Have you ever felt the power of a hearty belly laugh in the midst of chaos? We, your hosts Eric and Patsy Richards, delve into the heart of this phenomenon in our latest episode of 'Marriage in Real Life.' we navigate the waves of laughter and its pivotal role in successful unions. Our personal experiences, interspersed with hilarious anecdotes like the wayward rat in the kids' room and the curious case of the elusive pink gown, lay the groundwork for an enlightening discourse on the importance of humor in relationships.
As we embark on this journey of discovery, we encounter the intriguing contrast between joy and happiness. We discuss how the two are not interchangeable, especially within the realm of marital bliss. We learn how joy, unlike fleeting happiness, can withstand the test of time and tribulations. It's an insight that holds particularly true in the context of dating - the quest for a companion who brings joy and helps preserve it.
We extend an open invitation to listeners to share their favorite funny moments with their spouses that highlight the importance of laughter in relationships. With an array of insightful interviews, coverage of hot marriage topics, and an abundance of laughter, Season Two of 'Marriage in Real Life' promises to be a rollercoaster of emotions. So, join us in this expedition through the highs, lows, and laughter-filled moments of Marriage in Real Life.
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Follow us on Facebook & Instagram at @marriageinreallifepodcast
Have you ever felt the power of a hearty belly laugh in the midst of chaos? We, your hosts Eric and Patsy Richards, delve into the heart of this phenomenon in our latest episode of 'Marriage in Real Life.' we navigate the waves of laughter and its pivotal role in successful unions. Our personal experiences, interspersed with hilarious anecdotes like the wayward rat in the kids' room and the curious case of the elusive pink gown, lay the groundwork for an enlightening discourse on the importance of humor in relationships.
As we embark on this journey of discovery, we encounter the intriguing contrast between joy and happiness. We discuss how the two are not interchangeable, especially within the realm of marital bliss. We learn how joy, unlike fleeting happiness, can withstand the test of time and tribulations. It's an insight that holds particularly true in the context of dating - the quest for a companion who brings joy and helps preserve it.
We extend an open invitation to listeners to share their favorite funny moments with their spouses that highlight the importance of laughter in relationships. With an array of insightful interviews, coverage of hot marriage topics, and an abundance of laughter, Season Two of 'Marriage in Real Life' promises to be a rollercoaster of emotions. So, join us in this expedition through the highs, lows, and laughter-filled moments of Marriage in Real Life.
Watch the live show on Youtube.
Follow us on Facebook & Instagram at @marriageinreallifepodcast
Hello and welcome to season two of Marriage in Real Life with your host, eric and Patsy Richards. Marriage in Real Life is a podcast about two imperfect people with an imperfect marriage. This podcast aims to help listeners to know that God, who is perfect, can use your imperfections and your imperfect marriage to help others. So let's laugh and learn. I hope you enjoy the episode. Let's get straight into it.
Speaker 2:Welcome to Marriage in Real Life. Welcome, alright, alright, we're so glad to be back to episode season two, right, season two, yes, season two. Man Excited about it, excited about season two. Well, I'm Eric.
Speaker 3:I'm both ladyfee.
Speaker 2:Alright, amen. So we're glad to be back with season two of Marriage in Real Life, where we imperfect people, you know imperfect marriage, but that's what we do. That's what we do, yeah, that's what we do. Well, hey, what's been happening? What's been happening that you can think of?
Speaker 3:So much has been happening. School started back, trying to get in the groove of things.
Speaker 2:There's a lot of things, so much I didn't even think of anything.
Speaker 3:We should have kind of jotted down.
Speaker 2:You know how we do, you know that's, you know. So I mean, like you say, school started back. We're back in full swing. You know, mai got her ears pierced. Yes, she did. Yes, she got her ears pierced. So you know, she got some lungs on her. Absolutely yes, she got some lungs on her. So, you know, this summer, you know, was kind of like we took a little break. We had one session, you know, but we took a little break and we're glad to be back back into the swing of things every other Monday. Yeah, we got, so we got to get back into it. Right, all right. That's yeah, yeah, all right.
Speaker 2:So what's coming this? You know, just coming this season, and we're going to have some. We're going to have some interviews this season. We're going to be interviewing some of our guests. We're going to have something a marriage hot topics, marriage, hot topics. I can't wait for that Marriage. You know we're going to look at viral videos and, and you know, look at some hot topics.
Speaker 2:I want to say to everybody who's you know joining with us either on YouTube live or who we're listening to on podcasts. You know we thank you for coming back with us and listening for season two. Yeah, no, season one we had about maybe 225 downloads. Yeah, yes, we're not including. You know, with YouTube, how many views we see, but we know with a podcast we had 225 downloads. So that's a good applause right there. Yeah, all right, just starting out, you know. So I think the interviews with you know where it will help. You know what we got to do. Well, I mean, we're not going to prolong it, you know.
Speaker 2:You know one thing I wanted to hear about. You know, we saw the documentary Kirk Franklin documentary. Yeah, we saw that, you know, and and it was, it was, I mean, I saw his remarks. You know a lot, a lot of people reached out to him, you know, because I can imagine, you know how he felt. A lot of guys and a lot of men, they were, you know, they were, you know, seeing how, how he, seeing a man, they felt, kind of felt what it is, you know, without a father in their lives and you know things like that, you know, and a man issue. So, yeah, so it was, it was real good. It was real good.
Speaker 2:I told you, you know how that kind of like, just, you know, we sat there and we, you know, I'll tell you how that kind of like bothered me not bothered me, but reminded me of some things you know, of my childhood going through there, because I was adopted as well, you know, and so you found out that my dad was my real dad after he died, you know, and so you know it kind of like and it bothered me, but he reminded me, but he reminded me of some things you know. So it was. It was a real good, real good documentary. You know, I read somewhere and said what else? And good promotion, because you know his new album come out next month, you know Father's Day, so yeah, so all right. So you look like you're bored, so let's get into the topic. All right, you look like a boy. Yeah, what?
Speaker 3:do you want?
Speaker 2:me to say, yeah, you look like you're bored so I'm going to listen to you and give you your space. Yeah, all right, so let's get into the topic, all right? Hey, this is a good one. We want to laugh a little bit. You know, like I was telling you, I think sometimes we get marriages too serious. You know, and every you know, because you know you talk about bills, you're talking about children, you're talking about politics. I mean just so much chaos. You know, we in South Florida, we were worried about insurance for our house and insurance for condos, insurance for the car, yes, oh, man. And so sometimes you can get too serious, you know, about things. And so we need to lighten up a little bit. Right, we need to lighten up.
Speaker 2:So tonight we're going to start off our season two talking about four reasons to keep laughing together. All right, four reasons to keep laughing together. And we, you know it is some good things. You know, when you're getting to know someone, you never, probably sometimes you think of it as a person that makes you laugh. That's a good quality, right, that's a good quality, you know. And so you want somebody to make you laugh, to make you smile to not all. You know not to be so serious and go. You know point one, two, three, four, five. You know what you think about that. You know make you laugh.
Speaker 3:Yes, all the time when we were dating.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 3:Not much. I was very frustrated dating you, but there are definitely times you know that I got a good chuckle.
Speaker 2:Uh huh, okay, all right. So I'm glad you got a little chuckle there, yeah, but that's a good quality to have to make me, you know, make you laugh when I think about it. I don't know, did you make me laugh? I don't know, I can't remember. Oh, I can't remember we were serious about things. I guess yeah.
Speaker 3:You know it was serious. So I don't remember doing a lot of laughing. I mean, there were times when we did you know, something came up and we both just thought it was hilarious and would laugh about it. But I think humor is definitely a good quality in any relationship. You want somebody that's going to make you smile.
Speaker 2:Right, right right.
Speaker 3:You want somebody that shoots you something in the middle of the day to make you be like you know what this person is crazy you know yeah. Although I'm crazy in love with them, you know.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 3:I think humor is very, very important in relationships.
Speaker 2:It's very, very, yeah, it is very important. All right, so that's what we're going to talk about tonight. You know, because humor, like you said, it is very important. It's like a sense of chemistry and connection, when you know, when you have humor in it. But it seems like once you get married, sometimes you forget about humor Because, like I said, oh, he comes to children, yeah, he comes to bills. Here comes all of this stuff and, you know, humor takes on a different role. Then, you know, sometimes you put it on the back burner, you just don't sit down and have a good chuckle. You know one of those good chuckles that you just, oh God, you know. You one of those good chuckles where you're driving in a car, you just, you just almost have to pull over. You know it is, you know so. So, all right. So number one, number one in this four reasons to keep laughing together. Number one is humor helps you fight less. Humor helps you fight less. That's what does. So it might sound like a bit of a stretch, but you know, you know, just just listen to this point here.
Speaker 2:Chances are you've both got some habits that annoys each other. You know your habits, little habits that are annoyed and you might have personality quirks that drive each other nuts from time to time, and you could express your annoyance. You could express your knowledge through criticism. You could be critical of somebody you know, or you could just choose to see it through a humorous lens, you know, and laugh about it. So either, or you could use, you know, whatever the little quirks is. You know and and and. The thing about it is little quirks is not something that you can change Right, it's just little quirks. You know just something little. You know that like, oh man, that just that just just irritates me, but it's not nothing you can really, you know, it's not nothing that's going to cause you to get divorced about.
Speaker 3:As my grandmother used to say, choose your bath.
Speaker 2:Choose your battles, yeah, choose your battles, yeah, choose your battles. And so so, even though you're not trying to impress each other, no more, it's time to you know, just you know, just just let it just have humor and you can learn to lovely accept each other's flaws and and and and temporal irritations with humor. You know, just be humorous about that little quirk.
Speaker 3:Okay, inside joke.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, we're going to get to that too. We're going to get to that. So, you know, you learn to lovely, accept, you know each other's flaws and tempered irritations with humor and it will help. And so that's why humor will help you fight less. You argue, argue, you know, argue less and you have to be, you know, humorous.
Speaker 2:If somebody you think about, a comedian all the time, if they're making you laugh, you don't really have time to be mad at them. You know what I mean they. You know not saying that your marriage because it has to be a balance, right, what you say when you say it has to be a balance, you got to have humor, but you got to be serious too. You know there's times to be serious, you know, and there's time to be humorous. But if you're serious all the time and don't have no humor, then your marriage is just going to be crazy. But if you humorous all the time and don't be serious sometimes, then it's going to be crazy too. So you got to have a balance, but you need to have humor in your. You know some things you should just laugh about, right, I agree, some things you should laugh about. So humor, it helps you fight less.
Speaker 2:Number two humor promotes playfulness. Humor promotes playfulness. I see you smiling All right. So laughing together cultivates a sense of fun and friendship, and so that's what you should have you should be friends.
Speaker 3:I think in the beginning of anything you should be friends. The word friend is has such a strong definition, the first, the word friend and friendship is really strong. It has a very strong definition. So in any relationship, male, female I believe you should be friends first. Anyway, Okay. And when you you can laugh with your friend, you know you can hang with your friend.
Speaker 4:Right.
Speaker 3:And when your friend have inside jokes, you know I'll be like mm-hmm, yeah, I see what just happened. Y'all know y'all can read off each other.
Speaker 2:Right, right.
Speaker 3:When you're married. That same friendship is important, as well as having humor, and you know it even helps with communication. So I'm definitely you know I'm up on that.
Speaker 2:Oh, up on that one. All right, we got some people watching and you know, go ahead and type. You know I'll give you a little break. You go ahead and type hello to them. I just typed hello everyone. We got some people who's watching with us? Chime in where you, where you are watching from, chime in where you are watching from, and we give you a good shout out. You know, and you know, communicate with us. If you think humor is a very important part of your marriage or you don't. I'm going to have a couple of questions at the end, so we hope people can chime in. But humor promotes playfulness. You can imagine, like you said, a friendship in which you never share a laugh. Can you imagine that? A friendship where you never share a laugh, it just it's not a good friendship. You know you got to laugh about something. It's. I don't know, can people be so serious? I thank God you know that in our marriage we we not, as we're not serious, serious. You know what I mean.
Speaker 3:Not all the time. No.
Speaker 2:We, we know when to be serious, we know when to be serious and we know when, when to laugh. You know, and that's like I say, it has to have a balance, it must be a balance. But I'm glad you know that we've. We've learned and grown to be friends, right, and learn and grown to be friends and learn to laugh. I would say now, do you think in the beginning we laughed?
Speaker 3:In the beginning of what.
Speaker 2:In the beginning of our marriage. Yeah, in the beginning of our marriage.
Speaker 3:I can't recall us having like a really good, like hearty laugh because we were busy being parents and trying to raise the kids and get them to bus and get done and done, so it wasn't a lot of time for you know that I just I can't remember any time.
Speaker 2:We didn't have no extra money to do anything to.
Speaker 3:No, we didn't have money to lighten it.
Speaker 2:And, like I said in the beginning, that sometimes strains, you know, because you get so serious, because you got bills, you know you got, you know all of this stuff that's going on and you know.
Speaker 2:So you just don't laugh because you're thinking about me I got to pay this bill, I got to do this and I got to do that and you just don't laugh. So you just, you know, and that leads sometimes the seriousness and the stress leads to fights, and I'm going to say fights, I mean arguments, right, it leads to that when, if you would laugh a little bit, like you said, like you said it'll, you might fight less. But in the beginning, you know, when we got the girls up, man it was, it was like man, you know you cooking, you know I'm going to work, I'm coming home to work, I'm being serious, you know, and I mean we had our play for times, you know. But you know it was just, you know it was man, we was more serious. But I think as our marriage matured, our marriage matured, we matured and, man, right now we laugh about anything.
Speaker 3:We laugh about everything. We be like oh you know, yeah, so I totally, I agree with that.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 3:And that's, and the thing about it is at the beginning is when people tell you oh, if you last a year, you're going to have a strong marriage. I was like, okay, we made it to a year. Oh, if you last three years, you're trying to make it. I'm like, okay, we got to make it in three years, yeah, yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah you made it in three years.
Speaker 3:It's like, oh, if you're making it to five years, I was like you know what, eric, I'm throwing it in the towel. Throw it in the towel. Just going to let it do what it do.
Speaker 2:Right, right right.
Speaker 3:And doing that. Those times, those times are trying times, because not only are you like okay, so you bought two kids into the marriage, I bought three kids into the marriage, so we trying to learn the kids, but we don't really know each other Right. So that could cause for a lot of stress in the marriage at the early stages.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 3:But I think the times are going to be Now.
Speaker 2:This kid is straight Now, two of those kids that you say you brought it was mine right? So I want nobody to think that you had three kids by your you know.
Speaker 3:So if I had three kids and they weren't, you as you went to marry me?
Speaker 2:I don't think so, baby.
Speaker 3:Well, you would have been missing out on a good thing, or your good thing.
Speaker 2:Hey, I don't know about that yet. Three kids man I don't know, boy that's that's a hard push, but thank God I had the word about it.
Speaker 3:That's nice. No, we laugh. We laugh about it now, you laugh about it now.
Speaker 2:Hey, nat says she remembered the time that that I got rid of the mouse in their room. That was crazy. That was crazy. Go ahead, tell the story. I know you want to tell it. I know you want to tell it.
Speaker 3:No, nicky came. Nick and Nat came downstairs and said Mom, there's a rat in our room. And I was like a rat. Are you sure it's a rat? Yeah, we saw it.
Speaker 4:It was an.
Speaker 3:Enclonico. I was like, okay, so we sent the kids downstairs. So Eric got the broom and I got the sheet. I'm not really sure what I was going to do with the sheet, but I think I was supposed to throw it over the rat. My Eric beat it to death.
Speaker 4:It was hilarious.
Speaker 3:The rat went back down in the attic. It was in the basement, I think it was. That was hilarious, and also the time when the deer hit the car and oh, no, no, no, no, no, come on die.
Speaker 2:You go tell I'm going to tell that story. You go ahead and tell it the deer hit the car.
Speaker 3:For the first time in the children's life they had never heard their dad say a bad word. And he said the D word and the kids was like, oh, we got home. We laughed so hard yeah.
Speaker 2:Yeah, that was good. That was good. That was, that was a good fun time. That was a good fun time, all right. So, uh, malika, you know Nat up there in Chicago and Malika, you know Tampa saying their house allows our baby boy they. Humor is very important in a marriage. We have a house of laughs over here. I couldn't imagine being married and not laughing. Yeah, that sounds that. That don't sound terrible, that sounds good.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and not laughing he means oh OK, all right, all right, yeah, but you hear what you're going to see, what Jordan said, remember that two hour long. You know game, oh God.
Speaker 3:Well, let's not talk about that game, because all y'all cheated. Oh no no, the whole family.
Speaker 2:The whole family, Everybody yeah the whole family was cheating man.
Speaker 3:We didn't know each other. We didn't know each other. We went to the bathroom. Yeah, we went to the bathroom, high and hard.
Speaker 2:Boy, I tell you, Nat boy, I'll tell you man, so yeah, so humor, you know, even in a family it promotes playfulness.
Speaker 3:And, as you can see, like that involved the kids even. They remember how funny it was. So if they see the adults having fun and laughing with each other, it's going to make it easier for them to have fun and laugh at each other.
Speaker 2:Right, oh man, I never thought about that.
Speaker 3:Yeah, we are an example. We have set an example, like when we used to dance every Sunday after church. We would turn on the music yeah, everybody would get a partner and we would dance in the living room.
Speaker 4:Right.
Speaker 3:It was hilarious, but everybody had a partner yeah.
Speaker 4:So you know they have.
Speaker 3:We have to be an example.
Speaker 4:Right.
Speaker 3:And humor is part of being an example Right, a healthy relationship.
Speaker 2:Can you imagine if they only saw us arguing? Yeah, you see what I'm saying. So that's like you say, that set an example, you know, if only they saw us arguing, slamming doors, you know or just being serious all the time, all the time they raised their children that way.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and that'd be, that's unhealthy. They'd be like, well, this is how it's supposed to be, you know, until somebody, you know somebody tried to, you know, to help them. You know, no, that's not how it's supposed to be. You know we didn't. You know, again, we didn't. You know we didn't. You know we didn't get everything right, but we got I would say we got majority things right. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2:So I think I thank God for that. So I thank God that we did have humor. Um, cause there's so many, you think about it, there's so many kids now that don't see humor in their parents, you know, cause they're homeless. And you know, maybe they're homeless and and, and the parents trying to work, trying to get them out the house, you know, trying to do things and they go to school is serious, they come home is serious. So you know it's, it's, it's not at that. So I thank God, thank God, man, I'm telling you God really blessed us with wisdom, he really blessed us. Thank God for that prayer. Huh, amen, I can. I know one thing I never forget is that red, that red, you know couch thing about a mile long. You know, all right.
Speaker 2:So, um, so, yeah, so prioritizing having fun together, even when life gets hectic, or perhaps, especially you know doing those times when life gets hectic, you know man, bills, everything is going crazy, it's going haywire, the you need to get the water done, you need to get the car done, you need to get that. Sometimes you just need to sit back. You know. Now we have faith in God, that he's going to take care of us. That's our thing. So that's why, uh, uh, you know, when we get weak, when we go to the word of God, it says the joy of the Lord is our strength. How do we get through those tough times? By having joy, not happiness, because happiness goes, happiness goes up and happiness goes down. But when you have joy, man, when you have joy in your life, man, you, even through the tough times, you can still laugh, you can still smile. You know why? Because you know God got you. Amen, you better get me, but you better get me on on him. Uh-oh, I got him.
Speaker 3:And then it's so true, People think joint happiness is the same. As Pastor Barr spoke when she when she was here, she said joint happiness is not the same. Happiness comes and go, but when you have joy, it remains the same.
Speaker 2:Remains the same.
Speaker 3:And I was like, wow, I wrote that down. That was so profound to me because I always thought, if I was joyous, I was happy. I'm happy, I was joyous. But I come to find out that they have totally two different um belongings when you, especially when you're a child of God.
Speaker 2:I know my boy, Kurt. You wrote this song. I just want to be happy, but happiness is nowhere in the Bible. You can't find it. You can't find happy in the Bible.
Speaker 3:Is this true?
Speaker 2:You can't find it. I just want to be joyful, that's all I want. I just want to be joyful. I know that probably didn't rhyme with what he wanted to, you know. So you know, happiness and joy. I mean, I want to be happy too, but I want to have joy, that unspeakable joy. You know, I think that's a song, ain't it? Yeah, man, all right, don't get me started now, all right.
Speaker 2:So number one is humor helps you fight less. We've said that humor promotes playfulness. Number three humor helps you get through tough times. We've been talking about that. Humor helps you getting through tough times, and we've heard this saying, and people who are watching heard this saying if I don't laugh, I'll cry. Man, we don't heard it. We don't heard it. Like grandma said, our mama said we don't say it man, if I don't laugh, I'll cry, you know. Or you look at something you just like, man, just yeah, this thing I like to do is just laugh at it. These people talking about they want $30,000 or something. You know, they want this and they want that. Or the car costs this and the car costs that. You know, man, just you know what.
Speaker 3:I had a moment today.
Speaker 2:You almost cried, baby.
Speaker 3:I had to laugh instead of cry. The staff was looking at me like, are you okay? I was like no, I'm not. You know what, if I don't laugh about this, I'm gonna cry. So I had that moment today, which is so true, and it can come in so many different aspects of life and relationships. You know there's something like that. I'm like. You know it's been four years Saturday.
Speaker 2:Four years.
Speaker 3:Since my grandmother's funeral. And I'm in that lady like yesterday, but it's so many nuggets that she dropped in me that I hold to so strongly as I journey through this life, and she, everything that she has said to me has definitely hit the nail on the head.
Speaker 2:One of her sayings Hit the nail on the head.
Speaker 3:So, and one thing she always taught us is that you know you have to be in charge of your own happiness. You have to be in charge of your own joy, and if you're going to share your life with someone, you can't let them bring in a point where they're tearing that away from you. There's this song that says this joy that I have, the world didn't give it to me.
Speaker 2:Well, you're going to old school. I love to go old school.
Speaker 3:You can't allow people to take your joy, those tears that you've cried, those nights you've been down on your knees, those nights that you poured your heart out to the Lord, those nights where you bought, where he gave you joy and no one deserved to take that away from you. So if someone can't bring you joy and y'all can build it together then you might want to go back to the altar on that one.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and that comes with, like we said earlier, that dating and all that kind of stuff. You find out. That's why you can't rush into it or whatever, so you can find out about them. They're giving you stress in the beginning, they're going to give you stress in the end.
Speaker 3:So you know. You know God changes things, but people got to want to be changed.
Speaker 2:They got to be wanted. They got to want to be changed. They got to want to be changed. And Nikki said, like she couldn't believe, that we played, you know, for two hours too. What was Nikki doing? What she was cheating about.
Speaker 3:Nikki was hiding the cards underneath her thigh. Nat was high. Nat was kept going to the bathroom. She also had on a hat.
Speaker 2:Yes, she did. Nat had on a hat.
Speaker 3:And so and she was kept going to the bathroom and I was like why she kept going to the bathroom. She was in the get rid of the cards. She had his cards underneath his hat and I had my cards. Somebody was throwing them. Now Nikki was throwing them on the floor underneath the table. It was just it was, it was fun. We couldn't understand why that game was an ending.
Speaker 2:I mean that game was going too out. We were trying to.
Speaker 3:I mean we were cheating, so I could end, but it would never end.
Speaker 2:It would never end.
Speaker 3:Nothing but the Holy Spirit was like okay, y'all want to cheat. We were like the children in Israel, going around Going around and around.
Speaker 2:Yeah, but you know so they can say she was hiding under her thickness. Oh Jesus, that girl, that crazy.
Speaker 3:See, as you can see, you see how they're bringing things back. So you know, in a relationship, in a marriage, in a family, it's so important to laugh. It's not going to always be smooth sailing. It's just not this, because we're humans and it's life, and we have different opinions and we grow up and we mature in some areas and we you know and don't in others, and it's just a life.
Speaker 2:Oh, just have some applause on that, but just.
Speaker 3:But when you can sit, really sit back and go down memory lane and laugh about the things that you've experienced with your significant other, with your family, that also brings joy. You know less me know like you know so you guys is really listening, you're really paying attention. Well, we really heard you and you know so I think it's important I have to really take my head off to the human is very, very important. It's so. It just covers so many other areas in relationships.
Speaker 2:You know. It also teaches the kids that I'm pretty sure they especially know about now that we didn't have it all together, you know, and that you know money was tight or whatever, and it wasn't like we was a huckstables or we were like we had all of this money but to have fun times. You know what I mean. That that's that brings. You know that our parents can sit down and even though we may not have all we may not have, we sit down, we're going to have a good time, we're going to have some fun. And that's what I'm saying, that humor. It breaks the monotony that it takes the pressure off off, whatever it is at that time.
Speaker 3:Yeah.
Speaker 2:And so that's why it's good to you know it helps you through tough times. It really does. It helps you through tough times. So finding a positive in a situation, on even just the funny side of it, can help you maintain a more uplifting perspective, instead of getting bogged down by the negative, you know, and so what I've come to learn and hope that people learn from my preaching and my teaching and just my baby living life is that to take whatever negative you have and look at the positive. What is God trying to teach me out? If something negative happened, what is God teaching me out? It is, or what did I put myself to? What can I learn to not put myself in? I believe this is what the Holy Spirit is speaking. I believe that every situation is a battery.
Speaker 3:Is a battery Is a battery.
Speaker 2:Every circumstance is a battery.
Speaker 3:What do you mean?
Speaker 2:It has a positive and negative.
Speaker 3:Ah, I like that.
Speaker 2:Every, every, every, every person is a battery. They have a positive and a negative. It is no perfect person. What you said, we know is no perfect person, but nobody but Jesus is perfect. So everybody is a battery. That's a positive and a negative, you know, and that's why two positives, they can't come together, two negatives, they can't come together. You gotta have a positive and negative for the interaction.
Speaker 3:So that's the saying. This is opposite to track.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I would say a little bit of that. You just turn the battery around Positive, negative over here, you get a charge, you get a charge. So we have to look at circumstances like that. But it's the positive and what is the negative. What am I learning from this situation?
Speaker 3:And what am I choosing? Am I gonna be positive about it or am I gonna be negative about it? So you have to determine your standard, what you're willing to accept. Yeah, right, and what you're not gonna tolerate. And that's important because sometimes women, we say, oh, you know what, that's fine, he'll change, you know or no, that's okay, I don't have to worry about it Over time, over time and then over time it's still the same from it was day one when you didn't address it at that time. So I think that's also important.
Speaker 2:Yeah, you know, we talked about it last season. How we got to address, you know, address our head on Can't wait. We got to address it. You got to get us part of communication. Humor is part of communication.
Speaker 3:I just I mean every aspect, it covers every.
Speaker 2:Humor is part of communication. Laughing when I can laugh and you can laugh Look at that big old smile, beautiful smile when I can laugh, that's we're communicating. You know, we could be in church, we could be anywhere, right, and we and we we're communicating, we laughing and it's like we know what we laughing about, you know. And then we can say did you see that? Oh, I was seeing something else, but we were laughing, you know. And so laughing is good, it helps again, it helps you get through tough times, man, and I would say again, we've had some tough times, we've had some tough times, but thank God for humor, you know, thank God for that.
Speaker 2:You know, when we didn't know what to do, when we didn't, the finances was messed up or whatever, like that. You know, this bill, do that bill, do man. It's still humor, you know. And again we had to learn that. So now I think it's for us, for our kids, you know, like Jordan and Malika say, it's a humorous house, you know. And I think when that and Nikki they getting married, they learned, hey, we got to have humor in it, we got to laugh about it. You know, it makes no sense. We keep arguing, you know. No, we ain't gonna argue about it, we just gonna laugh about it because, like we said earlier, there's something you know is something about your mate that will make you laugh. Not that you're picking at them, but that's the thing you thought I was thinking about. You know, I think about you and your pink gown and I start laughing.
Speaker 3:You hit, it didn't you.
Speaker 2:No, I didn't hide it, baby. I didn't hide your pink gown.
Speaker 3:Well, the last time you said you did not find it.
Speaker 2:you're right, I'm telling you man, I don't have your pink gown. You know I don't have it. You know, Moving right along, you know, just like we not have my, you know my night shirts that have a hole in it, and you just come and start tearing it.
Speaker 3:Because it's got a hole in it. My pink gown did not have a hole in it.
Speaker 2:My shirts are comfortable. You know that I can lay out. You know, in my home with shirts, go ahead what you get to say.
Speaker 3:You don't want me walking around the house with no holes in my clothes, of course not, but it's OK for you. Yeah, you know, because it's like.
Speaker 2:I don't walk around and just go to bed in it.
Speaker 3:You mean my pink gown.
Speaker 2:I'm telling you, I don't have your pink gown Moving right along, all right, all right. So, yeah, so, so, so, yeah. So we got to find the positive in the situation. We got to find that positive Look, look, look, look, there we go, nikki. I see you, nikki, that pink gown. Lol, I see you See. See, everybody know about that pink gown.
Speaker 3:He hit it. Let me tell you something. I have been looking and looking and looking. I'm like Erica, have you seen my pink gown? No, baby, I ain't seen your pink gown much fast Years, fast. I said, I know, I know I had it in this house. So I go to put up his laundry. Because he don't put it up, I put it on the bed, he wouldn't put it up. So I go to put in his laundry and guess what? I found my pink gown. And now it's just gone. Just gone, wow, it's OK, I'm going to find another one I remember to get one in my old house.
Speaker 3:Go to the market with his snap buttons up the front.
Speaker 2:And I can get one of them.
Speaker 3:I don't do that, and I saw they sell them at the lot of him all.
Speaker 2:Oh Jesus, get me one of them. Oh Lord, please don't do that. You don't do that, I'll buy you another pink gown, oh man. So there will be times, but, yes, you're going to have times where crying is completely justified. There are going to be times where, man, you get seriously.
Speaker 2:But sometimes you have to, you know, think about how long you're going to cry, how long. You know, the Bible says that we got to give everything to God, and so we are human, and that's it. We are human. When something bad happens, we, you know, we think about it. We act sometimes. That's just the way we do.
Speaker 2:You know, when a close family member passes away, you know, it's not that we got to be joyous, that's not. We're saying that you're going to cry, you're going to grieve, but how long are you going to do it? It's, you know, it's up to you. How long are you going to be in the situation? How long are you going to accept the situation? It's up to you. But I would say, lord, I got to give it to you, you know, I got to give this situation. I got to give you know whatever I'm going through, I got to give it to you and not take it up and once you be able to give it to God with a bad situation, you'll be able to smile a little bit more. You know, nobody wants to be around a person that's not smiling Right.
Speaker 3:Well a person that's always sad or always not.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, you know what. What, what they say, birds will feather, flock together, right. So sooner or later, you're going to start acting sad. You're going to say you'd be like man, what's going on with me? You know, people would be like people who's not. They'd be like what's going on with you, I don't know. You know you figure out that you've been hanging around. This person is always sad, you know. And some people, certain people, call you. We're like I ain't talking to this person because they always negative, you know. So you never want to talk to them. All right, so, all right. So number one, let's go back in. Number one is humor helps you fight less. We said that. Number two humor promotes playfulness, and you know it promotes playfulness. You know, sometimes we remember we said the pillow fight.
Speaker 3:Remember we used to have the water gun water gun, water gun fight.
Speaker 2:I'd never forget that. Tony was up, man. We was in Quantico, we was what. We had the water gun fight in the house and Tony was upstairs and he was going at it. He was going at it, man, I'm telling you. I never forget that. So humor promotes playfulness, humor helps you get through tough times. And the last one, humor strengthens your bond.
Speaker 3:I think so.
Speaker 2:Humor strengthens your bond. There's something about a good inside joke that makes you feel close and connected. You know, because if I okay, here's the inside joke If I say the number two and number three pencil See, that's an inside joke we could be anywhere. Right, we're talking about number two or three. We know what it is. Right, we never know what it is. But that's our inside joke. We never tell we go, we'll go to our grave, you know. With that, you know we've been. We've been cracking up on what's the movie. We've been cracking up on A Leo's movie.
Speaker 2:Romeo must have Romeo must have he would he just called the boy meatball, did he roll? He just he just rolled off and it reminded us of another joke, right, you know rubber duck. So you know it's the inside jokes that nobody don't know about. But you know, if, if you run, you see a boy, a meatball, you know nobody won't even know what we're talking about, but that's, it's an inside joke. So it's good to have an inside joke that only you and your spouse know about.
Speaker 2:You got another inside joke? No, yeah, but that that was a, so about to start off. Yeah, those are some of us that start off, I don't have any.
Speaker 3:but again, you know it's important.
Speaker 4:It's important.
Speaker 3:If you've got to have, you got to have that time together where you can relax and chill. Relax and just laugh and talk about stuff. And you know I'm a people watcher, so I'll be watching people and I'll give Eric the look like he'd be like.
Speaker 2:I'm going to tell you. I'm going to tell you now, it doesn't happen in our church, but some of the funniest things that you can think of is inside the church. Absolutely, boy, I tell you some of the funniest things, you but you go to church and you can laugh that whole two or three hours that you're there.
Speaker 3:Especially, you sit behind the old people.
Speaker 2:Oh Jesus, they be talking trash, they be talking trash.
Speaker 3:They be talking about everybody, they be talking trash. Jesus, sit down, look at this, look at this, she ain't got no girdle. I mean, they used to be talking and I used to be right there listening. You know they meant well.
Speaker 2:I remember this one time there's one pastor we had at Bohokimad. They used to tell him say, you know, you need to stop spitting so much, right, stop spitting so much, you know? They just told him it's not spitting so much. And one time he, you know, preaching, preaching on and I don't know what happened with the mic, but he, he, he spit, and then he touched the mic with his, he touched the lips with his mic and he got a shock. He brought them jokers cracked up. My dad was cracking up, the Deacons was cracking up.
Speaker 2:Man it was, it was cracking up man, I tell you, I mean, I just think about some good times, some funny times, you know, especially my God dad. He would be over there, knocked out sleep, knocked out sleep. I'm talking about Sunday morning and especially at the night services. Oh, he knocked out sleep, you know, and he'll. But he'll wake up and say, hey man, you know, and one time he woke up and I don't forget the preacher was saying something negative and he was talking about hey man, everybody's looked at him and just start laughing. Even the, even the preacher started laughing.
Speaker 2:So yeah, some of the funnest things you can have, some humor you can have, is inside the church, man, you can have that. So, so this, when you, you must strengthen your bond. This type of weakness is a crucial for maintaining a healthy level of closeness in your relationship, especially during the seasons of life when you have less free time to spend with each other. So it's like a weakness is all about us. Yeah, yeah, yeah. So when it, when it comes down to it, there's a lot of relationship skills that that can help you have a strong, happy marriage, and this is one of them.
Speaker 3:I agree with that.
Speaker 2:This if you want to have a strong, healthy marriage. You got to laugh so, so I guess that could be one thing. A lot of times we, you know they come to us and say, well, why, why, marriage? You know how you laugh so long. I can say now that we laugh.
Speaker 3:We do.
Speaker 2:Yeah, we laugh. That's how we, we got over these years, you know, we learned to laugh at each other, laugh at inside jokes, laugh with our kids, laugh sometimes with our kids, but they laugh at us, you know. So you just have to have, like Jordan said, a house full of laughter. You know, you got to have, you got to have that. So that's how your marriage can last long. So, to to to anybody who's listening and who's watching, if you want your marriage to last long, you got to have humor. You know, if you're going to get into a marriage, you got to have humor. You can't, you can't be serious. So that is a relationship skill that you must have, all right. So that was the four things, man. That was the four things about laughing. We laughed a little bit tonight, all right, all right. So this is what I want to do. I want people to call in. I want people to call in, all right.
Speaker 2:And then I want to ask this question when was the last time you and your spouse, or when the last time you had a good laugh? Hey, share us, share with us. When the last time you had a good laugh, and can you tell what is what it's about. I'm getting ready to open up the phone lines here and you'll be able to call in and I'm going to stop this music here because it's going to have some music here, stop whole music and then you could you go. You'll be able to call in 754-222-2219-754-222-2219. You can dial. You can dial that in and you will call and come and talk to us tonight and tell us about a good laugh. Tell us about a good laugh that you and your spouse or you just had by yourself. You just thought of a thing. You just had a good laugh and remember you could tell us what it's about. Can you tell me when the last time you had a good laugh?
Speaker 3:I know it was recently. We was riding in the car going somewhere and I can't remember what we were talking about, but we both laughed so hard and it was just recently, like maybe a few days ago.
Speaker 2:I can't remember when that was.
Speaker 3:It was it? Maybe it was. Yeah, it was yesterday, Yesterday, On Play Home from church.
Speaker 2:What we laughed about yesterday.
Speaker 3:I can't remember what we laughed about, but it was so funny.
Speaker 2:So funny.
Speaker 3:I can't remember saying to you one time you know, babe, if I was these homeless people and I'm hungry, I would go to the drive through.
Speaker 4:Oh yeah.
Speaker 3:And people would say can I get a new one? You precise it please? I remember that you was like you're stupid. I was like because it kind of makes sense why you can stand on the street with a sign. All you got to do is sit in the drive through. You can eat all day like that.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, yes, yeah, I mean yeah, you think about it. Just sit right there at the drop Right breakfast, lunch and dinner. Sit right there when the person can pull up there and they say, yeah, can I get some coffee? Say, yeah, can I get something too? You know it, that's it, you know.
Speaker 3:That was hilarious and I think.
Speaker 2:I said it when a year ago, yeah, you said that it's still funny. You know, man, I'm telling you, man, humor is you got to have a good laugh. You about to cry, right?
Speaker 3:now, that was hilarious. It just kind of just came to me. I was like whoa, here's something to think about.
Speaker 2:I would tell you, this is something I like about you your jokes, or, you know, your humor just rolls right off it just comes out of nowhere.
Speaker 3:But the kids are the same way.
Speaker 2:Yeah, your humor just rolls right off, man. I'd be like, where did that come from? You know, you know. So, yeah, that's something I really really like about you. I really love Come on, y'all, call in 754-222-2219. And you can call on in and tell us, you know, when the last time you had a good laugh I know Jordan and Malika Nikki, you know we got some more people that's on the line that can join us and just tell us about a good laugh that you may have, you know.
Speaker 3:Or you can type it in the comments.
Speaker 2:Yeah, you can type it in. If you don't want to call in, you can type it in the comments as well. I'm trying to think of. You know, again we'd be watching, especially some crazy stuff, you know, on TV. We just that makes a laugh a little bit. We're like man, why in the world did they do that? You know, it's just so funny and so you know. But again, I repeat, we've had some tough times, you know, and we look back on it. You know, we just we can laugh about it now, but going through it, man, we were crying about it, you know.
Speaker 3:Yeah.
Speaker 2:So, thank God, thank God for humor, thank God for laughter, thank God for it. Man, I'm telling you All right, so all right, we're not getting any of the call in tonight. That's good, you know. We, just we. I think you know we just got to get back into it. You know, yeah, once we get back into it, I mean people be, you know they get, oh yeah, it's marriage in real life. Tonight I got to be there, marriage in real life, you know. So, yeah, so we think we, I just think, for all of my kids who are watching with us Nat from Chicago, jordan, malika and Nikki, and, I know, my grandbaby Any time. I know it ain't her bedtime yet Now. Juicy makes you laugh.
Speaker 3:Yeah, she's very funny yeah.
Speaker 2:Juicy makes you laugh. Yeah, she, she is. You know, she do, she just do some crazy stuff, it's being recorded. All right, we got, we got a. We got a call in, we got Jordan, jordan Richards, can you hear us, jordan?
Speaker 4:I'm juicing about you.
Speaker 2:Hello, yeah, make sure you turn down your your radio. Um, but yeah, go ahead.
Speaker 4:Okay, well, first of all, hi, thank you for having me, Thanks for coming. I don't know, me and Malika. We were trying to figure out, uh, what, what it was, and it's just really like I'll. I'll be honest, it's just kind of hard for me to like really pinpoint down something really funny to happen recently, cause there's just always something, something silly going on around here. You know what I mean.
Speaker 2:Especially with the baby. You know, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 4:Especially with a my. You know, she's always doing something like. Like recently, what she's doing is, um, if Malika has her in the carrier and I'm just standing in front of her, and this happened like maybe 20 minutes ago, she grabbed me shirt, brought my shirt down and she grabbed my necklace and had the cross on it, brought me down to her level and then tried to grab my headband on top and then, like you know, so now we got a six month old chain snatcher in our house. Oh Lord, yeah, so that's something funny. And then, you know, we'll just talk about just random stuff all the time, like I'll come at her with a random business idea and make her laugh, and then she'll just have some commentary and she'll make me laugh. So that's good, that's good. There's always something going on here.
Speaker 2:That's good. All right, yes, that's good. So, yeah, we give you and Malika applause for having a humorous, humorous, humorous marriage. That's good. I'm glad, ben, all right. Well, thank you for calling son.
Speaker 4:Oh, yeah, of course, all right, all right.
Speaker 2:All right, all right, god bless, bye, bye, all right, all right, that's cool. Join, call in, all right? Well, it's almost time for us to get out. Get on the giddy on to the giddy on, babe. Tonight was fun, it was humorous, and I know we're going to probably leave here tonight and just crack up about something we always do.
Speaker 3:We always do so you know, there's just one thing that happened with the career in.
Speaker 2:Oh Lord, I know the kids going to, I know the oh, you got to tell the story. You got to tell that one, yeah.
Speaker 3:So the air condition would kept being turned off in our hotel room. So Eric decided he was going to go to the owner and say listen, don't be turning the AC off, with me and my family coming. It's hot outside and we come in and condition off. Oh, you gonna give me my money back. And I looked at the air like this man's getting ready to chop. I was thinking to myself, oh, we're going to have to pull together and beat up this man. He probably no kung fu karate.
Speaker 2:All that stuff.
Speaker 3:That was funny.
Speaker 2:That was funny. That was a funny time. Yeah yeah, that was a fun time. That man said no money back. You know, they really had the air conditioning on.
Speaker 3:Yes, he did.
Speaker 2:I'm playing about coming back in that in that heat, no, sir, all right, so All right. Thanks, jordan for calling in, and you know so. We want to thank everybody for joining us tonight. You can always watch us on YouTube right here, real life TV one, or listen to us at your favorite podcast station, whatever it is. We are there. Apple podcast, we're there. Google I, spotify. I heart radio. As a matter of fact, I heart radio is our number one station.
Speaker 3:Wow, didn't know that?
Speaker 2:Yeah, I, heart radio is our number one station. Yeah, you know, and I think I told you I'm going to give applause for that. I think I told you we got people. We're in the seventh continent. Is we're in five?
Speaker 3:Yeah, no you did not tell me that.
Speaker 4:Yeah, we're in five.
Speaker 2:The only one we don't have is what South Pole Somebody's listening in Australia. They listen, europe, they listen, and they don't live in South America. They listen Asia too. Yeah, so hey, so, hey, that's, that's great, yeah.
Speaker 3:You're going to be so proud.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, juice, why would you to be so?
Speaker 3:proud. She followed us. She makes sure you know I be like how many views we got. She be letting me know, no.
Speaker 2:I think I'm going to let Juice start being our statistician, you know let her check it out, let her check it out. Yeah, I think she'll like that.
Speaker 3:We got to keep her off the internet All right she like jobs, and when she get a job she do it well.
Speaker 2:Yeah, she did.
Speaker 3:Anyway, congratulations, juice. You did an awesome job on your announcements on the news. I even let my friends at Rourke watching. They was like look at Juice. She did so good yes.
Speaker 2:So proud of my Lomphedon, I'm so proud, I'm proud, I'm proud of Juice. She did a very, very good, very good job. All right, so, yeah, so our next podcast is October 2nd, because why the retreat yeah? That's the Monday before the marriage retreat. You know why it's October 2nd? Because we're going to be celebrating the birthday next week. Yeah, it's the birthday. Yeah, yeah, we're going to be celebrating the birthday next week. Right, you know, happy birthday. This has been your month, you know, to celebrate your birthday. Be quiet.
Speaker 3:This weekend went so celebratory. No, this weekend Kamino is going to be.
Speaker 2:All right. So you better get that rest. You better get that rest. Oh, juice, all right, juice, thank you. Yeah, we love Juice, we love the Juice. So, yeah, this is your birthday month, you know. So, september 25th, yeah, the same day as Yonka Pour, but we're not going to let Yonka Pour overshadow that day. That, the Lord Marvelous day.
Speaker 3:Oh Jesus, that wonderful day.
Speaker 2:Uh-huh, that what.
Speaker 3:Heaven delivered me from above. Well, thank God they heaven.
Speaker 2:I drank some water today.
Speaker 3:Yeah.
Speaker 2:So so the next week we'll be celebrating Lady P Boss, lady P All right birthday. So we thank, we thank you again for all the people who was watching man. It was good. Yeah, this is, this is, this was good. So we're getting back into it and once we, once we get it, it's going to be. You know, we got some more topics that we have to.
Speaker 3:We got some hot topics coming up, so you definitely have to tune in, I mean, on those just different things, on different perspectives.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 3:And we'll even be interviewing, hopefully, people in studio.
Speaker 2:Yeah, hopefully we get some people in studio.
Speaker 3:But that you know some married couples that want to come and share. You know their take on whatever video we decide to pull.
Speaker 2:You know one thing too. I talked to Ferg today and I think I had done I wanted, I want to do I to dev do us part, that dev do us part. We're going to do that at the marriage tree. But I also want to do it.
Speaker 2:I think it when I talk to pastor bar, to Awesome yeah yeah, we can interview pastor bar, because she'll be coming from a ministry standpoint. I mean, all for losing a husband and taking over. Oh yeah, oh, take it. Oh, take it All right, all right, all right. So well, we're going to wish y'all a good night, god bless. Make sure you comment, make sure you like, please, make sure you like this video, make sure you comment and make sure you just go to your different podcast and give us a review, put it down there, give us a five star review, God bless. You See you later.
Speaker 3:God bless. Bye, see you in two weeks for our next episode.