2:So that'll be helpful yeah, that'll be helpful. You know you, you find your couple, you know so um, all right, it says okay, I got mr fawn on here. He says women, we never discuss both sides equally. All right, so what you talking about? I know we hitting hard on the man tonight, mr Fawn, that's how we do sometimes. Sometimes, you know, I hit the man.
Speaker 1:Hard I be in y'all corner. I be like well, wait a minute now, because it takes two. And I totally agree, though I agree with you on that, mr fine, because sometimes, when we get heated, we so go ahead, go ahead, man when we get heated, we ain't thinking about your side right now.
Speaker 1:You know, because now we're looking at my side and sometimes it is. It's so true that it's not equal, but that's when you know, when you in that relationship, or you in that marriage, or you got to learn how to um, we learn in the um, in a marriage retreat, you have to separate and come back to it. Yeah, cause that's the only way we're going to get both sides.
Speaker 1:And it's the only way we're going to come up with an equal resolution for whatever it is that we're going to. So they really taught us, you know, to kind of step away, take a moment, regroup and then but don't let the sun go down with that issue, Right, right, but you can't discuss it when everybody's heated. You're not going to get to a resolution if we're both, because if I'm yelling and you're yelling, we don't hear each other.
Speaker 1:Because, we're both trying to get our point across. Sometimes it comes where you have to get, to that point where you have to step away and, in Eric's situation, eric will leave me arguing and fussing all by myself. All by yourself.
Speaker 2:All by myself, let me give baby. All by myself, let me give you a clap on that one.
Speaker 1:But when he does that, I hop in the car, I go for a drive and I turn my ringer off. Well, now he want to know where I am. Oh no, dude, you didn't want to talk to me earlier, but see isn't that terrible.
Speaker 2:You didn't want to talk to me early or something, but see, isn't that that's terrible? Because now you're leaving the house and I'm trying to call you, just to you know, if you're gone for a long time. Now, if you just you know, if you're just gone for five, ten minutes, I'm not worried, but if you're gone for an hour or whatever, I get worried and I should be able to call you. You know, at least after 30 minutes you should be able to turn your ringer back on. You don't think that's fair?
Speaker 1:Well, yeah.
Speaker 2:All right then.
Speaker 1:I mean, I'm just saying like sometimes that's the direction that we'll take. We'll be like you know what? He don't want to talk. Okay, fine, I'm in the balance, I'm just going to go for a ride, but now, after 30 minutes, now you want to talk?
Speaker 2:But you didn't want to talk before, because this is what I'm saying After 30 minutes. I'm just checking to make sure you are alright.
Speaker 1:It doesn't matter if you're out there and I'm mad at you, or you call and I text and say I'm good, you're good.
Speaker 2:Okay.
Speaker 4:I'll do that, don't be, doing that.
Speaker 2:Look at that. Hey, I ain't giving you permission to do that now, but I'm just letting you know. You know, I just hey, after 30 minutes. You know? Thank you, jordan, that's my son Boy. I'm telling you that's awful. Don't cause him unnecessary worry.
Speaker 1:Oh, my goodness, that's it. That's it, son.
Speaker 2:Mommy's little man, that's it. That's it, son Mommy's a little man. That's right, Because you're causing me unnecessary worry, right? So after a while, if I text you or you know we got phones that you can just talk in.
Speaker 1:Listen, let's go back to this. No, no.
Speaker 2:We talking about this. You know, you could just say look, I'm good, all right, good, alright good, and so when you come back we could talk.
Speaker 1:I mean, I understand when you out when I come back. I don't want to talk. Why not Cause you didn't want to talk when I wanted to talk, so now it's nothing to discuss.
Speaker 2:So how are we going to tell people Not for it to go To go to bed or go to sun or not, if you come back and you don't want to talk?
Speaker 1:I don't want to talk. I'm not mad, but I don't want to talk.
Speaker 2:But how do we resolve it?
Speaker 1:We don't. I mean, have we been in a situation where we haven't had it resolved? We always resolve it. We can resolve it the next morning or whatever. But that's what I'm just saying. Sometimes it's just not equal. Mr Fun says All right. Talk to us wait a minute first and look at eric doing the right thing even in anger, showing that you see uh-huh, that's easy see, that's even some saying.
Speaker 2:For I do the right thing, you know, even in state instilling anger, because you know, I don't say one thing, I one thing we don't say, we don't get it out in black people. We, you know, we don't say fight, because fight is that's a totally different world. But we have an, an argument hey, I still love you. I mean, even in anger, I still. Just because I don't answer, don't mean that I don't love you, that don't mean. But it's still. I worry, like Jordan says, that's awful, don't cause him unnecessary worry. You know he goes. I'm a like a, sometimes I'm good.
Speaker 1:Yeah, you know. Mr Fon said men want to be heard, women want to be understood. Women need to understand and hearing, men need to know what understanding looks like. I like that.
Speaker 2:Okay, all right, I like that. All right, that's good, mr Fon. Oh, yeah, that's good, Mr Fung.
Speaker 1:That's so true because we do. We want to be understood and sometimes men in general, they act like they.
Speaker 2:Well, explain to me. When he says men need to know what understanding looks like, what does that mean? What does that mean? What do you think that means? What do you think that means? What do you think that?
Speaker 1:means. Let me think about that.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:Because, I mean, I understand. Men need to know what understanding looks like.
Speaker 2:Mm-hmm, what do you think that means?
Speaker 1:Doing their part, capping out, taking the load off.
Speaker 2:Oh, you got to talk in your mic baby.
Speaker 1:Oh, sorry about that. Oh, you're going off now Taking the load off, oh you gotta talk in your mic. Oh, you're going off now taking the load off to take. You know, understanding is like knowing. Okay, I saw this, this one video where this, this woman came in from work and she came in. She, she came in with the, with the um, with the groceries right. She went right to the kitchen kicked her shoes off and then she start taking the groceries right.
Speaker 1:She went right to the kitchen, kicked her shoes off and then she started taking the groceries out of the bag and her husband came up to her and put his hand at the back of her shirt and took her bra loose.
Speaker 1:And it was like whoa, like, if you only know the restriction of a bra and just the fact that he thought you know, you know that it was just like, okay, that was awesome. You know, it's like knowing the little things and doing them without being told or asked to do them. That's understanding, like sometimes, when you I'll be, you'll come and tell me something, and that you know.
Speaker 3:I try to show interest.
Speaker 1:You come and tell me something about somebody you know I try to show interest. You come and tell me something about somebody the football game, whatever and while you're there you just grab my foot and you start rubbing my foot.
Speaker 2:Yeah, that was good.
Speaker 1:You know, that's understanding because, I didn't ask for that, it was nice. You know, and I appreciate that. But that also goes the opposite way as well With women, goes the opposite way as well with women. We have to be able to see those little things, because sometimes it's the little things that make the biggest difference. You know, and it's not always saying okay, baby, I understand, you went to the hair salon and they cut your bangs too short and they don't look that bad. You know, you know it's crazy.
Speaker 1:I'm like it's not always that stuff, it's the little things.
Speaker 2:Right.
Speaker 1:I think, if men just grasp that understanding, I think mostly everything else will fall into place.
Speaker 2:Okay, okay.
Speaker 1:Malika All right.
Speaker 2:What does Malika say?
Speaker 1:Malika say you can check my location. Oh, you can check it. God in love, we ain't finna get no tracker.
Speaker 2:Well, hey, they have those. You know where you can see. They have those. But you look at the tracker and see where you're at. Did you know that Now?
Speaker 1:I do, now you do, I'll be tracking you, bro.
Speaker 2:Oh boy, you done started something. Malaika, you done started something, all right.
Speaker 1:So Mr Fon says when a man responds to what she is expressing and doesn't react to what she is saying, she knows he understands exactly, exactly. It's not always. We want you to fix it. We don't always want you to fix it.
Speaker 2:All right, you say exactly Like you said. I think understanding is being able to empathize.
Speaker 1:Mm-hmm.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:That's why I say, like when he walks up to his wife he goes how was your day? And he just you know he was hugging her and then just all of a sudden just slipped his hands up the back. I'm that bra. You just don't know the relief and how sweet the fact that you thought because he's probably seen her say, oh my God, let me get out of this.
Speaker 2:Right, right.
Speaker 1:So it's somewhere, you know it's a little thing, but it's an important thing, you know. And for him to just know that that that was great, right, no, right, right, right, right. What's next? Good?
Speaker 2:chat. Yeah, I like this. You know we got a lot of people on, but we don't have a lot of people saying where they're watching from. So y'all, please, please, let us know. Please, let us know where you are watching from. Give us your name and we just want to give you a shout-out. We didn't give Malika a shout-out, so we got to give Malika a shout-out. Hey, we didn't give Malika a shout out, so we gotta give Malika a shout out, shout out, malika I love that girl, alright, so this is the next one the next video alright.
Speaker 2:So I want you to write these down. It's five tips to appreciate your spouse. Alright, five tips to appreciate your spouse, and I think this is going to win. When we talk about you know, when Mr Fon was saying you know about the woman, I think this is, this is good and we've touched on this. We have touched on this. So here we go. All right, here we go, here we go.
Speaker 1:And this is from a female point of view.
Speaker 3:Yeah, Sorry about that.
Speaker 4:I used to pick apart every little thing he did wrong. Now I focus on the things he does right. I used to get frustrated with imperfections and now I appreciate efforts. Let's talk about five tips of what you can do to really begin to appreciate your spouse instead of always feeling frustrated. Number one focus on the positives Every day.
Speaker 4:Make a point to acknowledge one thing that your spouse does well, whether it's something small like taking out the trash, or something bigger like showing up for you. Emotionally expressing gratitude builds appreciation. Number two pause before reacting when you notice something that irritates you. Take a deep breath and ask yourself is this worth arguing over? Number three recognize effort, not perfection. Celebrate your spouse's efforts, even if they don't meet your exact expectations. It's easy to focus on what went wrong, but acknowledging the attempt can go a long way for creating peace.
Speaker 4:Number four let go of the little things. Not everything needs to be a conversation or a correction. Let minor irritation slide, and this can prevent unnecessary conflict. And number five remember your own flaws. We all have imperfections. Reflecting on your own areas of growth can create a sense of empathy towards your partner's shortcomings. After all, if your spouse came and nitpicked at everything you didn't do well, it would hurt you deeply, so let's not do the same to your spouse okay, all right, that was good, that was good, that was good, okay, all right all, right all right, yeah, all right.
Speaker 2:So, um, that was good. Hey, we got Nat, hey Nat, hey, nat, hey Nat said congratulations on season three. Thank you, nat. Thank you, hey, that's right, nat cut her hair.
Speaker 1:Oh, yeah, that's right yeah, she looks so beautiful, mm-hmm.
Speaker 2:She's so I like her in a short haircut. I really do. Very very beautiful woman, very, very, very, very. You know. So you know, with that, I want anybody from Chicago, any guys from Chicago watching. You want to set that up no five tips. All right, I'm messing with you, nat, all right. So we're looking at five tips here, all right. So what was number one again?
Speaker 1:Number one was focus on the positive. Try and find something every day that's positive, that you could, I guess, praise or even let your husband know that he's doing a good job. We can't always come down, you know, and make them feel like they're not worthy. You know, say something.
Speaker 2:You know, say something nice yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, got to. Hey, y'all, you know. Again, I want to remind you please make sure you like and share. Like and share. We want to. We want to at least have 11 likes. You know 15 likes. So please stop what you're doing and make sure you like, like, like this video, all right, um, yeah, um, I think you should do that daily. You know, just do it daily. Hey, you know, I appreciate you, uh, taking the trash out. I appreciate you doing this, even though it may be something that he does all the time, or, you know, he expected, he expected of him. It's nice for to hear it from your wife. You know that. Hey, you know what. I appreciate that, because a lot of times we, a lot of times men, we just do things just to be doing it and, you know, just don't feel appreciative, you know, and we just do it just to do it. But just for our wives to say, you know what I appreciate you doing this, I appreciate you doing that, that really strokes our ego, okay.
Speaker 1:Let me just put it down Stroke Eric's ego. Oh, yes, okay.
Speaker 2:Oh geez, all right, all right, all right. So what was number two? What was number two Number?
Speaker 1:two says pause before reacting. Oh yes, yeah, and I have to say that I have done that. When I get at the door of the man cave, I pause Because I don't want to sue your homeowner's insurance if I fall and break something.
Speaker 2:Oh boy.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I agree, because I mean, even just in growing in marriage I I look at myself and I say, girl, you have grown in this marriage Because it used to be things that I would just go slap off the handle about and we go by the grace of God. God is so good. Now I kind of stand back and just do a quick observation of to do I want to deal with this or not, right?
Speaker 2:right right, right right right.
Speaker 1:Where is this going to lead? Because there may come a time when I may need to, you know, say something at this particular time. So yeah, pausing before reacting and saying things, that's going to damage the other person's ego, that's going to damage their self-esteem, and I think we always focus on a woman's self-esteem, a woman's self-esteem but we don't think about that. Men have self-esteem too, and when you talk down to them and belittle them, you can break them. I mean, y'all tell me if I'm right.
Speaker 2:Yeah, come on, guys, come on, I'm telling you right.
Speaker 1:Okay.
Speaker 2:I speak for the guys. They don't want to say nothing.
Speaker 1:I speak for them and the third one says recognize the efforts versus the flaws. So this is another thing. So if dad is doing bath time and just because he don't do bath time like you do bath time, doesn't mean that the bath didn't get done. So recognize the effort versus he didn't lotion the baby afterwards.
Speaker 2:Right right.
Speaker 1:Because you lotion the baby, because that that that makes them feel like I can't, I just can't get it right. So then you do it. Yeah, now you stuck doing all the bath time, right?
Speaker 2:you know, yeah, they had another video. I was talking about, I think, uh, and this is a good one um, putting um things in the dishwasher. That was a good one. And the wife came up and said why are you putting it in there like that? If you were to do it my way, you would get more dishes in. But then she had another person there and said why are you saying that he needs to do it? And she says, well, because he would get more dishes in there.
Speaker 2:But then she says, well, you've been saying to him all of this time that you want him to put the dishes in. This is what you've been saying. Does that little thing matter enough for you to come and say you need to do it my way? The dishes are being done right and it may not be done your way. And so now you want to make a big deal because he's not doing it your way. But he's doing something. And you've been saying all this time you're not helping, you're not helping, you're not helping. Well, I'm trying to help. And look, if I don't get all the dishes in, then I know I got to come back and get the dishes. At least I'm trying to help, you know.
Speaker 1:I wasn't going to bring it up, but you do know, I thought about it, I really thought about it.
Speaker 2:I wasn't even thinking about that.
Speaker 1:I did because guess what, fer, you got it right.
Speaker 2:But I don't see him fold them often.
Speaker 1:Yeah, because the last time I didn't, but I get that. I do get that because sometimes it's not how you get it done, as long as you get it done. And I think sometimes as women, we have such a strategic way that we do things and we see it not being done the way we do, because we think it, because we multitasking in between everything, we think that it's just. I'm going to be right.
Speaker 1:Now if I have to go back and fold the towels. You know I'll go back and fold the towels. That's used to be a problem.
Speaker 2:But the thing about it is I don't. But the thing about it is I don't when we talk about it a lot, but I don't think we've had no argument about me folding the towels or you're not helping. You know you're not doing that. You know what I'm saying and that's the focus of it. If you go around, if you, as your wife is saying you're not helping, you're not doing this, you're not doing that, you're not doing that Right, helping, you're not doing this, you're not doing that, you're not doing that right. And they are, they attempt to clean the tub, but they clean it with, with clorox and you clean it with the whatever the scrubbles, as long as it gets clean.
Speaker 1:It doesn't have to be your way you know, but if you put clorox in until it might get a rash or something come on, it's getting, it's gonna, you know.
Speaker 2:But then you, then you would say look, luke, babe, you know. You don't go in there and say, well, you know why you ain't doing it, why you ain't putting the scrub buzzers in it. Again, it goes back to how you say it. Right, your perspective, you know. And so you go in and say, hey, babe, hey, you know, try doing it this way, because the Clorox I don't know if you know, but the Clorox gives rash.
Speaker 1:Oh, I didn't know, you know.
Speaker 2:You know, because majority of guys we take a shower anyway, you know the guys take a shower anyway, so you know what I'm saying. So, um, yeah, it's just, it's just, but you can't be going complaining all the time he ain't helping around and he ain't helping around the house, and when he does something, you you not, not that you you say I thank you for, I'm thank you for doing it. Can you do it this way? Is you come down on them and that messes up, that messes up, and then what happens?
Speaker 1:fine, do it yourself you know and you don't want that. All right, okay. So, um, jordan says I always think about it this way, don't worry about work. Jordan says I always think about it this way, don't worry about work. You know what you are definitely my child Say right, according to basketball.
Speaker 2:Okay, jordan, say that again. Jordan, let's just not make more work for us later.
Speaker 1:See, that's what I'm talking about.
Speaker 2:But this is what I'm saying. You're saying for us why it has to be for us, right, why you say hey, babe, again, the next time you do it, you ain't got to do it. Is it getting done? Now it's getting done, but the next time you do it, can I make a suggestion for you? And you know how to, you know how to. If you know how to stroke a man, you can right you can say, hey, you know what you say. Look, if you want to get it done quicker, I got to wait for you to get it done quicker. Quicker, you know, because we're thinking, oh, as soon as I get it done, as soon as I can watch TV, I can do it. Okay, hey, help me happy out. So it's a way that you say that you know in order for it to happen. But if you come at a man or you come at anybody defensive, like why you doing it, the walls go up. It goes up, strictly go up. So it's communication. I agree with that.
Speaker 1:All right, what's next? Next one we kind of touched on that with the last um discussion says let go of the little things you know like my grandmother used to say choose your battles, choose your battles, you know so letting go of the little things are kind of like this as long as it gets done, why should it matter?
Speaker 1:um like, so I have something that remember. I said, eric, can you wash my car? And you was like, yeah, I'm going to wash your car. And then another week passed, eric, can you wash my car? And then he was like, yeah, pastor, I'm going to take your car to get it. No, I'm going to wash your car. I was like, okay, so week three, I'm going to get my car washed. You know I could have said you know, I asked you for three weeks to wash my car. And you said when I came back, oh, I was going to do that today I already spent. See, I had to let go of that little thing because, you know, I could have really just said I asked you for three weeks and you did it. But I went ahead and I took care of it. And then, when I came back, you owe me twenty seven dollars and ninety nine cents OK.
Speaker 1:I just I need that.
Speaker 2:All right, you need the $27.99.
Speaker 1:I need my money back, all right. So sometimes you just have to let go of the little things and move forward, because, trust me, as long as you're in a marriage, there's going to be some other things that come up, and the longer you're in a marriage, you're going to learn how to just, you know, solve problems um, solve issues without having to sit down and actually have a discussion about it too, because I find that some things that we may, we may agree on or we may bump heads about, it's not enough to be arguing and be mad at each other about it. Right, you know, right. So it's like we don't have time for that.
Speaker 1:We got too much going on to be fussing about something like that that's right, that's right um, yeah, so I think let go of the little things is important you know, as long as you know um little things aren't demeaning and and and cutting you down and making you feel um you know, obsolete, yeah, not important, not priority, you know you just let it go.
Speaker 2:Yeah, some things it ain't worth it's not worth, it's not worth. You know I think that's what happens sometimes in the marriage that people always think that they always got to be right, and so they have to argue about the little things. Some little things you don't have to argue about the little things.
Speaker 2:Some little things you don't have to argue about it's true you don't have to argue about to me if you keep when and when we say little things, we're just saying how you, how you do this, you know, like, again, like the dishes, you use all the laundry detergent and you don't replace it, and when the other person has to go do the laundry and there's no laundry detergent, it's no sense to argue about it.
Speaker 2:It's just say, hey, babe, can you go and get some detergent? Oh, okay, let me, you know, you know, you know. Just a reminder. But if you were to get in an argument like some people, right.
Speaker 2:Like some people, you know, and go off and go off. I mean, really really go off. You know that's not good. They could just hey, hey, did you, did you, oh, yeah, yeah, okay, let me go down to the you know wherever and get it. I just didn't remember to to do it right. So that's what we mean by little things. We're not talking about like, um, you spent a thousand dollars and we need to go, you know. Well, that's a little thing that some people. I want to add that you know, you know that'd be good and we don't need to argue about spending a thousand dollars. Praise the lord, we want to get that, we're gonna get there. We're gonna get there, we're gonna go to the dr yes, sir, why don't you tell us about that trip?
Speaker 2:for all right, all right, all right. So what? That was the last one oh, the last one.
Speaker 1:Oh yeah, remember, you have flaws oh, yeah, you know, and I mean even though she was given these, these, these steps go both ways you know from with guys, focus on what's positive. Maybe she didn't make good meatloaf, but the lasagna was good.
Speaker 2:We don't talk about the guys so much. I think this that's what. That's what mr fawn was saying. You know we don't.
Speaker 1:This is you know I'm just saying it goes both ways. It does go both ways, because sometimes we want to be encouraged too. Too, it says remember your own flaws. So remember that you have flaws as well as I have flaws. So let's not focus on the flaws, so let's move past the flaws and get to you know, another dimension, another level in the relationship.
Speaker 2:I think sometimes it happens that women think they're perfect.
Speaker 4:Yeah.
Speaker 2:I think that happens. Women think they're perfect, so they think they got to come down on the gal all the time. You don't think so.
Speaker 1:No.
Speaker 2:Oh, okay.
Speaker 1:We don't think we're perfect. Y'all are the ones who think y'all are perfect.
Speaker 2:Look what.
Speaker 1:I first said, the little things turn into big things that prevent marriages from making it. You know that is so true, yeah.
Speaker 2:And I know. That's why I was trying to say you know the little things you know. Hey, you know. Okay, you spent the dollar. I don't need to be arguing about spending a dollar. You know what I mean, because one of your things is that you keep sweeping things under the rug If it's a problem. There's a difference between little things and a problem. Little things.
Speaker 2:You see what I'm saying. A problem little things is that Now it becomes a problem. If we are on a budget and every dollar is counting, that becomes a problem. If we are on a budget, right, and every dollar is counting, that becomes a problem, right, because we're counting. We're counting, we're saving and we agreed that, hey, we can't be spending this, we can't be spending that, but you go out, one of us go out and spend it. Now it becomes a problem because we've agreed that we're trying to do it. So now that little thing is part of a problem, a problem because we've agreed that we're trying to do it. So now that little thing is part of a problem. But if it's not a problem, problem, right. If it's not a problem, that it's not good, that that it would cause life or death. It would cause us divorce, you know, it would cause us an argument. If it's not that, then don't argue about it.
Speaker 1:So, yeah, like if it's not Amazon, ups, fedex coming to the house every other day, yeah, yeah. If it's not that that's a little thing, that's a little thing.
Speaker 2:I mean, if you got your own money and you're spending it in FedEx and Amazon and everybody's coming, you know what do I need to go and say, well, why are you spending your money on FedEx? You know you got your own money, the bills are being paid, everything is being taken care of. Why would I get upset because you're spending your money that you made, that we already in a set of budget? Why would I get mad if you're spending all your money on Amazon?
Speaker 1:Because I'm spending yours. What are you talking about? Now, that's a problem. Now, that's a problem.
Speaker 2:Now that's a problem, but it's all the bills to pay.
Speaker 1:You got extra money. If all the bills are paid, you got extra money, so you might as well pass it on.
Speaker 2:Ferg say, I never realized it, but I found out this year that I do have a flaw Growth oh, geez Boy Okay.
Speaker 1:All right, Perfect geez Boy.
Speaker 2:Okay, all right, perfect, perfect, perfect, ferg, perfect, flaw.
Speaker 1:Growth. All right, yeah, so that was the last one. And it said remember your own flaws. And I think we can just take that around the board and you know. So that way we can focus on our shortcomings and not focus on our spouse's shortcomings.
Speaker 2:Right our shortcomings and not focus on our spouse's shortcomings. Right, right, right, right. Okay, I agree with that. All right, good, good man, hey, good, season three started. I think that was a good season three started. All right, let us know that we started out good. Yes, yes, yes, and you know, please, please, let us know. You can send us an email at marriageinreallifeatreallifesflchurch Again, marriageinreallifeatreallifesflchurch, and let us know some topics. Right, let us know some topics, or you can put it in the comments yes.
Speaker 2:Put it in the comments, not in the chat. Put it in the comments because you know the chat, you know we have to go back the chat disappeared.
Speaker 2:Yeah, comments, because you know the chat. You know we have to go back, but, yeah, but go put it in the comments. Hey, I like this. What about talking about this? What about talking about that? Even you know, let's just put it in there and let us know and we can say, hey, let's talk about this because so many people want to talk about it, let's just do it. You know, right, you know we may just want to interview you, you know, or something like that. So, um, you know, in the future we'll put out a link if you want to get on the video and we can, we can video right in now, if you, we got about, maybe about two or three minutes, nine, I mean seven, five, four, two, two, two, two, two, one nine.
Speaker 2:Seven, five, four, two, two, two, two, two, one, nine. If you want to call in, you can do that. Uh, we'd love to hear from you. If you want to say congratulations on season three, you can call in for that. Or you just want to put it in the chat, you can All right. And you say prayers for everyone in the path of the storm. Yes, we are praying for it. We're going to make sure we say that prayer before we leave tonight. Prayers for everyone in the storm. It's a big storm. It is a big storm. It is a big storm, and so we're going to make sure that you know. Uh, you got people on, you got people on the, on the, on the tube, on the youtube, talking about rebuke, rebuking. Um, what his name? Maroc? What is the name? Milton? And going this way, going that way. You know, hey, look, we just you know.
Speaker 1:We need to also just remember that it's too right behind him.
Speaker 2:That's what I heard too. I heard it's, it's you know's. Two right behind him. That's what I heard too. I heard it's you know that's what?
Speaker 1:Two right behind him and he's pulling them with him. So we just we definitely want to pray for that one.
Speaker 2:Man, I'm telling you they need to go on, you know? So, yeah. So All right, you, good baby, have a good season. Three amen, yeah, amen, hey, thanks, Nikki, hey, Nikki, Nikki, Nikki. Man, I tell you that's another. We've got another beautiful daughter.
Speaker 1:I'm telling you man, hey boy.
Speaker 2:We did the thing, we did the thing, man, I tell you, I tell you, I tell you.
Speaker 1:We have beautiful children. God is blessed.
Speaker 2:God is blessed and I know, me and Jordan. You know with the husbands we're going to be. You have to take them out, you know and talk to them a little bit.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, and I'll just hide in the back, you know.
Speaker 2:No, you ain't got to hide in the back. You know me and Jordan are going to do it.
Speaker 1:We're going to do our thing.
Speaker 2:You know you, sarah, we're just going to ride behind. No, sarah ain't got anything, he ain't got anything. Yes, yes. Again, we just want to thank you for joining with us tonight. It's been a great show and we look forward to having Pastor Annette Barr here on the 21st.
Speaker 2:As she talks about, you know, in-depth, do us part and sickness and in health, you know so she'll be with part and sickness and in health, you know so she'll be with us on the 21st of October. She'll be right here in the studio, I think, right here in the studio. So we're looking forward to having her with us. So we're going to pray, yeah, and then we'll be out of here. Heavenly Father, we thank you tonight. We thank you, oh God, for this time that we could even out of here. Heavenly father, we thank you tonight. We thank you, oh God, for this time, um, that we could even have this podcast. And, lord, we just appreciate you. And so, lord, um, as we know, storms are out there and they're coming towards Florida, and and and, lord, we ask that for your protection.
Speaker 2:We ask for your protection. Um, from Tampa, from the middle panhandle, all the way down to the keys, lord, we ask for your protection. Lord, we pray, oh God, for we pray that those who are are made to or asked to, evacuate. We pray that they will evacuate right now and leave the state or go to a place where it's it's, it's not bad. We pray for those who are in the eye and may get flooding. Lord, we pray that houses be protected. We pray for businesses. They be protected right now. And, lord, we really pray for the elderly, because a lot of times they don't have places to go and nobody to help them. So, lord, even on the uh, the villages, that's, that's up there in Orlando area, we will pray for protection over them.
Speaker 2:And so, lord, we pray for protection down here in South Florida and we just give you praise and we honor you because, even through the eye of the storm, we know that you are always with us and you always are there for us, so, lord, and you always are there for us, so, lord, we thank you for each and every person that was watching with us and those that will be listening to us on, and so, lord, we just give you praise in Jesus name. We pray, amen, amen. All right, hey, we want to thank you again for joining us. As I often say, you could have been doing something else, but you decided to join us, you know, and we just we just really really appreciate that, and so we just look forward to seeing next time.
Speaker 1:All right, thank you, good night.
Speaker 2:Good night, good night, good night.
