Marriage in Real Life
Marriage in Real Life
What a Wife Wants from Her Husband
Discover the essence of a wife's heart as we journey through scripture and personal insights to uncover what she truly desires from her husband. Our latest episode is a heartfelt exploration of love, respect, and the gold standard set by Christ's sacrificial love, as outlined in Ephesians 5:25. We dive into the idea that true love eradicates any inkling of mistreatment and fosters a nurturing ground for respect to bloom. Listen for an enriching discussion that might inspire you to renew your marital vows with a fresh perspective on love and dedication.
Have you ever wondered how to fortify your marriage against the storms of life? Our conversation turns to the pillars that make a marriage survive and thrive. From the critical importance of giving your spouse undivided attention to redefining traditional gender roles in spiritual and educational nurturing, we leave no stone unturned. We'll guide you through the nuances of communication and trust and share how to maintain the sanctity of your bond amidst the ever-present distractions of the world. Join us, along with our guests, as we share stories and wisdom that could transform the way you see and participate in your partnership.
In a world where intimacy often follows a script, we challenge the norm and invite you to reimagine the dynamics within your marriage. Our enlightening dialogue sheds light on the importance of appreciation, the significance of spiritual leadership, and the beauty of mutual desire and respect in the conjugal bed. Crank up the volume on the dialogues that matter as we groove to the evolving dance of sex and intimacy and chuckle over a pastor's quirky take on pet names. As we wrap up, we emphasize the impactful role of husbands as prayerful guides, setting an example that will resonate through generations. Tune in for an episode that is not simply listened to but experienced as we offer insights that could illuminate the path to a richer, more spiritually connected marital relationship.
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Hello and welcome to season two of Marriage in Real Life with your host, eric and Patsy Richards. Marriage in Real Life is a podcast about two imperfect people with an imperfect marriage. This podcast aims to help listeners to know that God, who is perfect, can use your imperfections and your imperfect marriage to help others. So let's laugh and learn. I hope you enjoy the episode. Let's get straight into it.
Speaker 2:Welcome to Marriage in Real Life.
Speaker 3:Welcome, all right.
Speaker 2:We'll back at it again, babe. We'll back at it again. Aren't you glad to be back?
Speaker 3:I am so happy to be back. You are Wow.
Speaker 2:Okay, all right. Why are you so happy to be back? Because, it's been a while, okay, okay, all right, we want to say, hey, I'm Eric.
Speaker 3:I'm both Lady P.
Speaker 2:And we want to welcome to Marriage in Real Life, all right, well, we got some people who are with us. We want to make sure that you share and like, make sure you share and like. Please tell us, you put us in your name and where you are watching from. Please do that. We want to give you a shout out, we want to be able to correspond back and forth, and so we thank you, you know, thank you, you know. So thank you for joining us. Well, it is time to talk about these last two weeks and what. What has been going on. Right, all right, all right, all right. So what do you want to? What do you want to talk about? What do you want to talk about?
Speaker 3:I want to start Will. How was your day?
Speaker 2:Well, my day was good. It was good. It was good. I had a good day, a very relaxing day. I was able to help out another pastor, so I had a good day. I had a good day. How was your day?
Speaker 3:My day was good, it went smoothly.
Speaker 2:All right, I give you a shout out for that Smoothly, so I was grateful.
Speaker 4:Okay. You know, okay, that was pretty good Pretty good day.
Speaker 3:I'm a little hungry right now A little hungry.
Speaker 2:Hopefully.
Speaker 3:And you would say I'm always hungry, but you always hungry?
Speaker 2:All right, cool, cool, all right. So for the last two weeks you know we've been doing, you know we've been going traveling and stuff like that, and I was able to go up for Juicy's father daughter dance. Hey.
Speaker 3:Juice.
Speaker 2:Hey, juice. Yes, yes, I had a great time, flew up that Friday and came back that Saturday. You know, I had a great time visiting with my daughter, nikki, always, and Juicy, we had a good time wearing pink and white. She was dancing and you know, you know how they do stuff in elementary Boy, I tell you.
Speaker 3:You thought your day was done with all that, huh.
Speaker 2:Well, you know, like I told you know, nikki, and I think you told me too, is that you know, maybe in about a time she get the fifth grade. They're not going to be doing it, no more.
Speaker 3:You know she might kick you to the curb.
Speaker 2:Kick me to get, pop it to the curb, hop it to the curb because she want to. You know, go with the boys now.
Speaker 3:Yeah, dance with the boys.
Speaker 2:Dance with the boys. But I don't see that happening. I really don't, not, not, not from this grade, not what I see, I don't, I don't see, I don't see it. I don't see it happening at all. I don't see it happening at all. You know, hey, so we got 10 people who was watching with us tonight. So make sure you share and, like, make sure you tell us where you are watching from. Just give us. We want to give you a shout out throughout the show. We want to give you a shout out throughout the show. On Sunday, we had a good time on Sunday, so give a Juicy a shout out. Right, all right, on Sunday. On Sunday, we had a good time at Hollywood Beach, not this past Sunday, but last Sunday. The weather was nice. It was so nice, yeah, it was so nice. We went to school Right.
Speaker 3:Right, we were down there people watching you know, yeah, people watching, we watched, we watched. What's the stuff going on over there?
Speaker 2:Oh, budget stuff going on, it was good to get out.
Speaker 3:Thank you for taking me for that Sunday drive.
Speaker 2:Oh man, that was good, we had a good time. We had to find a place to park boy. Yeah, we did. It was packed down there Once we got our spot. We were good, we were good, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. So give it a shout out to Hollywood Beach. We looked, we looked good.
Speaker 3:So many different restaurants, so much entertainment.
Speaker 2:There's so much going on, ice cream was nice.
Speaker 3:Ice cream was good, yeah, so. Yeah, it was a lot going on down there, so if you ever out for a Sunday drive, you want to go. You know just kind of people watch people watch the beach and take a stroll.
Speaker 2:Yeah, take a stroll down there. And this weekend, this weekend, we had a my birthday party. Yeah, my one year one year. She's, you know, was seven, 35. You know she might be awake right now. This time you shot out the my you know birthday muffin. Yeah, you know. So you know we had a good time in these last two weeks. We had a good time at the party, I know I had a good time, and you know so, yeah, all right, I would like to read this. We had a, so give a shout out to another, shout out to my. All right, we got this in our DMs and I wanted to read this and you know, to the audience and see your thoughts on it and you know, see what you, what you think of it as well, you know.
Speaker 2:So it says here, this lady hit us back and she said I guess marriage is just ain't for me. Said I was so in love with this man. I'll be honest, it was a wrong situation. All right, all right, that's one. But the other woman he has been with, despite the fact she cheated on him, called him her ex's name, told him he wasn't nothing, couldn't tell her and her family that she was with him. Told him she could have any man she wanted. Told him she needed boxes to pack her stuff and move, didn't want him to move with her, and I thought he was a good man that he didn't deserve to be treated that way. So I wanted to show him better. But he still chose her over me and I only treated him good. Anything he acts of me, I did, and I honestly say it hurts me. I never even want to date again.
Speaker 2:She goes on to say I'm a soft-hearted person, but I'm tired of trying to give love and it's just get rejected. Man, what do you think of that? What do you think of that? Wow, wow. You want to go down the points. We're going to do this right quick. We're going to do about five minutes, we're going to go down the point, all right.
Speaker 2:So she says, she said I guess marriage ain't for me, you know, and we, we could do that. Marriage is not for everybody. Nope, it's not for everybody, all right, um, but when you're trying to be married, you know you just can't accept eating everything, right? So she says married. I was so in love with this man, right? And we know from reading this that this man was with somebody else. So in fact she was in love with another person's man, right, and she says, she says it was a wrong situation. So I'm thinking that the man was married A wrong situation, you know. I'm thinking that the man was married, all right. Right, she says, but the other woman you know, she done all of these things to you know, to her, to the man you know, told him all of these things and he wasn't nothing and she didn't meet the family, she, she saw all of these things that this man said, that this woman did Right, but she was still in love with this man in the wrong situation.
Speaker 3:Right, right.
Speaker 2:And he said I thought he was a good man, that he, he deserve To be treated the way. So I wanted to show him better. So we can say the first thing that, right, she was in love with another woman's man who probably was married I would say who probably was married. And then she wanted to say I want to show him better. Who are you to show somebody other, other man, other woman's man, better? I would dare to say that this man was playing the field, possibly.
Speaker 3:And of course I mean he could have just been telling her what she wanted to hear. Mm hmm, because this woman may have not even been doing all that if she got the information from him Right Right and he remained with her but was being treated so bad you don't find a lot of men that stick around as being treated the way that the letter state that it is and not only that why you want to put yourself in a situation where you're dealing with his spirit, he's dealing with her spirit and she's dealing with somebody else's spirit.
Speaker 2:So you would dare to say that they had intimacy? I would dare to say that they did. I mean, I would go out on the limb and say it Okay, I would go out on a limb because for her I would say that she was a good man, because for her, putting herself in this situation right and doing all that they had, they probably had some intimacy, right, and some, some, some intimacy, some form of intimacy, and so, to say it honestly, it hurts and it should. And now she said I want to have a date again. You can't. What you can't do is let one situation control your whole dating life or your whole life, especially when you recognize that it was a wrong situation. You put yourself yeah, in the beginning in the beginning.
Speaker 3:Well, you know, all I can say is you know, the Bible says he who finds. And until these women start let putting themselves in a position to be found, they're going to find a lot of mess. They're going to let their minds, their emotions and their feelings leap them out into a situation that they have no idea what they're getting themselves into.
Speaker 3:Yeah and until they get to that understanding, it's going to always be some type of some form of drama, not to say that you don't go through things when you're married and you don't have situations when you're married, but you're going to find yourself on the opposite end of the stick, which is not fair and it's not fair to your feelings. You have to see yourself worth in it and you have to put yourself much up, much higher than that Okay Settled forth. Not only that, you know this. This brings me to this song having a piece of man is better than having no man at all. No, no, no, no. I've seen that song. Oh, I see, yeah.
Speaker 1:And when.
Speaker 3:I got. I was like wait a minute, that's not what I want. No woman should want a piece of man. If I can have all of you, then I want none of you.
Speaker 2:Right.
Speaker 3:And that should be her mentality. So, young lady, if you are listening, you know, watch no More Sheets by Dr Wendy Devine. I'm go watch that. It's a it's a old video, but it definitely give you some valuable nuggets and you'll change your thoughts and you'll put yourself in a position to be found and not be out there seeking Hmm.
Speaker 2:You know. That brings me to we talked about this when we're talking about pieces of man. It's a song. I know everybody here, you know, heard a piece of my love by God. You can have peace of my love, yeah, yeah, waiting for you. I just pull up the lyrics and and and, and. The chorus says you can have peace of my love is waiting for you, girl is true. You can have a piece of my love, right, it's waiting for you, girl is true. And the verse says baby, you can't have all of me because I'm not totally free. I can't tell you everything that's going on. There's a few things in my past that should not be explained. I'm asking you, baby, be with me for a little while.
Speaker 3:Oh, he's already telling you you temporary temporary.
Speaker 2:Wow, you know we were singing that song and you know we dancing and we grind. You don't do it all that stuff. He was grinding, grinding, oh boy.
Speaker 3:See, he wasn't me. Yeah, yeah, uh, huh.
Speaker 2:It says please hush, no questions asked. Lay back and relax. Now kick off your shoes, Let you let your pretty hair down, since you, since we here now, baby, I'm giving you a piece of me. No, uh, huh.
Speaker 3:Keep that demon.
Speaker 2:First two check this out. Keep that, david. I know y'all listening, I know y'all listening. We got 14 here listening out here, look we got Rob. Rob says good evening. Pastor E and Lady Patsy, cosmolissa, all the way from Atlanta. Hey, cuz, how you doing. You were there with Ty and Warren, paige and Warren, all right from Florida. Hey, from the St Louis, that's Port St Lucy. Virtual metal melodies that's time, that's time, yeah, that's time, missy, that's right, that's right, that's right. And uh, for a for what's going on like enjoying, okay, oh my, all right, all right, hey. But check this verse two out. It says I know this is wrong, but the feeling is so strong I wish this could last forever, but it wouldn't be the same. Tell me who would be the blame If we was to hurt all over again. Boy, I tell you, you know, we got to listen to the lyrics of your song. We got to listen to the lyrics of your song and we tell my wife we want to play him at a wedding.
Speaker 3:Ain't never thought about it like that.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, it's all we want to play it at a wedding because you know, oh boy, yeah, yeah, let's get down. You know, aaron Hall sound good, all right guy, all right. Well, we know, no, no, we don't do that, All right, all right. So we give a shout out we. So we want to, like you say, we want to this young lady. Hey, look, you got to value yourself Absolutely. You are a diamond. You know Jesus made you perfect. Jesus made you the way it is and you should look at yourself and say any man would want me that. You don't have to go off a piece of a man, you don't have to go. You stay firm, stay loving Jesus, and Jesus is going to send you somebody. Absolutely. He will send you the right person. That's not that. That does not have any baggage. And when I say baggage, I mean you know other women, you know whatever like that. You know he was saying you the right person. So stay true to Jesus, keep praying and we'll be praying for you. Amen, all right.
Speaker 2:All right, but the Samson's are tapped in. The Samson's are tapped in, all right. Hey, samson's, how y'all doing? Hey, y'all All right, all right, all right. So we got a, we got a viral moment. We got a viral moment. Yeah, our moment here.
Speaker 3:Y'all chime in on this.
Speaker 2:Yeah, make sure you chime in. Make sure you chime in, all right, so here we go. We're going to listen to this, what she's saying, and we're going to talk about it a little bit. All right, here we go.
Speaker 5:Don't accept the reality that men take respect over love. Any day, every day of the week and twice on Sunday. Respect me before you love me, and then women position themselves where it's like well, I'll take safety over love.
Speaker 4:Damn Safety huh.
Speaker 5:So as long as I feel safe with you, I don't have to be in love with you, because I'll I'll marry the man that I respect before I marry the man that I'm in love with. You. Know what, when you say that out loud, she ain't lying.
Speaker 2:That kind of that makes some sense, yeah, no she didn't lie.
Speaker 5:I have no rebuttals because the same the even the safety. When I went immediately when you said safety, I'm like no in my head, I'm like no, they want to marry somebody that's financially keeping them safe.
Speaker 1:And it's so many different layers of safety but my mind emotionally, keeping them safe.
Speaker 5:I don't have to be in love with my husband because I'm not going to always. You're not going to always, no, no, no. But if I'm safe, I'm going. Women don't accept the reality that men take.
Speaker 2:All right, all right, all right. Now that's, that's deep. All right, we didn't talk about this because I say we was going to talk about it tonight, right, and so what are your thoughts on that? What are your thoughts on that little bit there? Do you agree with her? Do you do you agree? I would say this Now when she first came in, she says you know, women I mean men would love for women to respect them. You don't have to love me, but you have to respect me. I believe that's what she said, right.
Speaker 2:Yeah, that's what she said, I don't know.
Speaker 3:I think, man, what do you think?
Speaker 2:This is what I think. I think if you love me, you're going to respect me. That's what I believe. I believe that. So that is exactly what I believe If you love me, you're going to respect me. Now, I do know there's men that that's, that's the ultimate thing for them, because the respect is part of the love. So if you don't love, if you don't respect me, you're not showing me love, right? So I think they go hand in hand. You know, I don't know it's one is more important than the other. You know, but I do know this that love is the foundation. Love is the foundation and respect is one of the walls that's on the foundation.
Speaker 3:Okay, right, yeah, I agree.
Speaker 2:If you lose respect for your mate but have love as the foundation you can get respect back, but if you lose the love, it's crazy, you know. Okay, what's your thoughts?
Speaker 3:your thoughts I mean I, I, I agree some somewhat to that and you are right that love it holds the, the glue to the foundation that you could get respect back. But I can. I told you I had an example.
Speaker 2:Okay.
Speaker 3:Let me share this example with you, and because of the love that we have is why we are where we are. When we were in Quantico, we had this neighbor, and this neighbor was so persistent with me. He was always saying inappropriate things to me, knowing that I'm married to you. And um, lo and behold, and I, I. I came to you and you was like, oh, I'm going to worry about that, hmm. So, lo and behold, his brother moved in. So now him and his brother was saying inappropriate things to me, and I came to you and you was like, oh, don't worry about it, I didn't feel safe.
Speaker 4:Right.
Speaker 3:I felt like at any given moment these guys are going to try me and Eric is blowing it off. I didn't feel safe. So I did lose respect because, as you be in my husband, I should feel safe. If I come to you and say, hey, this guy over here, you know he'll wait till I come out to call the kids from the park or whatever. He's saying stuff to me. I don't like it, but I felt like he wasn't protecting me and I didn't feel safe and I did lose respect for you in that manner.
Speaker 3:But, um, because of the love that I have for you, we were able to get past that. I don't know if you ever. I think you told me oh yeah, I spoke to him. I didn't see that that happened, but after you spoke to him it did stop. I didn't know that you had said something. I thought maybe I told him listen, dude, you keep it up and you're going to catch these hands. You know, I thought that's I thought that's what stopped, I did.
Speaker 3:I lost that respect because I was like here, me and my kids are 700 miles away from my family, and he's supposed to be protecting me and he's not Right, so I felt that way. So, um, but if I didn't love you, then you know I don't, I don't think we would have been here today.
Speaker 2:Yeah, absolutely Would have been. No marriage in real life.
Speaker 3:Okay, that's why we got so let's see what the audience think about this. Let's go.
Speaker 2:I mean Rob says. Rob says, um, as a man, I do want the respect Rob says that, and so, uh, yeah, um. Ferrick says feeling safe in all aspects of life is very important to women. Not just physical safety, but emotionally, financially, family wise and dealing with society. So love is, rob. I don't know what what you're trying to say on that last one for her, but yeah yeah, so it's so means y'all chompy and Samson, I see you there, ty, what do you?
Speaker 2:what do you? What do y'all think you know? Um, like, like Rob says and and I want to thank Rob because Rob sent that to me Rob, give your shout out.
Speaker 3:Thanks, rob.
Speaker 2:And, um, so, yeah, I mean so. So you're saying, rob, you would rather have the respect more than love, right? And I guess, as a and when it comes down to women, y'all like the security, like you said. You like the security because she said I can, I don't have to be in love with my, in love with my husband, you know, whatever. And I kind of understand what she was saying, because being in love with somebody is like an emotion, it can go up, it can go down, you know, but if I'm, if I'm safe and secure, as as as uh, uh, ferg says, right, um, then my emotion doesn't matter because I love you.
Speaker 2:But I again, love is the foundation. That's what I believe. Love is the foundation and you have to be that foundation has to be deep. It has to be deep and and we have to, and that, and that goes to what we're talking about tonight. It goes about what we're talking about tonight. Well, first, say first, says yes, so love is probably second there for a woman, plus the word says husband, love your wives, Amen, all right, okay, so we can ready to go in deeper, because we're getting ready to talk about what a wife wants from a husband.
Speaker 3:A national women's month.
Speaker 2:Yeah, national women's month. We, we, we, we, we gone in there. So the first thing here, we, we, we, we all love the place here, because the first thing we want is well, I got love, Love, and Ferg just talked about that. Um, in Ephesians five and 25 says husband, love your wives just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her. How did you know? And so the question is, how did Christ love the church? And John three, 16, this is how we know that love is Jesus. Christ laid down his life for us, right, and I love you.
Speaker 2:Know what it says in Ephesians. I mean, you know, I got my Bible tonight, you got my Bible. And you know, in in the research in this it is talked about a Ephesians five and 22,. But I don't want to read 22 because we're talking about what a wife wants from a husband tonight. And as it says husbands, love your wives as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the words, so that he might present the church to himself and splendor without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, as he might be holy and without blemish. That's what a man is supposed to do Love her, love her, perfectly Right. And uh, it says in the same way, husband should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. So that's why you can't be abusing your wife. You can't be abusing your wife because that means it's a clean. No, you can't be doing that.
Speaker 3:None of that.
Speaker 2:No, you can't do that. So if you want respect, you got to love her. That's what I'm saying. If you want respect from your children, you got to love them. You say you, you tell them you need respect, give respect back. But you got to show them some kind of love. And if you show them kind of this kind of love where you put her first, that you saying with your body that, hey, I love you. If I love my body, I love you. Right, and that's what the scripture is saying. It says, uh, he who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh but nourishes and cherishes, just as Christ does the church. Nobody hate their own flesh.
Speaker 3:Nobody.
Speaker 2:And you may be able to say I just don't like me being here or whatever like that. We know when you are, when you are a true man of God or a person who's taken on a wife. You supposed to love your wife unconditionally and you suppose it. Just as you love yourself, just like you take a bath, just like you do, you take care of yourself, you supposed to take care of your wife. And if you take care of your wife and you show your wife some love, she will respect and she will submit, she will do all the things, she will be with you till the end. But you got to love her first.
Speaker 3:You got to love her.
Speaker 2:You got to love her as Christ loved the church. That mean you got to sacrifice some of your things sacrifice hanging out with your boys, sacrifice watching that game, sacrifice all that kind of stuff, because now you're loving them.
Speaker 3:Right.
Speaker 2:Right, and I don't want to be preaching tonight, but I just, I just you know it is, and it goes on to say all right. Now it says, however, in verse 33, however, let each of you love his wife as himself and let the wife see that she look at it. What it says however, let each of you love his wife as himself and let the wife see that she respects her husband. You see what he said you got to love first before you respect. All right. So what we got here? We got some things going on.
Speaker 3:We got my Lica Sam. I think women can learn to love over time too. I think it depends on the dynamic.
Speaker 2:Okay, all right, all right.
Speaker 3:Hi fans of virtual melodies. I believe if the love is strong, the foundation is strong enough to endure all lies. Totally agree with that too.
Speaker 2:All right.
Speaker 3:First is the word does not tell a woman to love her husband. It does not, mm-hmm, it does not, missy, says. Some of you marriages as?
Speaker 2:Melissa.
Speaker 3:Melissa says some of you marriages marriage as a partnership, whereas what's love got to do with it? Nevertheless, love, respect and feelings secure are all important and essential in a marriage.
Speaker 2:Mm-hmm, I get that.
Speaker 3:First is how can you abuse her in any way if he claims to love her? I never could understand that. I never could understand that.
Speaker 2:Yeah, like I said, if you go on, look we Bible base here, I mean you got to. You know, when we counsel people, we tell them says, look, when you go to Ephesians five, you go to 25. You go to 22. As a man, you don't look at 22. Let the wife look at 22. You do what you're supposed to do.
Speaker 2:If I believe I'm a firm believer if the husband follows God, his wife will follow suit. Amen. And if you follow God, that mean you love your wife, as Christ loved the church. And what did Christ do? Again, I repeat it, he laid his life down for his wife. So that's why, when you lost respect for me because you didn't see me confront these two guys, you know. And so sometimes, fellas, we have to show our wife that we love him. We can tell them, you know.
Speaker 2:But action speaks louder than words. So my action should have been going over to the neighbor and it said look, man, leave my wife alone. Leave her alone, not privately, man, but you know. No, leave my wife alone. She says she's coming into you know, whatever, like that, and leave alone and show you that you would have been saying man, eric's thinking up for us. You know what I mean Because, like you say, y'all were 700 miles away, right, and I should have shown you love. So I was wrong in that. I admit that. All right, all right. So now we're looking, we're going, we're moving along. So number one is love. Number one is love. Number two is attention.
Speaker 3:Oh yeah, definitely attention.
Speaker 2:All right, A wife looks for attention. Why's want to be? This is what they want to be. They want to be listened to, even when the television is on. Can I get a witness on that? Amen, All right. Can I get a witness inside the gallery here, Even when the television is on, and know that we believe what they have to say is important? I know that is a sticky thing. You know that is a sticky, you know, especially like when we're watching the game and all this kind of stuff, you know. And then the wife come and say hey, babe, you know this, like that, and I think you you've learned over the years, you know when to come in and when to say something or whatever, like that. So can you explain some of that? You know, all right.
Speaker 3:So over the years when I just cannot get through to him doing madness March.
Speaker 2:March Madness.
Speaker 3:Yeah, march Madness, I came up with a little thing where I come in on a commercial break. But if it's something that I need right up, like hey baby, as soon as you catch a commercial break, you know I need to talk to you. I need you to scratch my back. I need you to rub me or something.
Speaker 3:So and that's one of the things that I learned that I can get more out of you if I allow you to have your time. So I leave you be or I'll text you and say hey, when you get a commercial, can you come here for a second. So that's worked out fine, Don't you think?
Speaker 2:Yeah, I think that works out. I leave you alone. Yes, you leave me alone and I can watch my game. All right, let me ask you this. Let me ask you this Do you, do you prefer to talk to me Over other women?
Speaker 3:What do you mean? Like over other women?
Speaker 2:Would you prefer as a as me being not only your husband but your friend? Would you prefer to talk to me about situations you know by anything other than you know, even though other women might understand? Would you prefer to talk to me as your friend, about anything?
Speaker 3:Well, you know, I think I talked to you about a lot of stuff.
Speaker 2:Yeah, you even call me girl, hey girl.
Speaker 3:In the middle of the conversation Child Girl, let me. Well, you know, I enjoy my my time in conversation with women Go ahead. Sorry my time in my conversation with women. I can't really choose you over them, or you will. You know, I really can't make a choice on that because I have my friends where I can fight in. I really talk to you.
Speaker 2:Okay, all right, all right, so we put it in a chat. We put it in a chat. Who do you prefer to talk to? Let me see, who do you prefer to talk to? Do you prefer to talk to men, your husband, or do you would prefer to talk to your wife? For when we was talking about attention, my, like I said, attention is very important. This is man. I threw my TV away just to make sure that I had my, that my wife had the undivided attention. All right, all right, good good, all right, all right. So. So, men, if you truly listen to what your wife is saying, your actions will will do that, you know, and so we got to make sure we listen to. Intention is very important, so number one is love, number two is attention. We just jump in all over, all right. Number three is something that you already talked about, and that's protection.
Speaker 3:Absolutely.
Speaker 2:Mm, hmm.
Speaker 3:We want to be protected. We want to know that if we call you and we need you to come protect us, that you're going to drop what you're doing. Stop dropping role. I got to go take care of my baby. I got to go see about her, you know, and if we don't feel confident that we can pick up the phone and call you to protect us, then it kind of like feel like we are down on our own. We got to do my own thing. We got to protect ourselves, we got to protect kids because we know we can't trust you to do it. Nobody wants to be in that situation Right, right, right.
Speaker 2:So not only defending the family, but against strange sounds and aisles, but against all threats in society, everything.
Speaker 3:All right.
Speaker 2:Okay, so we want us to take ownership of leading the family spiritually. We got to take ownership of that. We want to take ownership on teaching the kids on how to defend themselves Mm hmm, all right and how to stay strong in this evil world. You know, I think society has put in. A lot of men have said all the woman is supposed to teach the kids on a lot of stuff, when in essence, the man is supposed to be teaching the kids on a lot of stuff too. You know, you know, and so that's how it should be. So, husbands, we wives, I guess they want protection.
Speaker 3:Yeah, and I'll ask that. We want to be, we want to know that you got our back, like we got your words.
Speaker 2:All right, all right.
Speaker 3:Because we have y'all back we got, and to answer your question for it, do you tell him things that you tell your girlfriend? Actually, I tell him first and then I tell them. I'm telling you He'd be like, really, very like I don't really want to hear this right now, but he take one for the team, take one for the team, take one for the team.
Speaker 2:Take one for the team. Yeah, so we looking at that, I'm going to say that first say that boy, prince was a genius. If I was your girlfriend.
Speaker 3:Yes, he was. If I was your girlfriend, oh man, I'm singing tonight.
Speaker 2:I'm really vocal tonight. Yeah, easy, easy, there we go Easy. I know I was waiting on easy to come in. I know she's going to come in but that it taken so long to come in. On this there's a lot of on the topic, but my husband going here either way, oh man, look at, look at Melissa, it's just so. So that means Melissa is doing just like you.
Speaker 3:You know, in the Jean she didn't you know said titanium. I don't have a lot of married girls.
Speaker 2:Yeah, you don't huh, Wow, wow. So that attention is very important.
Speaker 2:It's very important, that attention is very important and protection is very important. All right, so the next one that brings up security and commitment. Security and commitment. The wife wants to know you're going to be there forever. Wives often see their visually stimulated husbands looking at other women and you can't be doing that. So does she know you won't cheat on her, that you're going to be there forever or you're going to be faithful always. That's that security, that's security. That's what this lady was talking about, that security. And the other person went and said talk about finances, and finance. That's a security, that's a form of security and your commitment. Are you committed to your wife or you committed to wandering eyes? You know now, I think it. I firmly believe it has to do more with the couple. You know what I mean, because we can be walking in the mall and you can see somebody and another guy and you can say that boy, fine, and they don't bother me, it don't.
Speaker 3:I would double do that, but now that she's giving me permission, oh, you've said it before. I would say, I never say a guy's fine, I say oh, he's handsome.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, you say that that's right. You wouldn't say fine, you would say that guy's handsome Right there and it doesn't bother me. You know, to some guys they'd be like why are you looking at a guy talking about you handsome? You know some people like that.
Speaker 3:But I mean you do the same. You say, oh, that's pretty, she's pretty.
Speaker 4:Yeah.
Speaker 3:You don't. I think it depends on the choice of words that you use, because if you say, oh well, she's attractive, I'm proud of that. Why?
Speaker 2:Why would you ever apologize that she's attractive.
Speaker 3:I prefer that you say she's pretty.
Speaker 2:OK, because.
Speaker 3:I'm attractive, I have to be the only thing attracting your attention. Mm, mm, you're the only thing attracting your attention. So if you say a lady is pretty, and if I think she is, I'll be like, yeah, she is pretty.
Speaker 4:Mm-hmm.
Speaker 3:I'm not jealous in that kind of thing You're not Mm-mm. Ok, all right, securing what you know me.
Speaker 2:Hey, I'm secure, you know. Hey, I love walking the hole in hands with you Because I want Jogas to look at you.
Speaker 3:OK, let's move on.
Speaker 2:No man, no, no no, I don't care if Jogas look at you Long as you know they don't come in touch. They don't touch no Long as they don't come in touch, because I know when look at when you know you got a beautiful wife and you got, you know, somebody you'd be like. I walk proud with it. I don't care.
Speaker 3:I think it's because we have a strong foundation and where our relationship is and really looking forward to growing even more, because I mean, like, the older we get, the longer we're together, the more we find out things about each other when you would think we would know everything in 32 years, but it's still always something more to learn and something to adapt to. And then choose your battle, you know, choose what you're going to point in on it, what you're going to let go. And I think a lot of times you want it, we want everything microwave Right now. We want it. What's it going to do? You know how I'm always asking well, where we going?
Speaker 2:What are we going to be.
Speaker 3:What should I wear? I ruin surprises all the time.
Speaker 2:All the time you ruin surprises, all of the time I need to know.
Speaker 3:You know. So, I think, knowing that we are secure and that you got our back and we have to worry about, you know, being hit in the gut with something that you know we can't handle, we want to. We want to be secure.
Speaker 2:Alright, okay, so we move right on to the next one. All right, so what we talked about tonight is love. Love, attention, protection, security and commitment. And number five is appreciation and value. Wives want to be valuable for what they are as much as what they do. Man, that's, I got to get at him.
Speaker 2:I believe a husband should be very supportive to his wife. I believe a husband should be telling his wife I value you. I believe a husband should be telling you pretty, you know, you're beautiful. You know that goes with security and commitment. Security and commitment, but you should appreciate, because I think a wife wants to be valued.
Speaker 2:A lot of times, you know, men they think because they work and they come home and now their wife is working too, you know, and they just want to be like, appreciating the value. Say you know what, I really appreciate you. I really, you know you might help me. You see things, you helping me and you seeing things in me that I never did see. I really appreciate you. You know I really value you. That's what I do, and so that's how it should be. You know, wise, want to know we see them with value, beyond just what she does to keep the household running? Is she more important than the stuff she does? Is she still beautiful? Why does one hear that? You know you smell good, you look good. We take a need a seven minute break. We need a seven minute break.
Speaker 3:We're going to take a quick break.
Speaker 2:We're going to take a seven minute break.
Speaker 3:You know what you can't resist it.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I can't resist it.
Speaker 3:Absolutely value. I mean, it's so important. Like I know you value me, you have pushed me into places where I didn't even think that my mind didn't even imagine to where I would be, so, and it's because you compliment me, you encourage me, you support me.
Speaker 3:Even when I come up with a wildest idea and it don't work, you be like, okay, go ahead, give it a rule. You know you never say, girl, stop acting like you got good sense or whatever. You have my back. So definitely we want to be valued. You know we'll be taking advantage of. You know and, like you say, you know we work and we both work in jobs. So you know my responsibilities at home still got to be taken care of, your responsibility still at home. But sometimes we burn out and that's when we need to support the most.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, that's what we burn out?
Speaker 3:Yeah, we run out. So this is what I want to do.
Speaker 2:I want to encourage especially all the guys who are watching with their wives right now. I want you to just look over in our eyes and tell them what you value her, tell them how much you appreciate her. You know we do some counseling tonight too, you know. Just look over and just tell it, you know, how much you appreciate her, or what she do. Be specific, I value you, I appreciate you, you know. You know you do my clothes, you appreciate, you do whatever. You know. Just tell her how much you value her.
Speaker 2:You know, I try to tell Patsy every day how beautiful she is. You know how lovely she is. You know, and I love you and you are a beautiful young lady. You are, I'm serious man. Oh man, I'm serious. You're beautiful, you know, and I value you. You know because, like you say, you I push you, but you be pushing me too. You know I value your input. Even though you may think I don't value your input, I do. I value your input in every decision that we have to make for the church, as far as marriage in real life and as far as family. I value your, just I value your input. I love you. Thank you. All right. So I want you guys to do that. Just, you know, don't take too long, you can do it while you're watching. All right, all right, all right, all right, all right, all right, all right. So we got whales. Hey, whales is on the line. My boy, the whales, is on here, thank God.
Speaker 2:All right, all right, all right. So um first says, and they better appreciate that woman, that women's intuition, that thing is real. Yes, sir.
Speaker 3:You better get him around a little bit, because let me tell you something, this one right here what If I see something and I'd be like you know, babe, keep an eye on that? He'll be like oh baby, you just buried too much.
Speaker 3:How about true days later. You know, babe, remember you told me yeah, I remember, I try, I be trying to tell you. You know that spirit of discernment and that intuition kicking together. I'm not picking on anyone, I'm just letting you know because, guess what, I'm your helpmate and it is my job, when those are tanners go up, it's my job to let you know.
Speaker 2:So you got some spotty senses you know I got some Jesus oh yeah, all right, I get it.
Speaker 3:So you know when the spirit dropping and you listen to us. We ain't always out to tell y'all what they do, how to do it, but sometimes, just sometimes dropping your spirit. You'd be like, uh, yeah, I'm going to take a look at this. I'm stuck back and really watched it. So you, you, you, hitting the nail on the head with that one.
Speaker 2:Okay, all right, all right, all right. So appreciation is very, very important. Also, I hope that I put it in the chat. Guys, put it in the chat. If you did it, put it in there. Ladies, if they didn't do it put it in the chat, he did it, put it up. Put on a guys. You say I did it. Ladies, you say he didn't do it. All right, we got some time. I want to be able to read those. All right, all right, come on now. All right. Compassion, compassion. Women want compassion. All right, all right. Now the Bible says we got to get this. Now the Bible says that women as the weaker vessels, but that doesn't mean that they are less than men, absolutely.
Speaker 3:Yeah, I agree with you.
Speaker 2:It just means that women and men are different. That's what he's given the explanation of the men and women. We think different, we act differently. That's what we do, and I think sometimes we expect our wives to be like our boys and sometimes our wives expect a husband to be like our girls. Do you agree with that?
Speaker 3:No, I don't want you to be like one of my girls.
Speaker 2:Okay, but you know, women, you respond to things different to situations. Can we say that?
Speaker 3:In different situations.
Speaker 2:All right, all right, this is what this person says. This person say women may cry easier, they may take longer to resolve things emotionally. We want to see if these true. Tell me, if these true. They may feel tired quicker and so why is one a little romance in the marriage. Do I want a little romance in the marriage? A lot of romance A lot of romance, all right, we want to continue to be pursued.
Speaker 3:and you dated me before you married me, so we want to continue to be pursued. We want to be, you know, courted.
Speaker 2:You want to be courted.
Speaker 3:That's the word that they use back in the day. You want to be courted. We want to continue to court. That means you are showing compassion. You are showing that you're putting my needs first. You know what restaurant would you like to go to. You know stuff like that. I'm sorry, I keep moving from the mic. What restaurant would you like to go to? What would you like to go? You showing that you're putting my needs first and you're involving me in the decision making. You know.
Speaker 2:Okay, all right.
Speaker 3:Okay.
Speaker 2:All right, all right, all right. So we got to show compassion. We got some things here that talked about. Look like Rob G. Rob did it. Yeah, he did All right, good for you, rob, I'll give you that.
Speaker 3:I better see a Jordan riches in there.
Speaker 2:I gave better see a daughter riches up there late soon.
Speaker 3:But you know, melissa said Ty is really good with showing appreciation and valuing her, and she said thanks to always making me feel value. Yep, we have to and we have to do it back. You are so right, we have to do it back. We have to make sure he feels valued, have to make sure he feels love, he feels protected in this relationship, he feels secure. You know, you are so right, because then you, we definitely have to give it back to him, because who won't have one side of relationship?
Speaker 2:All right. Well, jordan say I did it, and I don't see no Samson saying I did it. So I, you know, and Wales, I got to see y'all. Now, all right, I got to see it, got to see it, I did it. And you're going to show some appreciation, shows how much you value you know, I want to see them, samson's and Wales, and they didn't do it, he didn't do it. Yeah, yeah, put it down there, all right.
Speaker 3:Yeah, it's so important and it's so, so important that it goes both ways. And because that that builds it, I mean, like I can't imagine if I was, if you were always giving me all of the love, the respect, the compassion, the all of it all, with five of them or seven of you, is giving me all that. That's going to give you ground. So are you going to find other women attracted? Because you'd be like, yeah, this, I'm giving her everything that I got and I'm getting nothing in return. That's going to turn you away eventually.
Speaker 2:Okay, all right, all right. So number seven is partnership Partnership. Why's don't want to be, want to do life alone?
Speaker 3:Nope, what's the point of getting married if you got to do it by yourself?
Speaker 4:Wow.
Speaker 2:They want they, they want you know you want your husband participation and raising the kids, making decisions around the house. You know picking paint colors.
Speaker 4:You don't want. You don't want to.
Speaker 2:Well, you don't want me to help you pick paint colors. That's partnership, man.
Speaker 3:I'll tell you what color I want and you can go pick it up.
Speaker 1:That's partnership.
Speaker 3:And take these two to the fan and have them mix it up a little bit, go to the home depot.
Speaker 4:Yeah.
Speaker 2:All right. Easy to say, mr Samson did it All right. All right, all right. Who? I'm waiting on Wells now.
Speaker 3:What else? What else, all right.
Speaker 2:You said they want someone to do life with them, not live two separate lives in the same household, not two separate rooms, you know.
Speaker 4:What's so funny? It's so funny.
Speaker 3:Sometimes two separate rooms needed.
Speaker 2:Sometimes you need to serve. I mean when you, when you snore like a.
Speaker 3:You know that, just you know the.
Speaker 4:Holy Spirit did that.
Speaker 3:Well, you're exactly. I don't want to be, because even with that you know I was watching this movie. I can't remember the name of it I was just kind of scared about, but in this movie did. The husband and wife were talking about the last time they had been intimate and they hadn't realized that because it was difficult for her to sleep because of his snoring problem, they had literally he had literally been sleeping in the guest room for six months. They didn't even realize that it had been separated at night for six months because of snoring.
Speaker 3:Because of the way he you know so, and but that's going to data cause risk because they hadn't been intimate in six months. So you don't want to do that. So you definitely need a partnership.
Speaker 2:You need a partnership.
Speaker 3:They just say let me fall asleep first.
Speaker 2:Let me fall asleep first and put some earmuffs on while you all over there, all right. All right, it's two more. I think we got time for two more. Yeah, it's 823. We got time for two more. We're going to try to do it, all right, and before we get to the last one, we'll talk. If we can't get the last one, we'll do the last one another time. Okay, all right, so we're going to ask the next one that I want to do. A wife wants sex. You smile, but is that true?
Speaker 3:Yes, but let me. A wife wants good sex.
Speaker 2:Okay.
Speaker 3:We want that foolishness.
Speaker 2:Alright.
Speaker 3:So I agree with you, I agree. I agree, we want good sex. Ain't no sense in messing around, you're gonna get to it, get to it.
Speaker 4:Alright.
Speaker 3:You know hey.
Speaker 2:Hey, that's a good sex, good sex.
Speaker 3:We want that messing around.
Speaker 2:Okay, alright, alright, alright. So we got a guy, got to be, ready for it? Yes, okay, alright, I mean, that's what I'm saying. You know some. A lot of times we look at um, you look at it, culture looks at it. That you know, um, like the man is the one that wants you know all the sex. Hey, I would say, women want it just as bad as as men. Would you say that?
Speaker 3:I think because of the way we were we, as far as me, ray, the way we were, you know, the way we were raised up in church we're supposed to be, I don't know they made me feel like we just supposed to lay there and like slaves or something like that. Okay, you know, when you get married, you got to do this, so that's that's it. They, they, the older ladies appear like they actually enjoyed it. They looked at it as if it was a task Like it was another thing to check off on list.
Speaker 3:I got to click, I got to get the kids a bit. Then I go in there and do, do, do the, do the, do the do. I had to go in there and do mister, and so they kind of made it seem like you know, like you're, like we weren't supposed to enjoy it.
Speaker 2:It's something for the man to enjoy.
Speaker 3:Yeah, it's something we were for his pleasure, but we weren't supposed to find any in it, only that the fact that we we took care of our husband, so yeah, so, things have seriously changed. I'm so many levels we're moving in to coming to themselves and you know it's like hey, wait a minute.
Speaker 3:That's why I should say like we've, that's not. I think I remember telling a couple I was like you know and me and Eric upset with each other. That's not going to prevent me from getting what I need. I don't get it. We could be mad all day, I don't care, but if the night is the night, then you come in here and you drop the drop.
Speaker 1:You drop the drop.
Speaker 3:Jordan, you come in here and you got to do this business, and you can go to any corner of the house you want to. Bro, I'm still mad at you. When it's over, though, I'm still mad, but I'm not going to deprive myself from what the Lord say we should have. Our connection is the one. I can't do it. It ain't right. I used to, though. I was like wait a minute. Something hit me. I was like wait a minute, I'm a right here.
Speaker 2:So, yeah, okay, all right, all right.
Speaker 3:I mean, I hope you ladies agree, because hey, y'all didn't even have to.
Speaker 2:Well, ladies, if you agree, put down there, I agree. Put down there, I agree. If you agree, ladies, put it down there, I agree. You know with passing, you know. So does intimacy, intimacy, replace sex, or is that a part of it?
Speaker 3:That's the whole point of it. Now you know okay.
Speaker 2:Hey, melissa say. Melissa say she disagree because you say them. Old church ladies were freaks in the streets.
Speaker 4:You know what?
Speaker 3:That's something to think about, because guess what? Mama had 13 children, so there's something going on there. But you know, just from that perspective of how, how I saw it um, like, don't get me twisted I think everyone will like an afternoon delight, you know, a little quickie Sometimes the quickies be the best one but we also want to be romance and we want intimacy and we want touching and cuddling and we want all that stuff that leads that four play that leads up to the. You know, yeah, we want that. What's going on?
Speaker 2:Hey, I'm a um a missy zone, missy zone, missy missy say uh well, first says just as much. Mean, understand this. If you want satisfaction every time, so does she.
Speaker 3:Absolutely.
Speaker 2:All right.
Speaker 3:I love that guy.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and um and um, missy says, missy says it's a chore, is how they made it to be Right? All right, and now is it? Is it talking about we out of control today? Is it say we out of control? And and old Lord Samson smiling, he go. I didn't know, that was on. That's how I got here. Yeah, you in that, that's how you got here. Absolutely, and I'm not sure if you know what I'm saying. Oh no, oh Lord, I got it. Yeah, I got to put that. I got to put that for everybody to see.
Speaker 3:Got to put that for everybody to see. That's the marriage it was, that's the you know what. I just can't trust you to hold into nothing. But that's not right, because you know that's what I did. As a matter of fact, I did in a booth at their wedding. I was in and I say you know what, I'm in the booth and I'm like I have lots and lots and lots of sex.
Speaker 4:And she was like, oh my God, wow, wow, but you're so dust.
Speaker 3:That's the mentality that see. And see, I'm not the only one, so Missy thinks the same thing. That's how they gave us this old yeah man, man, they could be up now.
Speaker 2:Oh Lord, I'm telling you yeah, they could see you now. They could see, yeah. Well, on that girl I'm telling you All right, so, all right. So the last one was very, very simple and I think we've I've kind of hit at it a little bit tonight anyway and it was a wife needs a husband who would demonstrate spiritual leadership.
Speaker 3:Absolutely, absolutely.
Speaker 2:Right.
Speaker 3:So yes, if you follow God, you truly follow God. If you are a man after God's own heart, your wife has nothing to worry about.
Speaker 4:Yeah.
Speaker 3:You don't want to disappoint God by doing something that you shouldn't be doing to her. You know you reference your relationship, you have that fear. And when she can see you display that and know that, when she see you in that word and she see you praying and and when she you know, no, no, no matter where you're seen, you can see the Jesus on you. Even when you upset, you can still see. You know you have a certain mannerism that you hold on to. And not only that, it's kind of sexy, oh.
Speaker 2:Jesus. All right, being disciple of Jesus is sexy. All right, I'll tell you, oh boy, we're going to catch it. Somebody get a part of this. They're going to take us.
Speaker 2:We crazy, y'all married people crazy. You know, as, like you say, a man should, you know. I think a wife should see that a man is being a spiritual leader. You know, be regularly studying God's word. You know, memorizing scripture. You know, because if you memorize scripture, if your wife is going through something, you can say hey, babe, that about this. You know, we out a what about this? You know.
Speaker 2:You remember Bishop. You know. You remember the Bible. You remember Bishop and Lady Banks. They said they quote scripture. Each other is scripture. You know. They use scripture.
Speaker 2:You know, and that's how it should be Meditation, daily meditation on the scripture and and prayer. Woman should know that the husband is praying, praying for her, praying for the family. You know culture. A lot of times, growing up, it was more that the woman should be praying for the husband. Woman should be praying for the family. Women should be doing that.
Speaker 2:No, if we're supposed to be the spiritual leaders of the house, right? Why did the woman be the one praying when the man should be the one praying. It's like this if you go to church, you in the church and all of the everybody praying in the past ain't praying. What kind of mess is that? You should see that the past is praying for everybody. That's the past's job is to pray and protect the flock, protect it, and so that's what the husband is supposed to be praying for, supposed to be interceding for the wife. Don't put the responsibility on the wife. Take the spiritual leadership of your house and I guarantee you, if you take the spiritual leadership of your house, your family, your life will be much better and you will go forward. God bless.
Speaker 3:It's easy to follow. The leader is doing his job Because, remember, it says that the anointing flows from the head down and that should be all the way down. So if you set a standard of serving God, then your children's gonna follow, their children's gonna follow. The foundation is laid, you know, so it's important.
Speaker 2:Right, right, right, all right, good to go. All right, we got, I would say, just a couple of minutes and I know we kinda like some, you know, a little bit there's a little bit behind a little bit. So we're gonna wait a little bit and see who wants to call in for tonight. All right, while we're waiting, we're gonna, you know, we'll be talking, we'll see who wants to call in for tonight. You know the number is 754-222-2219. That's again, that's, the number is 754-222-2219. We want you to call in today. Call in for us. Look what Ferg says, read what Ferg says. I'm gonna get this ready.
Speaker 3:Okay, let me, I don't know, what happened to my finger? Okay, first it women love a man that is able to humble himself and realize that only God has infinite wisdom. And to see your husband seek his guidance lets her know that he truly cares.
Speaker 4:Okay all right.
Speaker 3:That is so true. That is so true.
Speaker 2:All right, you can call in again at 754-222-2219. We will love to hear from you, we would love to hear your thoughts, we would love to hear what you have to say about tonight. Maybe you got some things that we didn't mention tonight and we want to join in. I do not. Thank God for everybody who participated tonight. Absolutely, you know again. We got the Missy. You know, hey, missy, hey, missy, aunt Missy, and we got Melissa. We got Jordan, malika, we got Nat that was on Lord. We got Izzy and you know Page and Warren. Yeah, page and Warren. You know, hey, you know Izzy and Harold. And Izzy celebrates their anniversary tomorrow. Yay, the eight years.
Speaker 3:What.
Speaker 2:You remember when oh Lord, thank you Lord, thank you Lord, thank you Lord, thank you Lord, thank you Jesus. You know so they celebrating their tomorrow for their anniversary, we'll give a shout out to them. Eight years, yes, yes. And they knew each other a long time before that, you know, before, izzy. When they say they were, you know she tried to float around somebody. We just friends.
Speaker 3:But it's just good, we just friends first.
Speaker 2:Yeah, you know they wouldn't.
Speaker 3:But we just saying that some friends before lovers.
Speaker 2:I don't know that one. Who is that?
Speaker 3:I'm just kind of happy you don't know it because you was going in. But that's all right, babe, I don't mind Listen to you sing.
Speaker 2:Hey, you know that break was back to where you're talking about the sex thing. You know, and I think we did the 10 songs. You know, I don't understand why people want to do amazing grace and all that kind of stuff. You know, I know it was the blood.
Speaker 3:You know what, since we have a few minutes and waiting on a caller, I heard a video today.
Speaker 4:OK.
Speaker 3:It was a pastor. I'm not sure if he was an African pastor or whatnot, but he said that when wives call their husbands pet names like babe or honey or sugar you know just little pet names he says that those names are demonic and that we're taking away from the value of man. Yeah, if we're taking away from the value of the man, wait a minute and we should be addressing you guys as our Lord.
Speaker 2:What kind of crap is that? I don't even give a clap to that, you know, because that don't make any kind of sense. I love when you call me punk and I love you. You call me babes, I was like I was.
Speaker 3:another way he said don't you call your husband. Oh my God, oh Lord, I'm going to hell. Jesus saved the. Take the wheel.
Speaker 1:That was one of the first.
Speaker 3:That was one of the first. He said we call and no, your husband, no pumpkin.
Speaker 2:I was like oh, let me ask you all that. So how?
Speaker 3:do you guys feel about that?
Speaker 2:Man, how do you feel about pet names? Come on In the comments, put in the comment, call in, talk to us. You know how do you feel about pet names. You know, which I think I mean. Do you mind if your wife called you a pet name, or do you? Or it has to be Lord, you know, lord Richards, lord Eric, you know, that's got a that got a nice ring to it, though that has a like you know, Lord Eric, I would love that you know. Like you, I think you need to start calling me that. Can you practice that right now?
Speaker 3:Yeah, yeah Lord, yeah Lord.
Speaker 2:Yeah, Come on, If y'all want to call in, we're going to have you know. I know it's like a minute delay or whatever like that, and we just going to open the lines up 754-222-2219. Again, 754-222-2219. You can call in, express your views. We got you know, calling for a minute, as we was instructed by one person call in for a minute. And you know, just let's talk about this, we got this 838 here. Yeah, we over time, we got about two or three more minutes so you can call in. So you can call in. Yeah, that's crazy, I love reading the comments.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I love reading the comments too. You know I love reading the comments. All right, yeah, we miss, we miss, we miss. Yeah, we miss you, melissa, we miss you all being online with us. Yeah, we, we're giving a shout out to Samson and we're standing in Ovation. We got a standing in Ovation tonight, that's good. Yeah, all right, we got a standing in Ovation tonight, that's good, that's good, all right. Dj, dj saying he love his pet name. I'm talking about DJ. I'll give you a shout out on that one. Uh-oh, the Dwayne Dwayne is here. Dwayne says I'm here, family, I love, I love your love and truth on display and all the great advice and nuggets continue, blessings, all right. Samson says no problem at all for the pet names. All right, Now. Now the thing would be y'all put your pet names down, don't do it.
Speaker 2:Don't do it. Put your pet names down. Mm-hmm, I was going to do that. Oh my, who got my Leica? Come on Leica. Let's not get any ideas about lords and such hey.
Speaker 3:That's right, that's my daughter.
Speaker 2:Yeah, my daughter, lord Jordan, lord Harold, you know, lord TJ.
Speaker 4:Lord.
Speaker 3:Ness.
Speaker 2:You go to hey, my Lord, you know, hey, that's hey. I think we need to get back to that.
Speaker 3:I serve you my Lord, let's get back to that.
Speaker 2:Let's get back to that. You know, warren says pet names are good as long as it's agreed upon. Okay, all right. Hey, the week.
Speaker 3:You don't want to be called. Hey nugget, I get you on that one, I get you. I understand we here. Oh Jesus, I love it I love it, I've been calling him punking for years. I remember our first trip to the grocery store and I was standing in line and I turned and I was like hey punking. And the lady behind me said oh, you calling punking now. She said that's going to stop.
Speaker 2:Hey, we got Jordan on the line, jordan.
Speaker 3:Oh Jordan called in.
Speaker 2:All right, hey, jordan, how you doing hey.
Speaker 3:Jordan.
Speaker 4:Hey, I'm doing good. I'm just calling in about you know, pet names and whatnot. Okay, I do think that's a little ridiculous, but I'd be a liar if I said I wouldn't mind being called Lord every now and then oh really. I get you on that too.
Speaker 3:I'm not saying it has to be all the time.
Speaker 4:It doesn't have to happen all the time. You know, every once in a while I come in. You know, maybe I come back home again, not some dinner. My chief stays on, you know. Thank you, my Lord. It would be pretty nice, wouldn't it, jay, let me keep you there Pretty nice and you know this really just ties back into what the Bible says about women respecting their husband.
Speaker 3:That's right, Malika. That's right.
Speaker 2:Give him the good, hey, jordan, I'm going to get you off the line before you get yourself into a lot of trouble.
Speaker 3:Son Get him, malika Get him.
Speaker 2:So I'm going to put you on mute and get you all so you won't get killed tonight. All right, and you won't be coming over to our house. All right, good night, son. All right, man, I love you.
Speaker 3:Entertaining that nonsense, no matter where we going over there Rob.
Speaker 4:G said it has to be a manly name, all right, all right, melissa. Melissa said, ty, don't hold your breath waiting for me to call you Lord. I call him baby, that's it.
Speaker 2:That's it. That's all you need. That's it. That's it, my Lord.
Speaker 3:Okay, is it say come on, is it? You can't say, Lord Harold?
Speaker 2:or Lord Samson.
Speaker 3:Nobody saying Lord, nobody, nobody, but Lord Jesus. That's the only Lord. Lord Jesus, oh Jesus man, I tell you, I mean, I don't know what's up with the women.
Speaker 2:You know, I think the women feminist movement really have taken the things out of lives. You know, thank you for joining us tonight.
Speaker 3:You know, I'm Eric this boss, lady P, we the Riptors, is it say in your dreams Jordan, I know right.
Speaker 2:Yeah, we want to just thank you for joining us tonight. We had fun, we had fun, we had fun, we had fun, we had fun, we had fun, we had fun.
Speaker 2:We had fun tonight. We had fun tonight. We had fun tonight. We had fun tonight. I think we got a little counseling, but we ended up with a lot of fun tonight and I thank each and every person who joined us tonight. We got up to like 20 tonight and so please, if you want to go back, make sure you share this. Please listen to us on Apple Podcasts. I think Google is getting ready to get rid of their things because they want to push you towards YouTube podcast and so you come back and put comments down there. If you enjoyed this, not only put it in the chat, but come back to the comments and say I really enjoyed tonight. You know, if you own Apple Podcasts, leave us a five star review. We five stars now. Five stars.
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Speaker 3:I can't All right.
Speaker 2:Ferg says Jordan, grown men, don't get into trouble. They may disappoint from time to time, but we don't get into trouble. Speak the truth. All right, we're going to be up there. No, I'm going to say good night tonight and thank you for joining us tonight.
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