Marriage in Real Life
Marriage in Real Life
The Lasting Impact of Saying Thank You in Marriages
What if the secret to a lasting, fulfilling marriage is as simple as saying "thank you"? Journey with us, your hosts Eric and Patsy Richards, as we unpack the transformative power of gratitude in marriage. Fresh from our trip to Tampa, we put the spotlight on everyday expressions of appreciation and share how this simple act can revolutionise your relationship.
The second part of our heart-to-heart conversation explores the marriage-parenting conundrum. Drawing from our personal experiences, we discuss how positive behaviour in marriage sets a sturdy foundation for effective parenting. We share how our actions can teach our children invaluable lessons about love, respect, and relationships.
Finally, we share invaluable advice from a bishop who has been married for a staggering 66 years! We delve into his nuggets of wisdom, from treating your spouse like royalty to understanding the power of communication and compliments. We end with a listeners' deeply touching expression of gratitude for her husband. So, join us on this enlightening journey through the many colours of marriage, and remember to hit that like, share, and subscribe button!
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Hello and welcome to season two of Marriage in Real Life with your host, eric and Patsy Richards. Marriage in Real Life is a podcast about two imperfect people with an imperfect marriage. This podcast aims to help listeners to know that God, who is perfect, can use your imperfections and your imperfect marriage to help others. So let's laugh and learn. I hope you enjoy the episode. Let's get straight into it.
Speaker 2:Well hello, hello, hello, hello, hello. Alright, welcome to Marriage in Real Life. Alright, alright, we're glad to be back. It's been. You know, we were supposed to do something last week but we were out of town so we couldn't do nothing last week.
Speaker 4:Right.
Speaker 2:Right. So we're glad to be back and give it out to all of the people that's out there. We just want to say, hey, thank you for joining with us tonight. Alright, alright, alright. There we go. Alright, cool, cool, cool, cool, alright. So you know, as we start out, you know this is like a special, you know Thanksgiving is this week. Yeah, alright, give a shout out to all of the turkey, the ham, the getting together, the diabetes, oh god, the diabetes, oh lord, oh god, why you want to go there.
Speaker 4:Hey, when is birthday? Once a year, once a year.
Speaker 2:Well, you know you got Christmas. You know comes up. You know you do that too. You know how we do it. So well, yeah, you know you're enjoying this cooking this thing, right, we got the family coming and so we're thankful for that, right, right. So what's been happening these last three weeks? You know how we start out at the last three weeks, what's been happening?
Speaker 4:Well, we went to Tampa, we got a little getaway. Getaway, okay, yeah, I guess it's.
Speaker 2:We got a little regroup.
Speaker 4:I was feeling a bit overwhelmed. And I was like you know, babe, I'm a bit overwhelmed. We got to see what's going on.
Speaker 3:Right right, right right.
Speaker 4:Businesses. It was just a lot and I just was having a lot of emotional breakdown. I was like I need a space.
Speaker 2:Need a space, need a space right.
Speaker 4:So I took a little trip with you and I feel better.
Speaker 2:You feel better.
Speaker 4:Could have been a little longer, but I feel better.
Speaker 2:Okay, all right. Well, I'm glad you feel better, babe. I'm glad you feel better, all right. Hey, I just wanted to say to everybody who's watching please like and share, like, please like and share, and you know, tell us where you're watching from, give us you know so we can give you a shout out throughout this, you know, throughout this podcast. All right, so we open up another side, right?
Speaker 4:Yes, oh, man Open up a larger facility. So now we have two facilities that we ran out for special occasions and we've been doing a lot of work over there, so that's been one of the things that's been like extra on the plate. I also joined forces with a friend of mine, stella, and Popperot, popperot, cjury. So if anybody's interested.
Speaker 2:Shout out, just shout out.
Speaker 4:Just to say to the girl, because we got a lot of stuff. She got tons and tons and tons of stuff.
Speaker 2:Oh, okay.
Speaker 4:So we definitely want to, you know, get some of that inventory out so you know we can start purchasing more.
Speaker 2:Okay, all right. So excited about that, we excited about that.
Speaker 4:That's another thing on the plate. Mm-hmm, a lot going on.
Speaker 2:Well, I would rather have stuff on the plate, I would like the plate to be full than the plate to be empty. You know, I was bought a plate being full. That means you know that we're doing something. You know, either, as we get older is something that we, you know that we're doing being active, we're moving around and we're trying to leave a legacy to our kids and our grandkids. So that's what we're trying to do. All right, as you say, you know, we open this level 1100 square feet. I think it's 1100 square feet of usage, you know. So we think we really thank God for that. You know, we really thank God for that. We went in it with our son and daughter in love, all right, all right.
Speaker 4:So we can join forces with the youngsters.
Speaker 2:Join forces with the youngsters and boy. They have ideas. The little.
Speaker 2:Richards, the little Richards, all the retreat people, they know what it is. There's the little Richards. So we thank God. We thank God for that, you know, with their new ideas and things like that. And we had a person come, we had a member join, we had a person join the church. Yeah, we had a visitor last week and I'm telling you, and it's just, it's just been good, god has been good. It is something to be thankful for, absolutely. We are really really, really thankful. We're really really thankful, again, for those who are watching. Please like and share. Please like and share and also, again, tell us where you're watching from. Don't leave us out here. We want to read it, but you know for you to tell us what you're thankful for. You know, in the context of your marriage, you know what are you thankful for God. You know, babe, what you thankful for in the context of our marriage, what you're saying, what do you thankful for?
Speaker 4:In the context of our marriage.
Speaker 2:I can tell you that. I can tell you what I'm thankful for. I'm thankful for longevity. Absolutely, I'm thankful for longevity. You know we've been, we've been up, we've been down, you know, but I thank God for longevity and I think I thank God that you know I'm trying to, you know, be better in my communications and things like that, and, most of all, you know I thank God for you. Oh, I really, really thank God for you. You put up with me. You know you always looking nice. You know I'm always messing with you, but you always looking nice.
Speaker 2:You know, and I'm gonna tell y'all who are watching you need to stay tuned to the end. You got to be to the end. We got something for ladies, let me tell you. You need to have your husband, you need to have your man, you have your boo. Listen to what we got. We got something for your ladies. Y'all gonna give us like thumbs up throughout the night. So we're gonna be. So you got to stay to the end, though. You got to stay to the end, fellas. Hey, I got to help you out, fellas. We got to help you out, all right. So I thank God for you. I really, really do. So I got to give you a shout out.
Speaker 4:I think God for you. You know. I thank God that we've had our ups and downs. You know, if we didn't have bad times, we wouldn't know that the good times were good times. So I appreciate the experiences. I appreciate, you know, the guidance from God and leading us to where we are today. I honor you, I respect you. I don't know, I mean, I just adore you. You have never called me out my name, no matter how mad I make you. You treat me like a lady. You treat me like a princess. You treat me like I feel like I deserve to be treated.
Speaker 2:All right, that's a heartbeat.
Speaker 4:So I honor you in that part. I appreciate, and I thank you for pushing me to you know, the fulfillment of what God has in store for me. So you know, you're my best friend, you're my hangout buddy, you know, wow, wow, I got to give myself that.
Speaker 2:You know one thing too you know this year has been, you know, kind of tough on me with friends. It's been very, very tough on me. You know I haven't been telling you but it's been very, very tough. You know I lost and it's not just friends that fly by night friends, these are friends, you know 17 years, 18 years. And then just recently, finally, my other friend for over 30 years finally contacted me back today after I've been calling, calling, calling the check and things like that. So it was like it was a ghost of me, you know. So it's been very, very hard. So I thank you for being my friend. I really do, because it was. It was hard when you know, when you try to be friends with somebody and for so long and and it's just like I don't know they're not there, no more.
Speaker 2:I thank God for my one best friend, you know, joseph Wells. Pastor Joseph, I gotta give him a shout out. I know he ain't watching that joke of that. I always tell him he's gonna watch. He never do, all right, but you know he's my best friend that I could really talk to. We could really chit out another pastor friend. But my other friends, you know, I mean my other friend of over 30 years they say he's going to reach out to me when he's, when he's ready. He's just not ready right now and I said okay, just let me know when you're ready. But the other friend, I just, I don't know. But I thank God for you being my best friend. All right, I get your shout out, baby All right.
Speaker 2:All right, all right, go ahead.
Speaker 4:Oh yeah, and we went to a wedding today.
Speaker 2:Yes, we went to a wedding today. Yes, you know, matter of fact, dwayne is on, is on. Is in the text hey, dwayne, hey, congratulations, brah, congratulations, congratulations you and Sparkle. I hope you all there watching with us, you know, hey, you know what Congratulations and many, many years, and we're praying for you and you know you can reach out anytime for us, hey, man.
Speaker 4:Can I just say this one thing oh you go ahead.
Speaker 2:I don't care.
Speaker 4:It's one thing. Thank you intensely to the vows, to each other. What stuck out to me the most in those vows was him saying you know, the Bible says he who finds a good thing.
Speaker 2:but I found a great thing. I was like tears rolling, I was like oh my God, when you got my wife crying, you know you're all right.
Speaker 4:You're all right, oh my God, because a lot of people don't feel like you know they finding that good thing. And when you put emphasis that that good thing is not just a good thing, it's a great thing. Well, you gotta go star you gotta go star, dwayne.
Speaker 2:Dwayne is a. You gotta go star, so you're all right. Hey look, king brother, king is on the line. King Faith, hey, what's up? What's up? How you doing? Yeah, God bless you. Give the kids our love. Yeah, please give the kids our love. Yeah, give the kids our love. Give the kids our love.
Speaker 2:All right, we thank God for you, you know, for you joining with us, all right. So, hey, we ready to get into it. Let's get into it. And remember, I'm telling you, ladies, y'all need to have your man next to you. Just stay to the end. Now I'm telling you stay. This is some good things, but I want you to, ladies, please stay to the end. We got something for you. You know, guys, I'm gonna help you out. We're gonna help you out tonight, all right, all right.
Speaker 2:So we're talking about 10 ways to show your gratitude towards your spouse. This is this Thanksgiving, this is gratitude, you know, and first of all, we got to give gratitude, we got to give thanks to God, you know. Amen, because you know there have been so many marriages that's been broken up and not been put back together, and so because the enemy comes in to steal, kill and destroy, right, and a lot of times we think that is for our spiritual needs. But that is for our marriages as well, family relations, family relationships Anything. He comes to just be divisive and he comes to just do all of these things. Man, that's what he does to come steal, kill and destroy and he wants to break up marriages. You know he does not want the man to be the head and how God is ordained, he does not want the woman to help the man, he does not want the. You know, he just don't want families to be together. So he does everything. And so we got to give gratitude to God that we last another year. You know that we last another Thanksgiving. So we thank God for that. So, but these are 10 ways to show gratitude towards your spouse.
Speaker 2:Les Perot says this gratitude can transform common days into Thanksgiving, turn routine jobs into joy and change ordinary opportunities into blessings. I'll say that again. That's the preacher voice, that's the preacher in me. You know I got to say it again. All right, gratitude can transform common days into Thanksgiving, turn routine jobs into joy and change ordinary opportunities into blessings. That's what Les Perot said. I got to give a shout out, les, all right, and you know, because showing gratitude is very important and it should be daily, not once every year or whatever like that. We should be showing our spouses gratitude daily, you know, saying thank you, because, look, a lot of times our spouses are doing things not because they have to, they're doing things because they love us.
Speaker 4:Right, right yeah.
Speaker 2:And because, since they're doing the things that they love us, it's all right. And we tell our kids you know Jordan, first word well, thank you, right, we want our kids to. It makes me that we want our kids to say thank you to us or thank you to anybody else, but we can't say thank you to another end of our spouses.
Speaker 4:Yeah.
Speaker 2:We must say thank you.
Speaker 4:I think sometimes we just get so caught up into what's going on that we really don't even realize that we didn't Wow, wow, wow. So much going on. Especially, you got five, you know three under five and you got, you know, preteen that want to be with the teenagers. It's a lot that goes on in our daily lives and sometimes we just don't really realize that we didn't say I appreciate you or thanks. You know, like, hey, if you're in the kitchen, grab me a glass of ice please, and then when you come and you bring it, you don't even say thanks. So it's so natural with us that we say it all the time.
Speaker 2:Yeah, we say thank you. Hey, thanks, babe, you know, thanks, pumpkin.
Speaker 4:And the process of and the process of that is when our children see us. Yeah, right, right, right, right, right it's easy for them to say oh thanks mom, oh thanks dad.
Speaker 2:Right, right right.
Speaker 4:So it's those hands in hand in hand. So let's get to these topics.
Speaker 2:All right, All right. So in showing gratitude is a nurturing nurtures healthy marriages. So, number one, what is the first thing we should do? We should say it out loud and more often. All right, they gotta get it. Say it out loud and more often. We must do that. We got to intentionally say thank you to our spouse more often. It's the simplest, most obvious way to show him or her your gratitude.
Speaker 2:All right, it can be easily to neglect to thank your spouse for everyday tasks that may seem mundane, but you'll find that your gratitude can transform your spouse's view of these tasks. You know, for instance, if I'm out there watching the game and you say, hey, babe, can you bring me something to drink, you know I'm right in the middle of the game, Like oh man, and so now I get it up and for you to say, well, thanks, babe, that's, that's OK, I feel much better, you know, but for me just dropping giving it to you and you don't say anything and I was like man, I just missed the game, you know. So, just, you know, for mundane tasks it's very, very you know. You know, I think it's very good for us to. You know to say thank you to one another. And you know, like you said, say it out loud and more often.
Speaker 2:We need to be intentional, intentional about saying thank you. All right, we got to be intentional about that, All right. Number two number two this is a good one here, All right. A thoughtful card, Note, a letter, Right? What you think about that?
Speaker 4:I think that's a great idea. It don't even have to be that that much. I remember making your lunch for you one night when you were headed out to work, and I'm like, making your lunch, I'm really, really thinking about how much. I can't hear myself Not really thinking much, just making it. And then at the end I was like you know what, let me write him a note.
Speaker 4:I was sticky on a little stick and I would have a good night and wouldn't have to put it in there. You didn't know it was in there, but then when you saw your lunch and you open it, you like a bay. You left me a note.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 4:Just out of the blue.
Speaker 2:It's a little thing, it's a little thing A little thing, yeah, yeah, so you can get a great note of thanks to your spouse and hide it where they can easily find it. But that's going to be some of what we're going to talk about later. If I'm telling you, ladies, y'all need to have your man, yeah, yeah, I'm telling you, all right, all right, now number three. So number one is say it out loud and more often. They want to hear it. You know, there's a lot of time they say action speeds louder than words. But you want to hear words too. You want to hear it too. All right, write a thoughtful card and a note or a letter. Number three give your spouse a break.
Speaker 3:Yep.
Speaker 2:Especially if you have kids. You know it's good to give your spouse a break Sometimes if you know if your wife is or spouse not saying wife, but if your spouse is used to cooking all the time, it would be good all the time. You say you know, baby, I got it tonight. I got it, I got it. You know, though, you got it.
Speaker 4:No, I don't have it, oh yeah.
Speaker 2:I just want to you know, make sure.
Speaker 4:No, well, you know what I got Thanksgiving, you want Thanksgiving, you have Thanksgiving, and I'll cook the rest of the year.
Speaker 2:Oh, you cook the rest of the year, you cook Thanksgiving. Oh, no, no, no, you try to trick me.
Speaker 4:No, you try to trick me. But yeah, that's true, you know, sometimes just take over just that little task. Maybe it could be just, you know, putting the dishes away.
Speaker 2:Yeah, just give you a spot. You're going to the dining room table. From Monday On the bath for the kids.
Speaker 4:You know, just the little things. The little things is it counts Right Very big way.
Speaker 2:Right, right, right. So you know things that you know like you do on a regular basis. You know if you, you know if your spouse is used to washing the clothes, you know whatever, and you know you can watch this little baby. I got it this time. You know whatever your spouse does regularly. It's good to just give your spouse a break Again, especially if you have kids. You know it's good to, especially guys, and we help you out a little bit. It's good to like, hey, just send your wife away for a weekend. Say, baby, I got it, go ahead and do what you got Relax center, pay for a hotel, get a nice hotel on the beach, you know and say you know what. You can order anything you want to. You know what I got you this week. Just enjoy yourself. All right, that's a, that's a thing of gratitude I owe you this time. I owe you a weekend on it. I owe you a weekend.
Speaker 4:Let's not talk about that, because I should have had my weekend like months ago. I was supposed to go to Atlanta. Parents and and and and. Tyrone, tyrone and Kim, tyrone and Kim, All right.
Speaker 2:We got to send you. All right, all right. So give yourselves, give your spouse a break, all right. Number four hey, look at this here, babe, this is a good one. We got to clap it up before he even get here. Cook a special dinner, not Thanksgiving, that's not a special, you know, you know.
Speaker 4:Listen anytime you say you know, babe, you know what I would like. I would like some lemon pepper salmon. What do I do?
Speaker 2:Yeah, you do, you hook it up.
Speaker 4:Anytime you mentioned. Whatever you want this is. I don't cook on the regular. When you ask me, I do my best to oblige, you know for my man.
Speaker 2:All right, you do, you do. I'm just, I'm just going to get straight. I want to tell everybody who watching, you know, and who listening, look we, you know, pasi cook for the kids for over 20,. You know, you know, a long time. 27 years.
Speaker 2:So she cooked and she clean, she did all that kind of stuff. Now it's just us, and a lot of times we just I've been cooking and sometimes I don't feel like cooking. She's going to know we just go out, you know, and we thank God that we can afford to go out like that too, you know. But you know so I don't want nobody to think, oh oh, she don't clean, she don't cook, she don't do nothing for air past the air, you know. So no, that's no we, she's done, she's earned her time. I just keep messing with her about it.
Speaker 4:He does all the time.
Speaker 2:Yeah, all right.
Speaker 4:One of these big kitchen Pasi when did?
Speaker 2:that sound you cooked in here. I went to the kitchen with a dog. On some light it is shining in. All right don't forget to like and share. Don't forget to like and share, all right.
Speaker 4:I do remember that time you sent me away for the weekend I was bored out of my mind in that hotel by myself. I wanted to call. You said don't call, I don't call. I didn't call. You had the baby, the teenagers, the preteen. You had all of them together. And I really appreciated that time I didn't realize how much, because I was so young then had I, you know, now that I know I would definitely take advantage of something like that.
Speaker 2:Right, okay, all right, I like what he says, what he says here in this article. It says light some candles, play some music and dining together at home. That's a good. Yeah, you are. You have a good night at night, fellas, I'm telling you, if you do that, you know you cook a special dinner.
Speaker 2:All right, number five, number five, we almost. We have we there, are we have, we there? Please him or her to your kids. Then get them in on the act. That's good, you know, in front of your kids.
Speaker 2:I'm telling you, if you are downing your spouse in front of your kids, then you are doing the wrong thing. You should never talk negative in front of your kids about your spouse. You should never do that. You should. You know, if you got some negative to say about your spouse, I don't care how old they are or whatever. You know I hold the kids or whatever. You should say it to your kids. You know you should be able to say it to that individual, but you should praise him or her. Hey, you know your dad did this or your mom did this. You know and you know what. You should thank her when she come home. We'll just thank her because she didn't have to do it, you know, but she did, you know. Thank her for coming to the play, you know. Thank you for taking you to this place and thank you for taking her Come on. You know she did good, so let's praise, you know. So that's what it's all about, what you think.
Speaker 4:I agree, I agree, I agree too. You know, you know, and I let me go back to you know conversation in front of the kids. Your children are watching you, Right, right.
Speaker 2:They're learning from you.
Speaker 4:So if you argue in front of them. When they start dating, they don't think it's okay to argue in front of other people. Right, they get married. They're gonna think it's okay to argue in front of their children. You gonna do them. They're not. They're not going to know how to solve an issue without yelling and mussing and carrying on in front of people.
Speaker 4:So, remember, as an educator, I've heard some things from children. They bring that stuff back to the forefront, they expose it in public, if not by their behavior, or they're just telling somebody what happened and they just often just come to the teacher and say, hey, I hope the police don't come to my house.
Speaker 2:Oh man, what is that? Now again, as you're educated, how old are these kids that's coming to say this thing Two, two years old. Two and three, right, two and three years old.
Speaker 4:Two and three years old, coming to the teacher and saying what I hope the police don't come to the house to get my daddy no more, because him and my mom was fussing. I'm like have a seat.
Speaker 2:Yeah, see, kids are watching.
Speaker 4:They are watching us, they're watching our behavior, they watch how we love each other, they watch the passion between each other. So I remember we used to get up and dance after the Sunday dinner. We would be in the living room dancing. Now, mind you, the kids, everybody got a partner, so not everybody in the house. Everybody's dancing, they're dancing with the baby Nick and Nat dancing together. We just dancing, so they see. If they see it, it's good for them to display it, that's right.
Speaker 4:It'll be careful in that aspect. And again, when they see you showing gratitude and when they see you loving on mom and loving on dad, then it's easier for them to love as well.
Speaker 3:Right.
Speaker 2:Does that make sense. Oh yeah, it makes sense.
Speaker 4:Sit the example.
Speaker 2:All right, we got West. We got Ferg on the like, ferg with us. All right, thank you all for Ferg. I know Ferg would get them just started in the chat.
Speaker 3:Hey Ferg.
Speaker 2:Hey, ferg, hey, all right. So yeah, we can't do negative stuff in front of the kids. You know, again, like you said, the more positive we show the kids, the more they be like okay, and then what it does, it helps when, like you say, when they get married, you know that, hey, my mom and dad used to do this and my mom and dad used to do it, and if they are marrying a person that didn't come from that, they can express that to them says look, you know, this is what I consider a healthy marriage, this is what I can see. It's all going up and in order for our kids to be successful, we're gonna have to do some things. We're gonna have to dance, we're gonna have to kiss in front of them and they're gonna say you get a room and I'm gonna get a room in our own house. I don't understand, but you know that's what they do All right.
Speaker 2:Who are your children? West, where, ferg say, kids are sponges to the good and to the bad, absolutely. And so we have a chance, we, as parents and married couple, we have a chance to give them the good, more of the good than the bad.
Speaker 4:But you know, in the same aspect, you know they also have to see that we're going through some things as a family so you can't withhold. You know every bad thing is how you get over it. That's what they need to see. They need to be aware of you know what's going on. At a certain age they also need to see you pull together as a family unit and overcome that storm.
Speaker 2:Oh yeah, I mean, I agree, they need to see you know as a Christian couple. They need to see that you put your trust in God.
Speaker 4:Absolutely.
Speaker 2:They need to see that.
Speaker 4:And they also need to see that it's going to be obstacles along the way. But this too shall pass.
Speaker 2:This too shall pass. Put your trust in God.
Speaker 4:You know, and when they become adults they'll know how to go through their storms themselves.
Speaker 2:They put their trust in God, absolutely Yep, and put their trust in God, all right, because they'll say, look, I saw my parents do it, you know. So I know. If we're teaching our kids God is not a respectable person and they say I saw my parents go through this and you know when we didn't have and all this kind of stuff you know, then I know God is going to take care of me.
Speaker 4:Absolutely, I know it.
Speaker 2:I know God. He's no respectable person. If he did it for my mom and dad, he would do it for us. I know that. All right. All right, that's a good, that's a good there. I like that. That was a good conversation, all right. Number six number six All right, let's go back over these right here. Let's go, let's do back, go back over these a little bit. So number one is say it out loud and more often. We need to tell somebody thank you, show them gratitude. Say it out loud and more often. Number two is write a thoughtful card, note or letter. You know it's good, that's good. You know you often. I think you said it even in the retreat. You know, sometimes you can't say it to the person, just write them a letter.
Speaker 3:Mm-hmm.
Speaker 2:Mm-hmm, write them a letter. Yep, mm-hmm, All right, give yourself, give your spouse a break, you know whatever, but if you break both ways, not just a wife, but underneath the break room. That's what it says. Spouse, that give you a spouse, you know.
Speaker 4:Sometimes it's more less like we were. I need to break. These kids are driving me crazy, but sometimes they need a break too.
Speaker 2:Oh, thank you for that. Thank you for speaking up. All the guys, y'all should. Guys, I should be seeing something in the dog on chats with saying giving a pass you a shout out, don't say dog on.
Speaker 4:Don't say dog on.
Speaker 2:Why not? Why don't say dog on, I'm from country, You're from country, I'm from Bajoke, I'm country, I'm from country. All right, all right, All right. Ferg says, especially when you tell the kids that family is everything, then we treat mom or dad as if they're not family and we're fighting for Look it, love it, love it for, love it, All right. So give yourself a spousal break. Number four cook a special dinner. Cook a special dinner that you have light some candles, play some music and dining together. Number five praise him or her to your kids. Then get them in on it. Number six is tell the world what your spouse does for you, and I'm telling the world tonight. My spouse is good to me.
Speaker 4:Yeah, that's it I always say like tell them, tell them, but you know, you know, you bring me joy.
Speaker 2:Yeah, she's my heartbeat. You hear that, that's my heartbeat. Yeah, you, my heartbeat. All right, we're easy passing you the best. Thanks for your All right.
Speaker 2:So, yeah, tell the world what your spouse does for you, you know, go a little further than the four walls of your house and let others know. As often as possible. When you're in a crowd you shouldn't just be saying, you know, oh, my spouse does this, or my spouse does that, you know. But you know talking negative. You should be saying man, my spouse, man, you see the clothes that I got on? Man, and somebody come and say, man, you dress good, it ain't me, it's my baby, my baby hook, this is a. You know, that's showing gratitude, you know, to your spouse Even. You know I've even been, you know to where. You've been, on one opposite sides and I've been on opposite side of the room or whatever, and you be looking good, you know. And I said my baby look good tonight, right, that's just. Hey, I'm telling the world, you know that, hey, she look good and I know she's dressing, I know she's looking good for me, you know.
Speaker 2:And so you know, tell the world what your spouse does for you, you know. Be grateful, how grateful you are for your husband or your wife. You know verbalize it. You know Tell them. Tell them, shout it from the mountain top, shout it from the mountain top. You know, let them know. Let them know. All right. Number seven behave in a grateful way. Behave in a grateful way. So saying thank you, giving gifts and telling others isn't quite enough. You have to behave in a grateful way towards your spouse, making the effort to notice what they do and to respect the work they're putting in for you or whatever front. Whatever they're running a business, running in the household or a combination of birth Don't take him and her for granted. Don't take them for granted.
Speaker 4:Just assume and expect that they're gonna be there if this is gonna happen.
Speaker 2:Yeah, you know. Hey, look, don't take them for granted. You gotta behave in a good too. You know that's again now. That's the reverse. As we said, number one was you wanna hear it. So you know, you tell my action speaks louder than words, but words speaks a lot too.
Speaker 2:But now it comes down to action, you know you could talk a good game, but what are you really saying behind closed doors? You know how are you treating me. You know, because you know to me, and I know this is going really far left or far right, whatever you wanna go, if a person is calling you out your name and abusing you and doing all this kind of stuff, he's not being grateful to you. Then I'd be grateful to one another. They can go and talk, they can come in front of the church, they can come in front of everybody and say, boy, I'm so grateful, I'm thankful for you know, but no, you don't show me gratefulness when I'm at home, you know. So what you say in front of everybody, what we say, tell the world what you say in front of everybody. You better be. You know better do that in closed doors too.
Speaker 2:Right what you say about that?
Speaker 4:I totally agree with that. You know that, growing up in church we I think I said once before that we had this one lady that was teaching children's church and she's cried all the time and it's only to find out that the way that her life was at church was not the way her life was at home. You know her life at home. We all thought she was crying because she was in the spirit most of the time.
Speaker 4:Only to find out that the children didn't want to go to church anymore. I'm sorry because she was crying all the time, only to find out that her life, aldo and her husband, was a deacon in the church yeah you know her life was miserable at home. So you know you can't be one way in front of people and then another way at home, especially when you have children, because your children see that, your daughters see that, your son see that and they think that this is the way it's supposed to be.
Speaker 4:Right and it's not, and it's not. So showing gratitude towards each other is really important. You and in this case, action, do speak louder than words Right, right, right, right.
Speaker 2:Hey, make sure you like and share. Please make sure you're liking. Share for those who will be listening on the Apple podcast. Make sure you like it for all of you know. Spotify, Make sure you like. Give us a nice review. What Ferg say? Oh, rob G say video game time is important. That goes by. Look at customer. Like I said, jordan gets his video game time.
Speaker 2:Okay here's time. Rob G said, yeah, video game. Then Ferg says if someone says, man, you're a whip, you should respond with I thought you knew that's my boo all right, I like that. Ferg, I gotta give you a double, a double one of that.
Speaker 4:Cause it's so true. I mean and that's the first thing people say, that's the first thing that I heard like if your husband is attentive to you and he makes sure you have what you need, and if you voice your opinion on something, you sit down, you discuss it. The first thing a next man says oh man, you whip. No, he's not whip, he's just showing respect that he wants to give him back to him.
Speaker 2:Hey look, I'd rather be whipped by you. You know what, See, I'd rather be whipped by you, baby. I mean, I don't look it, man. I don't study jokes like that man we talking about, cause half of them they don't have a marriage and they have women who are what I consider slaves, then, more than a spouse. That's what I consider, you know, they're more slaves than a spouse, you know, because they're so used to that old school type of thing. But you know, we in this thing together, you know, You're not a servant to me, that's, you're not a servant to me. You know, I was just, even when we were, I checked this out, man, we were up, you know, up in, like we were in Tampa and we were at, and you didn't notice this, I know you didn't, but I noticed it right, Me and you standing in a line to get our food, we standing in a line.
Speaker 2:And guess who else is standing in a line to get the food? Nothing but women. You didn't notice, and I'm just noticing. I'm like man, all the guys are sitting down, you know, and these are older gentlemen too, you know, some of all the guys are sitting down. I'm like I'm coming to get my own food, cause I know what I want, you know, and I know how to fix it, and I know you know. And plus, I don't want my wife to be carrying two plates and mess up and fall down or something like that, you know.
Speaker 2:So it's me, it's helping one another, but that's not how it was. It was like all the guys just sitting there waiting for you know, wait, nah, I mean, if that's your float, if that's how you want to float your boat, that's fine, that's good, that's dandy. But me, I'm like no, I can get my own, I can do my own, you know, Cause my mom taught me how to iron my clothes, she taught me how to clean, she taught me how to do this, you know, and so I can do it. I don't, it's like this. I don't marry. I wouldn't want to marry a lady for her to take care of me. And to me, sometimes I think men have got married because they want people to want a wife to take care of them.
Speaker 4:I think it's the kind of like the old school thing, because I remember we went to visit my aunt and my uncle in South Carolina one year and Eric asked hey, where to iron it? I need to iron an iron board. So my aunt got it for him and he went to. You know, I think you were what a carful.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I was a carful.
Speaker 4:So he and the aunt of his fans said my uncle, come to me and say, what are you doing sitting here while your husband and their ironing? He shouldn't be ironing. I was like, yes, he should be. Can you iron my shirt? Why you at it. He literally flipped, like these young people these days these young girls don't know how to be wise, but he, in the military, he can iron way better than I can, you know he can iron. So and he was just taking it back how you was like no, no, that's okay, uncle, we'll, I got it. I got it. Well, you sure that passing bringing sure. And then when he ironed my shirt, it was like whoa, this is not good, it's not good. I think you know it's all in the. I guess, whatever you want in your household, I feel like this if I'm gonna stay at home, I don't have to work, I'm at home, you ain't gotta worry about it. I'll iron your underwear, oh geez.
Speaker 2:If.
Speaker 4:I gotta get out and kick it. Well, let me start. I'm not too loud, I don't want to be too stuck, I want to stack an inch. Well, you know, if I'm, if I'm gonna stay at home and I'm in charge of the house, you don't have to worry about nothing. But if we both leave in the house, the brain incoming to the house, it should be shared responsibility Shared responsibility, I agree.
Speaker 2:I agree, I mean, we went left.
Speaker 4:Yeah, we did, we did.
Speaker 2:So let's get, you know we got off on. You know, let's get back on the freeway. Okay, let's get back on 95. Let's get back on 95. Let's get back on 95. All right, all right, so behaving a grateful way. So we, you know, we want to our actions, to show that we love our wife. All right, adele, first say come on, deakin, step up a game. Let that woman know you got her. All right, I don't even want to read the next one.
Speaker 4:Please don't, because he told me not to mention that ever again, uh-huh. And I've been doing my best not to mention myself. Well we got to get to this video, so we have time to discuss it.
Speaker 2:All right, all right, look at this. On number eight take your spouse on a romantic date.
Speaker 4:Well, you know, we talked about that, yeah.
Speaker 2:Take your spouse on a romantic date and again, that's just not the husband taking the wife. The wife sometimes can take and pay.
Speaker 4:Uh-huh, uh-huh.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, you do pay, I do pay, but you know what, you know what, babe? This is one thing. I'm going to bring this to your attention. I'm going to bring this to your attention right here, in front of you, know, in front of the world.
Speaker 4:Not in front of the world In front of the world.
Speaker 2:I got to bring it to your attention. You know when, when, when we go like in, in, in in Europe, paying, um, you don't have to give me the card for me to pay. Um, why not? Because you're paying, so it's just like to, to, to to like when we go to our favorite restaurant, it's like I'm paying, Even though I know that you're paying. I want other people to see that my wife is taking me out and she paying.
Speaker 4:Oh, I'm so sorry, baby, whenever I do that, they always come back to the table and give you my card. So, I avoided. I was like hold up, wait a minute, that's my card. Why'd you give him my card?
Speaker 2:Because they so used to demand paying all the time. They're not used to this new age where you know a beautiful lady like you can take a handsome man like me out.
Speaker 4:Okay, when? I'll make sure they know that, make sure they know for next time.
Speaker 2:Shout it to the world. Shout it to the world. Mountain top. All right, my baby, take me out. That's what she do. She take me out. All right, take your spouse out on a romantic date. Hey, it's me how you doing. All right, all right, number nine all right, give a just because gift. Give a just because gift. Just because, you know, sometimes a gratitude gift is in order, you know, and not because I did something. You know, man, we good for that. We love to give gifts when we, you know, when I made our spouse man, and all of a sudden now we want to go on and buy them this or buy them that, you know, but we give them a just because, just because I love you, you know you come home, you have a nice purse. Yeah, that'd be good, that'd be a just because.
Speaker 4:Works for me, works for you. Well, you know, in the same instance. I remember one day I came back to my desk at work and my favorite candy was on my desk, my favorite drink. I was Kit Kat, and I'm a real Mountain Dew and I was like, oh, you know something simple.
Speaker 2:Yeah, something simple.
Speaker 4:You know, just hey, love you, babe. Have a good day, like look at it.
Speaker 2:Something simple, yeah, something simple. That's all, that's that's. All you need is something simple.
Speaker 4:And so I like what he's made to say. She said whatever works for your partnership, and that is so true. You know you have to figure out what works for each one of you, what you can do in the process of showing gratitude to one another.
Speaker 2:Right, yeah, mm. Hmm, all right, but you should, but it must be some gratitude show.
Speaker 4:Absolutely, it must be.
Speaker 2:Yeah, you got to, you got to do something, all right, all right, number 10. Number 10. I'm telling you, ladies, make sure, make sure we got, we got a video that's man is going to, is going to. These guys are going to be like, oh man, all right, all right, number 10. Strive to offer more than you take we do.
Speaker 2:You know, as a spouse, you don't want to be a taker, always taken from your spouse and taken from your spouse. Taken from your spouse. You know, you want to. If you take, you want to add. You know, put something on it. You know, as he says, successful marriages are all about servant hood. We're serving one another. It's no big eyes and little use. We're serve, we're serving one another. You know, in the context of the scripture, jesus was sent here to serve. You know, again, he was all God, he was all human and he, you know he could have did so much as as being God, he could have did so much, but he came here to serve. That's what he did with the disciples. That's why he washed their feet. You know, because it was served, because you know, in the context of the Jewish, when they went to certain houses, their people will come out and wash their feet, because you know they're walking. They ain't got no shoes, like us.
Speaker 2:Man, the roads were dirty and dirt and cow poop and the horse poop and all that kind of stuff, and you walk in and all this does. You know all that stuff. So when you go into a house they would have servants to wash the feet. So Jesus says you know what I come to serve? I'm going to wash my disciples feet. They're dirty feet and that's what he did, and that's that's what we. We come to serve one another Because nobody should be a servant unto me and I don't serve the other person. You know that's how it is in the context of marriage. So that's what successful marriages is all about servanthood. And it says another way to show your gratitude is to avoid existing only as a taker. Give, give, give. Your spouse is given to you. So make sure you're not only that, you only reciprocate it. You know, go above and beyond to give back. That's what we should be doing, all right, that's what we should be doing, all right. What is what's going on there? What's going on there?
Speaker 4:Oh well, first said please say number 10, again Please say number something.
Speaker 2:I haven't heard it. Please say that again. All right, all right. Number 10, strive to offer more than you can. Strive to offer more than you take. Is that for? Strive to offer more than you take? Successful marriages are all about servanthood. That's what it is, all right.
Speaker 4:I agree with that. I definitely agree with that. And even when we think about you know, as our relationship with Christ, you know it's about servanthood, it's about what he created us for. You know, it's about thinking about others before we think about ourselves. You know, I was listening to a gentleman today, today or yesterday, where he was saying you know, if you would take your mind off your problems and pray for other people who are going through problems, and before you realize that you have been your, your problem has been solved and been blessed by God because you took your focus off yourself. So in a marriage, when you take your focus off yourself and you put your focus on your spouse both ways, then you come to that common ground without even realizing that you know, if there was an issue, because you're there to serve one another, you're there to focus on one another.
Speaker 4:I remember a gentleman saying a long time ago that his goal and when, when making love to his wife, his goal was not about him. His goal was about making sure his wife was good, you know, and so I was like why, wow, I never really thought about it like that. So if his goal is to make sure she's good and her goal is to make sure he's good. We have a great time Just explosive, and that's the point.
Speaker 4:And that's the part of serving as well, that's the part of serving each other.
Speaker 2:You serve each other needs. That's what it's all about. Absolutely, you guys. You should serve one of these, all right? So those are the 10 ways. Now you may have some ways. That's not. That was not listed tonight, you know. So at the end we're going to give you a little chance to call in, give you a minute to call in with your ways to show. You can put it on the chat, but we love for you to call in. We'd like to hear people. You know what I mean. We'd like to hear people, and so I want you to call in, you know, or or give your thoughts on some of the ways you got it. We got some for the. We got something for the ladies. This is for the ladies, all right. Now, what does Ferg say? Before we get to that? He says you know, it is important for people to feel love, to know that they are loved. Number 10 helps do this. All right, we give a shout out for that, for yeah, absolutely for getting help, all right, all right.
Speaker 2:So I often we often have patsies be strolling through and it's viral videos that goes out about marriages and when she sent me this video I said, oh, we got to do this, this right here. This guy who had been married 66 years you know we was up in, you know, just remind me, was talking about it was up in Tampa and he was asking about people, marriages. You know, I stood down at the bed beginning. He says 30 over 30, you know whatever. We said 35. That was time for me to sit down. But it was people.
Speaker 2:It was two, three guys 75 75 years and it was not like they were bending over. I had at these games and they were, they was, they were standing up strong. You were proud, it was proud. You know, 75 years marriage, man, that's a long time, is a long time. So this guy, this, this bishop, church of God in Christ Bishop, he's been, you know, he's married for 66 years and he was at the opening of the Kojic Conference. He was doing the opening Of opening part and you sent the video. It's been viral. Maybe somebody who's watching, maybe you saw it, but we want to just show this again for all of the guys. We need to. You guys, I'm telling you now get your notebooks.
Speaker 4:Take notes take notes.
Speaker 2:You're talking, this is coming from an old G. Oh, this is a old G man, and so when the old G talks, that's you got to listen. You got to listen cuz the old G done been through some things and he know how to treat a woman. So are you ready? I'm ready. All right, here we go.
Speaker 5:As he said, I was married for 66 years and some people my chicken on the side. I didn't have no chicken on the side, no girlfriend either. I had a three and one. I had a good friend, I had a loving, I had a wife and I thought that I had to be in church every time the doors open. But the Lord spoke to me and he said it's Church is my bride. Well, your wife is your, and I start taking money off and made her queen for a day. She didn't have to do anything. She didn't have a cook broke the dinner or lunch or nothing. Sometimes she didn't have to make up the big good idea that full. Then the man used to call me boy, you, there's him, big. I said that ain't. No, no problem, no, you've been picked by the right hand. And then I told me forgot, a good peck, a little peck, I'm trying to help your brothers out here. And then they told me man, you are.
Speaker 5:I waited paints in my house. I Waited paints. I said I do too, all of them. She put out for miss Erin I to put on Sunday morning and I'm gonna get to my mess. But I wanted I'm on the later side go see me and want to be macho.
Speaker 5:They feel like if they shade a tear, they that's the weak. No, no, no, no, no, no, that, that, that that See, and brothers, I know this Me, but if you help me, see, you got to be happy in the home too. I don't want nobody hypocritical in the house and trying to preach to me in the church. So now, if you have a good, why Treat her like she your wife, that's your honey, that she your baby, that she your sugar and that she your speed hard. If you got a good, why she could be anything to you, you won't have to be. And women's like compliments, come on, sister, y'all got to get women.
Speaker 5:When your wife get ready to come to church, you, you got a certain time, you want to leave the house. She'll put on clothes and she will look, come to you and say, hi, this look you, this she fit to go change again. She put on another dress. You are she fit to go change? Agree when she put it on and come in time, stand right and see hi, this, this look you better. Say baby, you look good in there and then you fit to get out the house. If you got a good why she dressed to please you, not anybody else. There's not a good wife and not concerned about any kind of man trying to hit on her. She won't hear it from you.
Speaker 5:We did a lot of seminars to tell you one more thing you don't forget about your wife. Never think about her. If you got a girlfriend, you always trying to show up for your girlfriend. Who's right? You look penis in your pocket and what not. Sure for your wife, sure for your wife. Now that we you sure for your wife.
Speaker 5:You go to the drugstool by one of the mercy cards and Then when you buy that card you put your mission Sweet heart, sugar baby and all like that you know. And then you put a piece of money. You got them to know your wife cause it three places. She gonna go to before she did in the base, you go into the mirror in the bathroom and she'll make sure she got a little cream or whatever on the face to make it look good. And she gonna go to the mirror when she come in the house to make sure we have good and put on a little sleeping cap.
Speaker 5:And she gonna go to have a car right there and then you have another. This is the big card right here. You take one and you put a big piece of money under that one and you put it under the pillow. And now you just the last one. When she turned that pillow back and opened that car with all that good talking, moisture stuff and that big bill In the, you ain't got one more thing to do. Look up, the heaven is a law. Give me strength.
Speaker 2:Yes, sir, I give me strength. Oh man, what that was good. Oh man, bishop, bishop did that. That was some good advice. That was some dad. That that is, as Jordan say, this is some OG wisdom. Right here Did is some OG wisdom. Look up and say Lord, give me. He's looking, we don't put that money there. You done, did all of this for mushy stuff, mushy the mushy mushy.
Speaker 4:Now she finna get some gratitude. I'm gonna need strength for that. That's alright, right. Why say facts 100? Yeah, yes, yes that that was.
Speaker 2:That was some good. Oh gee wisdom. Right there, man, I'm telling you, you can't get no better than that. The guy who's been married 66 years, 66 years and still doing this on Mondays.
Speaker 2:Yeah, wow, yeah it's a lot of Monday, that's a lot of Mondays, that's a lot of Mondays, that's a lot of Mondays, all right, so we're gonna open up. We got like five minutes, got about five minutes. We're gonna open up the line for for people to call and you could, you could call in here. Let me get this music. You together here. You just join in this meeting here. Stop the music, all right.
Speaker 4:He said, oh Right, for he did. He put it all down there. I just know that you are definitely that type of husband. Okay, all right, all right, look we want you to call in.
Speaker 2:If you could call in down 954-722-2219, come and talk to us tonight. You know, you know, tell us what you're you're thankful for. Also, you know you, we can talk about the little video clip. We got a minute here. You would? We could talk about the video video clip if you enjoyed it. 754-222-2219. 754-222-2219, that's a lot of twos, mm-hmm. Well, you know what I liked about it. Yeah, yeah, yeah, that's a lot of twos.
Speaker 4:When you know what I liked about it. Yeah, yeah, yeah how it caught my attention was that he said no, as a bishop, I'm not at the church every time the door is open. Mm-hmm, I'm taking time off. So I can spend with her so. I can show gratitude to her and treat her like a queen for the day. You know, and I was, and that's kind of what caught my attention and I said wait a minute, let me go back and look at this.
Speaker 2:Right, right and.
Speaker 4:I listened to it, the entire video, and I was like this is awesome To know that you know. He took a moment because some people feel like once they become safe and they get into church, every time the church door opening out of B Doe, the wife neglected, kids neglected, and then you know they find themselves in a situation. You have to take that time to show you know, appreciation to one another and the same way, too, you can't put you know everything before the husband. You can't. I gotta do this for the kids out of that, for the kids out of this. I gotta, you know, I gotta work, I gotta do all this. You gotta take a moment, you know.
Speaker 4:You gotta take a moment and find your it, you know, and when you realize what it is you gotta always try and go back to that and fall in love again, right, that's okay, because we fall in love over and over. That's right. That's right, all right, y'all, come on, come on.
Speaker 3:Call on in 754-222-219.
Speaker 2:All right, it's that many twos, man, and you can get those twos mixed up, you know. So we're waiting, waiting for somebody to call in. But I mean I just the whole video man to me was just just great. You know, I knew you would like it when I heard it out you did.
Speaker 4:I'll be looking for stuff that stands out on something that we could, you know, chat about and talk. This call may be recorded or transcribed. You gotta call it. Yeah, we gotta call it. It's Mata. It's calling in.
Speaker 2:Hey, it's Mata. How you doing? Can you hear us? I?
Speaker 3:can hear y'all how y'all doing. We're doing good. How are you?
Speaker 2:How are you doing?
Speaker 3:Um better now.
Speaker 2:Oh, you better now.
Speaker 3:I'll text y'all later about that. I've been under the weather for two weeks, but I'll text y'all later about that.
Speaker 2:Okay.
Speaker 3:I actually wanted to call to show some gratitude and to give a shout out to my husband. Um, after the retreat my husband been on point yeah.
Speaker 1:Okay, all right.
Speaker 3:I had breakfast in bed. I have my tea ready every morning. He's cleaning, tidying up the house. The juice is on. I mean a whole new man. And I just wanted to give him a special shout out. That man has been good to me. You hear me, I was sick and he took care of me. He fed me, he gave me my medicine every day. It was good to me.
Speaker 2:And.
Speaker 3:I also want to give a special shout out to Ferg. Ferg, that segment you gave at the marriage retreat changed our lives Wow. I just want to say thank you. We appreciate you for sharing and for being vulnerable. We thank you so much Because you really you saved our marriage and we thank you for that.
Speaker 2:Oh go stars. Yes, all right, harold, I give you a little thing that's an old A. When you get married, six to six years, you got the OG. You can tell some OG stuff too, harold.
Speaker 4:Harold get two go stars, two go stars.
Speaker 2:Well, it's made them. Hope you feel better, you know. Enjoy your Thanksgiving. We love you. Love you and thank you for calling me Thank you All right, blessings. Bye, bye, all right. Bye, bye, all right. We got anybody else want to call in. Wow, that was good, that was good man. Hey, you know it's good to hear stuff like that. You know, when you have the retreat, you know, I mean we've had a lot of people that have been here for a long time, you know.
Speaker 2:I mean we've heard things, but it's good to hear you know. You know that's that what you're doing with God's vision that he gives you. Oh boy, you know, but very eyeball the sweat. Oh Lord, for a call in man. Don't call him, it's really sweet.
Speaker 4:Yeah, it really helps to know that we're in our purpose.
Speaker 2:Yeah, we're doing. We're doing our purpose here tonight.
Speaker 4:You know what God is calling us to do and you know if we can help one.
Speaker 2:you know yes, that'd be great, yeah, yeah. Our retreats are Fire, they fire, but I can't. It's almost like I can't wait to the next one.
Speaker 4:So remind me we got a whole kid once. You know man, yeah, so oh man, we love you.
Speaker 2:Yeah, so anybody, we know we got how. About time is it baby? What time is?
Speaker 4:past time, 35. All right, we had one calling.
Speaker 2:We had one calling in, all right, and you know. So we thank God we shouldn't down, we shouldn't down the calls right here. But she didn't, she didn't down. Nobody, nobody, no more callers, no more calling in. Well, again, baby, again, as like it's made to say to to Harold, I just want to appreciate you again and thank you for all that you've been doing this year and all that you've done for me. You know what? What?
Speaker 2:Another thing that really got in the video when he says that you know that your wife's dressed for you, man, that and you you tell me that all the time. You know, you, what you say? I don't want your eyeballs all over the eyeballs are to me and you tell other women that, hey, you're dressing for your husband. You don't want him to be looking all over that, you want him to be looking at you holding your hand, walking in there. You know, and look, when I'm walking with you, you know I'll be holding your hand, I'll be waiting for a joke of the man. What? Look at him. We like, we like we on our podcast, you know last was yesterday.
Speaker 2:Well, yesterday, man, y'all better be glad. Yeah, daddy, I wouldn't be here tonight. The Joker boy, that joke is there, I'm telling you. Yeah, it was very disrespectful, you know, and what you had to do to, you had to tell me to slow down.
Speaker 4:Slow down. You know, soldier, let's not get in trouble in public. So okay, you know we just gonna keep on moving.
Speaker 2:But see, I don't mind a guy looking at you, this one saying I don't mind a guy looking at you, but the staring and the disrespect that is that's I have a problem with. I know I have a good looking wife. I know I have a beautiful wife. I know I have a sexy wife. So I know guys are going to look, you know, but you can look and keep on moving. You know you do got to be and be disrespectful, like you're going to feel to come up and say something man, come on, you know, so yeah, so Right, it is what it is and I just thank you for being you and for loving me and for loving our children, you know, and being the greatest mom that you could be and to be in the greatest spouse that you can be. So thank you, thank you. That's my gratitude to you. You know I thank God for allowing us to just be who we are together.
Speaker 4:Oh right, oh, okay, I mean, it's so many things that I could say to describe why I'm grateful and why I'm thankful.
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Speaker 2:Amen, cause we are out there and I think the more people that hear this, the more marriages will be man just elevating to the level that God wants them to be, and we won't give no room for the enemy. We have some good people. That's chatting. We have good people, you know, man, that's why we want people to call, you know, so they can get help, not only hear from us, but they hear from other people. Right, you know? So that's you know. That's another reason why we want people to call. Well, it is time to say good night. It is time to go and get ready for Thursday with family and friends, and I'm so glad that all my family will be here. We're going to have a good time. Yes, all right, but God bless you. Good night.
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