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Marriage in Real Life
Marriage in Real Life
5 Surprising Benefits to Dating Your Wife
Have you ever wondered how to keep the sparks flying years into marriage? We've got you covered with a heartwarming exploration of the joys and benefits of continuing to date your wife post-nuptials. We're taking Women's History Month to heart by sharing our own personal stories and insights that reveal just how much of a difference regular date nights can make. From strengthening your bond to rediscovering the thrill of your relationship, we talk about how simple gestures and checking in with each other can breathe new life into your love story.
This isn't just about romantic dates; it's about solidifying your partnership. Treating your spouse as your best buddy is crucial, and we discuss how this approach can reinforce your commitment and keep your love as radiant as ever. We also don't leave our single listeners out in the cold—we emphasize the importance of self-love and the empowering act of taking yourself on a date. So, whether you're hitched or flying solo, there's something in here for you to take your relationship with your partner or yourself to the next level.
To cap it all off, we touch on the practical side. Balancing kids, jobs, and other responsibilities can make date nights seem challenging, but we share effective ways to prioritize your relationship amidst the chaos. We invite you to engage with us across platforms like Apple Podcasts, Amazon Music, Spotify, and iHeartRadio Beamcast. So, grab your partner or a cozy spot for one and tune in as we unpack the realities of love, dating, and marriage in everyday life.
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All right, we're ready to get in our topic, you ready?
Speaker 2:Let's do it, I'm ready.
Speaker 1:All right. Our topic tonight is five surprising benefits of dating your wife. We're doing these topics this month in celebration of Women's History Month. Go, girl, girl power, who ruled the world? Girl, oh Lord. All right, fellas, I know y'all there. I see you, jordan. I know you there. All right, fellas, I know y'all there. I see you, jordan, I know you there. All right. So this is five surprising benefits of dating your wife. All right, you know, because once you get married, you're still supposed to date, right, you should date Right. You should want to. You know wine and dine every now and then and we've already went over and said that dates don't have to be expensive. It could be you sitting in the in the middle of the floor. It could be just a ride, a car ride. It could be just you going to a music festival. It could be just a let's go and get some ice cream. That's a little date, you know.
Speaker 2:That's something different, you know small things that count the most with women.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:I know as far as I am.
Speaker 1:I mean I like big things too, but when you do something small, I mean you put some thought into it, like she gonna like it, yeah, she gonna like this, All right, All right, hey, all right. Here's Jordan. Before we get on, Jordan said here I think killing desire is excessive. Just be patient. Women have a lot on their minds and for some that needs to be settled before they're in the mood.
Speaker 2:Absolutely, that's my son. All right, deke.
Speaker 1:Absolutely.
Speaker 2:There's just so much to go on. I mean, even when we're not physically moving, we're multitasking in our head. So I can go take Jordan and drop him off over here, and then I got to go pick up Nikki, the twins, and take them over there. Oh yeah, he's got to track me. So even though I'm working that nine to five, I'm thinking what I got to do afterwards and sometimes your mind run your raggedy.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, and that's tiresome in itself All by itself. That's tiresome in itself, right? So you know, you know the dating. Getting back to the topic here, you should want to date your wife. You should never, you know. And I want to tell everybody, remember all the guys, remember, never stop dating your wife, never stop dating your wife, never stop dating your wife.
Speaker 1:You know, bring a flowers, bring a, you know, cookies or favorite chips every now and then, favorite soda or or do something you know and and just surprise her. And, like I said, you know, like we said just, sometime I'll walk in the park, sometimes I'll walk around the street. You know, uh, sometimes I walk around the street. You know we look at dating as so much of oh, I got to take her out to dinner, I got to buy the wine, I got to do this and then. But, like you said, I think sometimes Women just like the little things you know. So, just, you know, baby, let's go and walk, walk around, let's go and walk around the block and, you know, hold hands and we talk. That's a little bit of dating. You know, because you got to think about it, you used to do it before you got married.
Speaker 2:Yep, but see, before you get married. You're trying to impress her or him.
Speaker 1:Okay.
Speaker 2:You're trying to impress him, so you pull out the big guns.
Speaker 1:You pull out, the big guns Pull out the big guns.
Speaker 2:Yeah, you pull out the big guns and be like yeah, and then, once you get her, now the smaller guns start coming in place.
Speaker 1:But, life gets busy sometimes.
Speaker 2:Life gets busy. It does, it does, but do we build a foundation on our marriage? So we want to make sure that we are doing everything that we can to lay a strong foundation, and I think dating is important. Okay, you get to know each other.
Speaker 1:Okay.
Speaker 2:You know, it's like we're going to be coming up on 32 years next month. And I tell everybody when they ask me about you know being married for such a long time, what is it that you know what's the driving force behind it? And I say you know what? I learn something about him every day.
Speaker 1:Every day.
Speaker 2:You would think after 31 years I would have known you by now. But I learn a lot of stuff about you on our dates.
Speaker 1:Oh, okay, Wow okay, all right.
Speaker 1:So dating your wife will ensure that things don't get boring. Yep, I keep it moving. Yeah, you know that, you know. And and it also it strengthens the bond and keep you connected to each other. All right, so here we go. All right, um, for example, I'm not late. Prove it, lol. Hey, everyone, hey, how you doing for a shout out, ferg? All right, number one this is what dating does. Dating does this. It encourages communication. We talked about that. You know it encourages communication.
Speaker 1:One of the great benefits of dating your wife is that it encourages positive communication. Right, because you're not going to be on a date and be negative, you know, even though you may go on a date and you may talk about things, you're not going to get negative because you're on a date. Right, and so it encourages positive communication. I would say from our last you know not detail, but there's some things that, when you go on a date, make sure you tell your wife boy, you look beautiful tonight, you know, you look good. You know what not to tell. But there's some things that you, when you go on a date, make sure you tell your wife well, you look beautiful tonight, you know, you look good, you know, uh, you know, I love you, you know, just, you know, because it's nothing like giving your wife compliments, you know, and I think, um, we like, let no, you know, anything come out your mouth. That you know. So you want to build your wife up. We're building each other up, but, as a man is you know, we want to make sure that our wives are really built up. So, number one, it encourages, you know, communication.
Speaker 1:Um, because during the week a lot of times you're occupied with so many activities, like you say, we was talking about the viral moment you got to go here, you got to go there, you got to to do this and you got to go that, and you got to do this and you got to do that, you know.
Speaker 1:So you know it's just crazy. You know that you got so much stuff going on. So it takes, you know, when you go out on a date, it helps you with your communication. You're taking your time away from all of the work and the daily activities, the chores you're not even worrying about that the cooking and all that kind of stuff where you're spending time and you know what, let's just talk, let's just chill and let's, you know, let's chill. Oh boy, I'm gonna start singing again now, but you know that's what it does, because during the week you may not have time for personal communication because you're running, you're moving, like you always say. You're moving, you'll be snapping your fingers, but when you spend an evening with your wife alone, ain't no barriers, ain't no barriers at all.
Speaker 2:Right, alright, kind of all depends on where you at Ain't no barriers, no barriers, ain't no barriers at all right, all right, kind of all depends on where you at what you mean? What you mean by that All depends on where you at.
Speaker 1:Yeah, like if you're on the beach then you know it's nice and romantic. But if you're in a restaurant you want to keep your hands to yourself. Yeah, I guess you know. Even in a restaurant sometimes you don't keep your hands to yourself.
Speaker 1:That's why I sit on the opposite side of the table so I can look into your eyes. Look into your eyes so my hands can't go that far right, All right, we got Malaika online with us, Tracy, Sister, Tracy, hey, Tracy, how you doing? We'll give y'all a shout out there, All right. So that was number one. There is that. It encourages communication. Number two. Number two it strengthens your friendship.
Speaker 2:I can totally agree with that.
Speaker 1:How do you agree with that?
Speaker 2:Because you know, above all things, you are my friend. If I can count on anybody, I can count on you, and I think, because we spend time dating each other and communicating with each other, I know that you have my back Outside of being my husband.
Speaker 1:Like if.
Speaker 2:I want to go do some girly stuff and I don't have anybody to go do it with. You'll come with me, as much as you don't like it, I'm telling you, but you'll still come and that lets me know that you support me. So that's why you know I watch some games with you. Because, I want you to know that I'm your friend too.
Speaker 1:Yeah, you know, and even though you don't even understand, you'd be looking over there like, uh, you want to ask me a question?
Speaker 2:I'd be seeing it but you, I don't want to disturb you, so I just, you know, I just okay going on, and then when you start yelling that's the only time I leave is when you start yelling.
Speaker 2:When I start yelling at the tv, you say you gotta go but I believe that every relationship should start out as friendship and as that friendship grow into marriage and over the years that friendship strengthens so much that you, you know you okay with being married, you know you can. You can get through this. But if you're not friends then you really don't.
Speaker 1:You know, you're just doing the married thing, right, right, right, and you know there's a difference between, um, you know, because friendships and dating are two different things. You know, friendships make you see your wife as more than your partner. That's what friends do. You know, just like a partner, you're my friend, like you say, I can talk to you about anything. You know. I know you got my back and this is what I love what this article said.
Speaker 1:It says you know your wife is simply everything to you and that's what dating your wife helps you reinforce. Wow, I gotta that's nice right there. Your wife, it dating helps reinforce that your wife is everything to you. Now we know, and now again, we know we're talking about god. We know god is everything. Know, we're talking about God, we know God is everything. But we're talking about here, physically, that your wife. That's what that dating does. You know. Hold man. You know just walking and holding hands. Oh man, I see you smiling baby, I see them dimples. All right, all right. Hey, who is that on there under tracy lindsey? Hey, lindsey, how you doing, all right, hey, lindsey, how you doing. First, that she should understand by now. Eric, I should, but I tell you, sometimes it's complicated, I'm like you know, but I enjoy learning.
Speaker 2:I enjoy you know and experiencing more as we grow together as a couple.
Speaker 1:Yeah, you learn the basketball and football, but you like basketball though. You like Boston Celtics.
Speaker 2:Yeah, that's my team yeah.
Speaker 1:Boston Celtics yeah yeah, yeah. They're pretty good this year too.
Speaker 1:You know I haven't watched them this year, so I got to, you got to get on it, I got to get on it. All right now, all right. So we said number one was what? Number one was it encouraged communication. Number two it strengthens your friendship. Number three it reinforces commitment to each other. It reinforces, you know, dating your wife. It reinforces commitment to each other. Every relationship needs reassurance to keep your love as radiant as possible, every relationship. So what are some ways where you see, where I reassure you that our relationship is on point?
Speaker 2:Yeah, you call me every day and you tell me that you love me every day. You encourage me, even when I'm like babe, listen, I'm busy. Right now I gotta go. I'm like well babe, I was just checking in, and if we don't speak to each other and my date come to an end around 2-2.30, you, you'd be like hey, hey, what's?
Speaker 1:up. What's up? I ain't heard from you today.
Speaker 2:I just got busy or something, but you definitely, you know. That reassures me that even though we're apart, we're still together.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and we're not that far away from apart. While you're at work too, I can walk there All right, three minutes down the street, three minutes down the street. So it's not that far. It's just that I'm at home and I just want to hear your voice, you know.
Speaker 2:It's things like that that reassure me.
Speaker 1:Okay, all right. So when you keep dating your wife or spend an evening with her, you assure her that she will always be that sexy lady you met some months or years ago. Yes, amen, that's, that's, that's, that's it right there, you know I mean. Again, it reassures your wife that you want me. You know what I mean, because desire me to cut me off?
Speaker 2:Let me know. You know I have to quench my desire.
Speaker 1:No, no, no, no, no, no. That's why you take it.
Speaker 2:I want you to feel like I desire you as well.
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 2:You know it's a. It's a two way street here, Not just for me, for me, for me. But, you know it's the same with you, Right, so you know it's the same with you, right? So you know, okay, I just need to reassure you All right.
Speaker 1:I'm real, all right. So what it does is, you know, when you go out, it further rejuvenates the commitment for each other, you know. So it reinforces commitment to each other. When you go out on a date, that's what it does, all right, all right, so we moving right along, all right, so number four. Number four it makes your relationship interesting. It makes you when you find surprising things. Number four it makes your relationship interesting. Marriages, indeed, get boring at some point because you get you start doing the same thing over and over. You know, you, we go to church. Come home, you know. Go to the diner, you know. Go and take a nap, watch TV, get up early in the morning, you know. Go to work, I go to work. You know you start doing the same thing. So go to work, I go to work. You know you start doing the same thing. So you need. That's why sometimes we do date night. It's supposed to be friday, but we say you know, we're gonna do it on a thursday or tuesday or tuesday.
Speaker 1:you know what I mean. So that's what you know it. It keeps our relationship interesting, you know, and that's how it should be, because you know, doing the mundane things of life it can get boring and anybody that say it doesn't, you know, I would say you know you need to check yourself because it can, and so you to get out of that thing. So sometimes if Friday night is your date night with your wife, you know, just switch it up and say OK, baby, call her up and say look On, call her up and say look on Tuesday or Monday what you doing tonight. Well, you know they're going to say they ain't doing nothing. All right, I'm going to take you out on a date tonight.
Speaker 2:Hey, we ain't doing nothing.
Speaker 1:You know what I mean. You know what I'm saying. Nothing out of the ordinary, you know. I'm just doing the same old thing. Okay, baby, I'm taking you out on a date tonight. What, all right, cool, you know. You know. You say, well, you know, sometimes you may be like you know what, just dress up tonight. We're going out like oh, dress up on a monday and I gotta work on tuesday. Now I gotta go to work on tuesday. No, don't worry about that, we'll be home in time enough when you do the.
Speaker 2:You know when you get some sleep okay, you know, yeah, yeah, yeah, it does it kind of brings, brings back that it moment okay hold on that for life okay, all right, all right moment you really you remember what it was that made you fall in love. You know, you remember what it was that made you think that he was the most romantic person in the world. I should get a t-shirt with that.
Speaker 1:The it factor.
Speaker 2:You need that it factor you need that it factor you have to keep dating helps remind you the reason why you fell in love with this person the reason why you want to grow with this person, the reason why you want to experience life with this person, the reason why you want to sit on the porch and watch your great-grandchildren.
Speaker 1:Oh, lord, we got great-grandchildren Watch them. We're just watching them, watch them play, just keep them you know.
Speaker 2:so it gives you that reassurance that this is the person that I want to spend my life with, and this is the person that you know I want to be with, okay, I would say, anybody who's watching with us tonight.
Speaker 1:I want some people to call in or either you know, put it in the chat and give us some, some dating ideas. Yeah, yeah, you know, give us some dating ideas that you know that you may have had or you may want to have. Especially the guys, especially the guys put it in their day. You know some. Yeah, we need some dating ideas. We need some date, not that we need it, but it's good for our audience, you know, for my podcast listeners and and podcast watchers, that we give them some ideas, because sometimes, um, I would say and I going to speak sometimes for men is that our imagination is about this far. It's about, you know, about as far as you can spit.
Speaker 2:But you know what Now? I always say, well, okay, maybe because I do know like sometimes you go outside the box and I'll be like oh.
Speaker 1:Oh.
Speaker 2:Because now I'm finished with you. Where are?
Speaker 1:we going? What are we doing? You know, I don't like when you do that.
Speaker 2:I know, I know, but it's just in my DNA.
Speaker 1:I don't like it when you be doing that, when you be like where are we going? I mean, I'm telling you to get dressed, we're going somewhere where we going what we gonna do how long we gonna be there what should I wear?
Speaker 2:oh man, I don't like it okay, I won't do it anymore, but that's no you can say that you ain't gonna do it.
Speaker 1:That's a part of who you are. You can get up here and say that you're not gonna do it, but you know you're gonna do it, I'll try my best.
Speaker 2:I don't like walking blindly into things and I think that's I. Just I'm like, I like to know beforehand what type of audience, what type of crowd to expect, like if I say, hey, babe, they're doing jazz in the park, you want to go? I know what crowd is going to be. Blankets, picnic chairs, people are going to be out there, you know chilling out.
Speaker 2:I know, I already know and I let you know that that's what we're gonna do, but you, on the other hand, you like, I'm taking you out, we'll be going, don't worry about that. What kind of food? They say, don't worry about that.
Speaker 1:And it drives me insane but you know, hey, I'll be trying to. You know, come out of something.
Speaker 2:You know that you don't know when you tell me oh man, why don't you tell me?
Speaker 1:that's it I'm telling you, but that's exactly what you do. I come and I say you know, I get tired of you asking, asking. I say you know what we're gonna do this and you're doing that. Why did you tell me? Because you kept bugging me okay, I won't bug you you know, but you're gonna do it. So, yeah, yeah, you got to know you, you got to know what you know. So the men, be trying to surprise, surprise y'all, and y'all don't, y'all can't be surprised.
Speaker 2:We can't, well, we can be. That's when I stopped asking what you guys get me for Christmas, cause I used to be so disappointed I mean not disappointed in the gift, but Not disappointed in the gift, but disappointed that now.
Speaker 1:I know Now, you know, I have nothing to look forward to. Look forward to, yeah, so.
Speaker 2:I'm going to work on that.
Speaker 1:Yeah, what did you want to try to get for your birthday? You know Mother's Day. Anything for you to know.
Speaker 2:It's okay. So one of the things I think that I'm not a good bowler. I mean, eric is very competitive when it comes down to sports, but I is very competitive when it comes down to sports, but I'll be like let's go bowling or let's go go-kart riding, let's go miniature golf.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I've been liking that miniature golf, you know. But you know I've been liking top golf now.
Speaker 2:Top golf is good. So yeah, so put in the chat some dates, you know.
Speaker 1:Yeah, some dates. You know, Just ride along the coast with the, with the sun, with the roof back, sun, top down.
Speaker 1:You know, you know, sometimes you may just go and say, you know, on the weekend, um, we're gonna rent a car and we're just gonna chill, drop the top you know, I think one of you know we got to get back to that number five, but but you know, I think one of the the best like we've always said, one of the best vacations dates whether you want to have it, we did it twice, you know was where we just got in the car and just got it. We didn't, we didn't look at no luggage, we didn't worry about no luggage. We're going to buy whatever we want. We need whatever we need. We needed toothpaste, we needed underwear, we needed whatever. We bought it. You know, we stayed at a hotel, you know, and that was it. We rolled and said you know, let's get this hotel here. You know, we looked it up and see, but you know, let's get this hotel here and that was some of the best ones.
Speaker 2:Yeah, cause it gave us a lot of each other and learn more about each other, that's that communication thing, all right.
Speaker 1:So number four it makes your relationship interesting. And number five, all right. Number five it allows you to relax in dating. It allows, allows you to relax. So, when we talked about it earlier, you know you got career, you got kids, you got other responsibilities and you know, you know oftentimes that that consume your time and you don't have time to relax. And so dating, you know, depending on the date, it it can just have you do a woosah, right, you know? And so it's time to do a woosah, and so that's what, uh, the dating does. It allows you to relax. It allows you to uh, just because you, you're being taken away from your usual environment, so you're not home, you're not at church, you're not doing these things. That you normally do is is that you adjust away, you know. So I mean, like I say, a lot of people like this, go to the beach, couples just go to the beach, get a towel, go to the beach and just sit and just listen to the waves, you know, and talk, and you know that's a nice date.
Speaker 2:Yeah, it is. You know, it's also nice when you go alone and just kind of just be staying a bit.
Speaker 1:So you're dating yourself, you know.
Speaker 2:For the single ones out there you know ain't nothing wrong with dating yourself.
Speaker 1:Ain't nothing wrong with that when you marry? Ain't nothing wrong with dating yourself? Absolutely not. You need to learn how to date yourself before you doggone trying to date somebody else.
Speaker 2:I totally agree with that. You know, Although I never had the pleasure.
Speaker 1:You never had the pleasure of dating yourself, mm-mm. You always been in a relationship.
Speaker 2:Moving right along.
Speaker 1:I'm asking you yes, oh man.
Speaker 2:Since I was 13.
Speaker 1:Wow.
Speaker 2:I've always had a boyfriend or something.
Speaker 1:I've always had a girlfriend.
Speaker 2:So you've never been.
Speaker 1:I've never been by myself. Sometime I had two or three girlfriends. I ain't gonna give you no. I ain't gonna give you no claps on that one.
Speaker 2:Absolutely not, cause I hope I wasn't one of the three.
Speaker 1:No, you wasn't never one of the three baby. You always, you know, you always number one in my life.
Speaker 2:That's a good answer. That's a very good answer.
Speaker 1:Hey, you know, y'all you know that, but I'm just Now. Now don't get. Don't get it twisted now. Don't get it twisted now, don't get it. Don't be trying to come down on me like I'm the only one that had two or three girlfriends, right? Don't be trying to get the audience like I'm such a bad person.
Speaker 2:I did not say you was a player. Player you always said but let's not even go there. Jordan made a comment.
Speaker 1:Okay, now you want to read Jordan. What did Jordan say there? Jordan made a comment. Okay, now you want to read it Jordan.
Speaker 2:What did Jordan say? He said, I'd say, doing an activity neither one of you have done before.
Speaker 1:You might find something new and exciting to do again. Absolutely.
Speaker 2:All right, jordan, how do you think I ended up at Topgolf?
Speaker 1:Yeah, I had no clue. And the thing about it is when you think about that, you know, I know Topgolf just really got hot over here, but when we was in Okinawa it was there all of the time. We had no clue that was doing it and that's something that we could have did even from Okinawa, you know. But well, I love Topgolf, I love Topgolf. What does Ferg say?
Speaker 2:Ferg says for me, dating allowed me to show my wife off okay, yeah, that's good, that's good for this one is fine, that's right that's right, I gotta give you that he said this dating yourself is overrated.
Speaker 1:I am so certain that it is but you know, before we get to that, you know, yesterday was uh what donna's birthday. Hey, hey, happy, happy birthday Donna. Um, yeah, we miss you. Um. So, yeah, this dating uh, uh, yourself is overrated. Oh, you know, we got to find Fergo, you know.
Speaker 2:Well, no, no, no. We got to find him in the Lord Jesus.
Speaker 1:Him and the Lord Jesus. Oh, that's what he said he told me. Okay, all right, the Lord Jesus. So I'm backing off, all right I get it.
Speaker 2:I can see where you're coming from and I know a lot of female. I have a lot of single female friends that feel that same way. It's like I want to take myself on a date and you got to take yourself on a date every. But you know, learn how to be. You know in their situation. They've never been married, so they got to learn how to love themselves and care for themselves Because you know, going around virally, people are talking about I can't believe this guy bought this girl a ring at Walmart.
Speaker 2:I can't believe he wanted to take me to Cheesecake Factory. I can't believe this and I can't believe that. But when we can, if I'm going to go out with someone, I want to make sure I got my own money. So I know what I like and I don't like cheesecake, I just don't eat. But I know what I like, you know, and I make sure I have enough money to cover my food and he is, if he ain't got it, because you know just, you know just, you know just to. You know keep the whole thing down. So learn to be, learn to love yourself and learn to be okay in your own company until God send you, um, that person or that man to um join together with you and y'all become a union and a unit, because if you don't love yourself, you can't show him that you love yourself. Why should he love you?
Speaker 1:Right, definitely, I give you that on that baby we got Ferg. Malaika says you know something like archery horseback riding? Oh man, we love horseback riding now Kayaking. You don't do that by yourself, like george may do it by swimming, etc. You know, yeah, those, those are things that I guess, when you look at it, those are not the norm things to do.
Speaker 2:It's a dating as a as a husband and wife when you're 27, it is you think so when you young like they are, yeah, I mean, that's something that so you wouldn't like to do horseback riding?
Speaker 1:yeah, what about archery?
Speaker 2:I'll try it.
Speaker 1:Okay, all right, I ain't getting nobody's ocean you ain't getting nobody, but you wouldn't want to do. I mean, okay, what about a lake? And you do jet skiing? You all right with that? As long as there's a lake as long as there's a lake getting in the ocean on no jet ski okay, you know I'll get on a jet ski in a minute and I'll watch you from the ocean.
Speaker 1:Don't fall off, don't fall off, I ain't coming out, oh man. Oh man, all right, all right, yeah, but those are some things right there. Yeah, those are some. I never yeah, I never thought of those. Know like archery and stuff like that. You know they have this new thing now where you go and throw axes. You know you throw the axe. Oh boy, yeah, you go in the room and you know they throw the axe and stuff like that. It's a date. It's a date. You know they have these, man, they have some expensive axes that you can buy, that you can get. You know that you can throw and try to hit Almost like darts. You know you're trying to hit that and you know seeing people try to do that as well.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I'm no good at darts.
Speaker 1:Yeah, you're no good at darts.
Speaker 2:All right then, I don't want to throw an axe, but any little you know my, I can and I'm not good at it, but hey, you know any little thing. I like going to the movie on the spur of the moment. Hey, let's go down to the food trucks, or you know simple things.
Speaker 1:You know what I like about the movies. I like the. I like I love the time. Love the time when they showed what movie was playing and we would sneak into the other movies.
Speaker 2:Don't tell nobody.
Speaker 1:Don't tell nobody.
Speaker 2:When I movie in, remember when we ended up watching two full movies.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it was two full movies, two and a half. Yeah, we had nothing better to do.
Speaker 2:We had no babies to get back to.
Speaker 1:So, yeah, that was a good time, though that was a good time, what Ferg said the ocean has creatures that lakes, don't? I thought, like I thought you liked learning, Patsy, but like I said, groupon, groupon. Yeah, you know what I had totally forgot about Groupon, totally forgot about it, but Groupon is still relevant, I guess. All right, so we get a shout out to Groupon.
Speaker 2:Yeah, we never did our salsa dancing.
Speaker 1:Yeah, we never did. Is that on Groupon? Yes, it is All right If you find one at Groupon. I'm going salsa dancing. I want to do that. You're going to learn it. Yes, I want to. I want to.
Speaker 2:See, that way I'll learn something about you. Like you know, in salsa dancing you got to be hip. I can't wait to see that happen. This is Tracy saying yeah, me too fast yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah Not yesterday, but it's about to come because we're going to see King Kong and Godzilla.
Speaker 1:Oh man, yeah, we got to look out for the next movie. We got to make sure you know, you know.
Speaker 2:We right on schedule. We got to look at the time.
Speaker 1:Oh Lord, godzilla, you know we got to go and see Godzilla and King Kong man Got to see that. I got a good shout out to that.
Speaker 2:Yeah, they coming together to fight. Yes sir, yes sir.
Speaker 1:It's going to be good boy. I'm telling you, hey, you know so, hey, we, you know, we thank, thank those who people, uh, listeners for podcast listeners and remember, uh, you can listen to a podcast on apple, on um, all the streaming uh things on apple, google podcasts, spotify, amazon music. Man, we, we, everywhere, we, everywhere you can get us, and so while you are riding in your car, you can listen to us on a podcast. You know, we have somebody diligently that listen, listens to us from the russia area, russia man. I give a shout out to them yeah so I thank god for them.
Speaker 1:So, um. So I guess I want to ask this question how frequently should you date? How frequently should you date? I mean, should you go once a month? You?
Speaker 2:know what's your recommendation. Well, I mean, before we got so busy with so many other things, we used to go once a week, Friday night was date night.
Speaker 2:Some Fridays we would go out. Some Fridays we would go out, some Fridays we would stay home, but then, you know, bishops start calling and they would date. So I enjoyed that. But I mean, I think at least once a week you should do something special, even if it's hey, go pop some popcorn, let's watch this movie together and call it a bed, and I think at least once a week, you know, because the week is so tiring, there's so much going on, especially if you have kids and some people work two jobs, you know.
Speaker 2:So you should always have take that moment and have that time to wind down and prepare yourself, because you know, we honestly only have one day of the week where we can actually relax, and that's Saturday. And if you didn't do the laundry and grocery shop the Saturday before, then you got to do it that week because you got to plan for the week ahead. See, that's how we as women think. It's like okay, if I do the laundry this Saturday, then next Friday, saturday, I can chill. If I dust, I ain't got to dust. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 2:We try to do things ahead so we can plan our time of relaxation, because come Saturday you might want to take the kids to the park or you might want to take the kids to the pool. Do something with the kids, because when you hit Sunday it's church dinner nap, in that order.
Speaker 1:Mm-hmm.
Speaker 2:Yeah, church dinner nap and then get back up. And church dinner nap and then get back up and, um, it's time for monday to start all of it all over again. So I definitely suggest at least take a moment at least once a week, even if it's just for a couple hours, even if you just sit in the living room, light a candle and put on some jazz and just chat with each other, right, and the kids listen. Y'all go in there and watch that movie, me and dad got to talk, me and mom going to talk, you know.
Speaker 2:That's what they Taking that moment just to say recap. You can talk about the kids, you can talk about whatever you want to. Well, you know, so-and-so got to be on a spelling test and I was up with all you know. Just different little things, different little things you know, bringing the family or what we got to plan for next week. Let's get next week planned out. Prom is coming up or grad bash is coming up. How are we going to do this? Who's going to handle this part? Who's going to handle that part?
Speaker 1:Samson says once or twice, once or twice. What Samson? Once or twice a week, once or twice a year.
Speaker 2:I'm pretty sure he means a month.
Speaker 1:You think so, I don't know. You think it sounds to me once or twice a month. You think Easy is going to be going out just once or twice a month.
Speaker 2:Carol give us an update on that. Oh, man Do you think once a week is okay, because I honestly feel like once a week, once a week is good. I I honestly feel like once a week.
Speaker 1:Once a week is good. I feel like it's too much. You think so. Once a week, you might think it's too much.
Speaker 2:I think you know what. Let me put it this way, now that we are empty nesters we can do that Right, you know, but some people they're not. So maybe once or twice a month might be better when you got a full family.
Speaker 1:You got a full family right.
Speaker 2:You know what I'm saying Because you got to not only you know, when we had all the kids, we didn't have date night, we had family night.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it was on Friday, right right we?
Speaker 2:played games, we danced, we ate tacos, we cooked together.
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 2:It was family night, you know. So that's what we did. But once the kids started getting older and moving on, it became back to our date night. But in the same instance, even when we had family night, we still took that time for each other.
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 2:You know, and you know, remember I had a schedule. You talk to me while I'm cooking. You talk to me while I'm bathing the baby. You talk to me while I'm bathing the baby. You talk to me while I'm doing this. Everybody had their time, and then the baby would come in and hop in the bed and, once he fall asleep, put the baby to bed.
Speaker 1:Now it's our time.
Speaker 2:It's our time, so you have to just manage your time.
Speaker 1:Okay, yeah, you do. Alright. Samson said he meant once or twice a week. Okay, All right. Samson said he meant once or twice a week. Okay, I know, I know.
Speaker 2:Sister Jason said once a week is good. Yeah, it is All right good, I like that.
Speaker 1:All right. And Ferg says I do my best to do all chores, to include yard work, on Thursday. That way the weekends are free. Okay, I like that.
Speaker 2:That's great advice. That's what I do. I mop on Thursdays so I don't have to do it on the weekend. That's really good because sometimes you know you never know when something's going to come up that's out of out of pocket. You got to stop doing what you're doing and take care of things you know.
Speaker 1:Right, okay, cool, oh man. So yeah, I knew Sansa was talking about a week. I know it ain't going to be once or twice a month. Why you be giving him a hard time? I like my brother man, I like him man, he's good, he's good. Hey, you know what? So, yeah, so we're getting ready to wrap up. We're getting ready to wrap up. We're getting ready to wrap up. Look at that, look at that. You know, yeah, we're getting ready. Thank you so much. Yeah, unless somebody want to call in um, I got the delay down at least. It is not a minute delay now, it's like but 10, 15 seconds. So, yeah, so it was something. It was all my fault, you know, I didn't program it right. Yeah, will you forgive me?
Speaker 2:Sure Okay.
Speaker 1:All right, and I hope the audience forgives me as well. Yeah, but if you want to call in right quick, we will take a. You know what time is it, babe? It's 820. Wow, 820. That's cool, right man. That's cool, right man. I really enjoyed tonight. Yes, you know, sometimes you just got to get those serious conversations, you know, last time it was all funny and games. You know, we have got you know, good, but we have fun tonight as well. Yeah, you know, and I'll, we, we, we hope we're here to give you know, just practical advice for marriage. Yeah, you know, and, and like he was saying, marriage, this is marriage in real life, because sometimes in real life you just keep going and going, and going and going and you forget to date.
Speaker 1:Yeah you forget to date. And we, we must, and men, we must take that time and take that responsibility to say you know what I have to date my wife? I have, I must date my wife and uh, just come up with some things. We. You know some things here tonight that came up archery, horseback riding. You know bowling, golfing. You know taking her to the movies, taking her out to eat, you know taking out to a new restaurant that you never had. You know something? You know just something, just a walk in the park holding hands. You know just that, like we said, it's the reassurance of your commitment to her. You know that we end this together. You know we walk in and you know, maybe drink a soda or something. You know it's just something. Get, you know it's just something.
Speaker 2:Get ice cream or something, something yeah and ladies, we have to appreciate the effort, even if we try to get you to go in a helicopter flying over the ocean On a single engine.
Speaker 1:That wasn't no helicopter, that was an airplane. But you said you wanted to go in a helicopter. I said I wanted to go in a helicopter not an airplane, yeah, but I took you on the single-engine airplane. Let me tell you, you were nervous, wasn't you? Oh, my goodness, you didn't look it though.
Speaker 2:Because I wanted to let you know that I appreciated the effort. I almost did. I'm not going to get in that thing, but I appreciate the effort. You know, and just have to remind ourselves that, even if it's something that we would never choose to do for ourselves, we have to show appreciation that you know what.
Speaker 1:He was thoughtful enough to try and do this, so I'm going to go on with it, Okay, so if I want to go diving out the plane, you all right with that, Me and you.
Speaker 2:No, I'm not diving out no airplane skydiving skydiving. You know, in my younger days I was ready to do that, but now I might break my neck oh, how you gonna break your neck. I ain't trying to do that, no, alright air balloon. I'll do an air balloon okay, alright. I'm not diving out of nothing, you're diving out of no airplane.
Speaker 1:Oh Lord, okay, thank you guys so much. Well, thank you for watching with us tonight. Like I often say that, you know you could have been doing something else, but you decided to join us tonight and, you know, participate in, you know, just being a part of the audience, and we just so so glad to have you. You know, we are so glad to have you and so, um, make sure you share and like. Jordan says instagram, we got what jordan say instagram is a great place to look for date night ideas. You know, you're showing them, right, you're, you're sure, right, jordan? Um, they got this, I know they got, especially in miami. They got this, this, this one, uh, miami free places. But they're, they talk about fort lauderdale too. You know, and again, dates don't have to be expensive. It could be free. Try five to free things to do. You know there's a, there's a fair down in margate, right, we got to go to the fair in margate. Just walk around. You know, get a funnel cake. I gotta get my baby a funnel cake. But I mean, the next time we have um marriage and real life podcast, you'll be on the edge of funnel cake. Yep, all right, cool, you'll be on the edge of funnel cake by the end. All right, make sure you share and make sure you like.
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